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Not into what my partner is, how do I deal with this?


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Alpalmson

Going to play devil's advocate, it is what I do-- LOL.  First you said you "agreed" on a certain framework for the first 2 years.  Was there a specific agreement between both of you for that set amount of time or was it more of an understanding you both have continued over the past 2 years?  If it is the former, maybe he thinks that for the past 2 years, he's been playing by your rules and now after that has run its course, he wants to explore more dynamics.

Second is this new fetish of his something he wants on a permanent basis like being your sub/slave/sissy boy, or is this just a phase or experience he just wants to do along with other stuff.  If this is just something he wants to try for giggles, I don't think it is unreasonable.  Sometimes the best experiences are when you are "***d" out of your comfort zone.  Who knows, you might enjoy it.

You should be communicating with him about this.  Maybe there are somethings you all can compromise on.  I think he probably wants the thrill of you helping become all girly- girl.  Now, he shouldn't be taking your clothing and all that.  He needs to respect those boundaries, but if he wants to get his only bras, panties, girl clothing, etc; there is nothing wrong with that.  If wants to call you Mistress or whatever, there is no need to call him sub or slave.  I can sympathize with you on that though.  My girl sometimes calls me "daddy" and we've talked about that.

Bottom line is you both need to share what likes/dislikes you have.  If you are truly a serious couple and just not fuck buddies, counseling may help.  If it is too intolerable, maybe a break or cooling off period is warranted, but neither of you should be put in the position of being the "bad guy" for it if things go wrong.  You simply have become incompatible and or need more maturing.

  9 hours ago, Alpalmson said:

You should be communicating with him about this.

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She's told him  no repeatedly.

I'm not sure what further communication is required

sillysub

I would say take the passive approach. Put his dick in a cage and hide the key. If he finds it more on him if not then you can say "well you wanted me to dominate you". Or put your foot down and say no this is not okay. If you really valued our relationship you need to stop asking me to be your Domme and need to quit stealing my stuff. If he keeps doing it, then leave hi. 

  • 1 month later...
He****
If the relationship is worth the detour ( for better or worse, ride or die, etc.)
Then maybe find out if it's an experimental phase, something he's always wanted but suppressed, just a once in a while kind of game or an all the time dynamic shift in your relationship. Then decide from there where the 2 of you need to be.
Spending time in a relationship that's going in two different directions is toxic to both of you. But finding a mutually beneficial compromise over a topic as personal as this can forge a strength to your relationship that few in this world can be lucky enough to experience.
  • 4 weeks later...
You know women were reluctant to k>ck my balls and had no interest. Just kind of confused. Though talking with them about it. Explaining is from view and them listening thing to understand agreed to try it out. Everyone said "I didn't think I was going to like this but it was really fun" you should consider trying new things despite your "0 desire" you might not know you desire it because you've never done it and may find you actually find some enjoyment in it you would never have known about otherwise. Not saying dive in head first but slowly ease in dip a toe and do small things. You should both always be comfortable so lite things here and there doing a bit more when you're comfort gets used to the water get your ankles wet. Much like slow walking into a pool as incremental adjusting to your comfort.
Also let him know you also have wants and needs on the other end. As a natural sub you desire to be submissive as well and feel neglected in his desire to explore his submissive desires.
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