Pleasure Dom - discovering terms

April 8

How the f**k did I not know this term until recently? It's basically a perfect description of me going back 20 years now.

What are some kinky terms you just learned?

April 8

I know that most of the people contacting me do not know the difference between sub and slave.

April 8

I guess if it helps, 'Pleasure Dom' only really been used widely in the last few years.

April 8

The bdsm is a very large community. The are all kinds of terms and kinks to discover. It's always growing as well. Always a good thing to research and explore safely.

April 9

Been in this life over 40 years my Mistress taught me my skills and said use them on select women. I guess that's what I have done but only the last 4 -5 years have I heard this term

April 9

9 hours ago, TylarasMistress said:

I know that most of the people contacting me do not know the difference between sub and slave.
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What's the difference?

April 9

CFNM - Clothed fem naked male. The concept was familiar of course as Domme tends to have more clothes on than the naked or skimpy dressed sub but didn't know someone had coined an acronym like that.

April 9

13 hours ago, south-bend-mish said:

What's the difference?

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Slave is ownership/property/etc. In the most formal of arrangements there might even be a contract with specific rules. Sometimes presented as a 24x7 lifestyle / power exchange relationship.

Sub is submissive. Will follow instructions, etc, but tends to be more of an ongoing negotiation and less formal. A dom dominates. A sub is submissive. Bratty subs are alao thing and may require putting in their place.

April 10

10 hours ago, KiraSecura said:

CFNM - Clothed fem naked male. The concept was familiar of course as Domme tends to have more clothes on than the naked or skimpy dressed sub but didn't know someone had coined an acronym like that.

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Oh, there is a whole genre of adult videos dedicated to CFNM

April 10

I've used and seen the term Sensual Dom. It tends to mean a dom who enjoys providing pleasure to his/her sub but still from a position of control. I'm a natural switch-- more dom than sub. I approach my dom side as a sensual dom. When I'm exploring my sub side, I'm definitely the brat who wants to be put in my place.

April 10

14 hours ago, KiraSecura said:

CFNM - Clothed fem naked male. The concept was familiar of course as Domme tends to have more clothes on than the naked or skimpy dressed sub but didn't know someone had coined an acronym like that.

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CFNM is an interesting one that it can mean different things to different elements of the community.

In the sense that - in fetish, it's usually for some form of power exchange and often tied with powerplay, role affirmation and sometimes ***

But on the more sex side, it is often around women clothed who are doing hand or blow jobs on a naked male and it's around sexual gratification rather than *** or Domination