Femdom Punishments /Favorite male sub punishments and tasks

June 11, 2020

Looking for new ideas for my sub. What are your favorites femdom punishments? Tasks? Treats? Etc.

June 11, 2020

If it were me (though you and your sub may have completely different tastes) I would want femdom punishments as a delay to forms of worship or acts of submission as the treat. I say this since I personally strongly dislike some of the acts of *** favoured by other subs for femdom punishments such as toilet play, cuckolding, feminisation, *** play, financial domination, public ***, etc. - those just aren't for me but may be for you two.

So, with "gentle femdom" punishments could be made to do housework instead of spending time with the domme. Or, a prolonged period of edging or perhaps even chastity practised safely. Or, maybe instead of chastity, hands cuffed behind the back so no touching. Maybe light verbal *** could be involved - reminding the sub who's beta and who's alpha - or, the sub has to move around the house on all fours.

These would be femdom punishments for acts of defiance where the sub tests the domme's strength to her request for services (see below). In such situations, she could maybe have the power / consent to physically restrain the sub, e.g. with a cattleprod, or a lassoo, or some such that you've agreed with the sub beforehand.

The rewards would be after extensive service to the domme such as chores, massages, going shopping with her, body worship, foot worship and after prolonged periods of tease and denial. These would be more intimate kinds of service to the domme like kissing, performing cunnilingus, giving a "show" to the domme such as stripping and masturbating for her on the ground beneath where she's sitting.

Then, the ultimate rewards would be acts of pure submission like oral on the domme's dildo, double dildo pegging (so she can feel stimulation herself), face sitting through a spider or o-ring gag (in a situation where the sub has agreed to have his mouth pried open) or riding a physically restrained sub who's agreed to take viagra.

edit: Oh and I forgot to mention corporal femdom punishments like spankings, canings and light beatings (ones that don't break any bones) and soft kicks or punches to the genitalia (personally I'd never have my penis slapped down when erect but some subs seem to not be bothered). I say these lastly but they may be enjoyable for your sub and therefore more of a reward than a femdom punishment.

June 11, 2020

4 hours ago, emdom said:

Looking for new ideas for my sub. What are your favorites punishments? Tasks? Treats? Etc.

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Hi! So @BlushingFlush gave some pretty good overall ones. Do you have any more specifics about what your sub likes or doesn’t like to maybe give a little more individualized advice? Or your style of being a Domme? Is it more of a dominance dynamic or a control dynamic?

June 11, 2020

So we’re somewhat beginners but not super beginners. Daily tasks already income him wearing panties (I pick out his clothes), he’s in a cock cage from about 7-noon then I let him take a break, he does all the house chores such as laundry, and dishes, he takes care of the kids mostly. If he cums when he’s not suppose to, I make him eat some of the cum (which he hates) or he gets his penis slightly whipped with a small rubber flogger as femdom punishments.

June 12, 2020

On 6/11/2020 at 9:45 PM, emdom said:

So we’re somewhat beginners but not super beginners. Daily tasks already income him wearing panties (I pick out his clothes), he’s in a cock cage from about 7-noon then I let him take a break, he does all the house chores such as laundry, and dishes, he takes care of the kids mostly. If he cums when he’s not suppose to, I make him eat some of the cum (which he hates), or he gets his penis slightly whipped with a small rubber flogger.

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A couple possible options for femdom punishments, especially if he comes without permission, might be a ruined orgasm or watching you orgasm without being able to assist. Both of these can be adapted in various ways with different types of bondage, where he is positioned, etc. If he’s okay with the rubber flogger, you might want to look into other types of CBT. I really like post orgasm ***. A chastity orgasm/locked orgasm might also be fun. Where all of these fall on the punishment/reward spectrum is obviously going to depend on both your preferences.

One fun “task” that I like with my sub is dictating how he’s allowed to play throughout the day. He is always horny and loves stroking so, for example, I might allow him to play if he gets horny but he’s only allowed to touch his nipples (or massage his balls or use one single finger, etc). Usually anything that doesn’t allow him to actually stroke. This keeps him on edge and frustrated until I’m ready to play. (Note: I’m not sure how well this one would work with kids around.)

For treats, you might give him a choice on something if he’s done especially well for the week. Either completely open or allowing him to choose between some options. It could be as simple as choosing what toy he wants to use that day. However, you don’t necessarily have to make both options “nice.” It could be something like, he could come today but then he’d have X number of days following he’s not allowed to come.

I feel like I’m not necessarily answering the question correctly, but hopefully something I wrote was helpful! 😂

Jinx

June 12, 2020

On 6/11/2020 at 3:54 PM, emdom said:

Looking for new ideas for my sub. What are your favorite femdom punishments? Tasks? Treats? Etc.

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Dress him as a maid and give him chores. If he fails to complete fuck his ass with a strapon. Great femdom punishment.

June 12, 2020

On 6/12/2020 at 2:00 AM, Johanna-6767 said:

Dress him as a maid and give him chores. If he fails to complete fuck his ass with a strapon.

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problem is these aren't femdom punishments in this case lol

June 12, 2020

@Jinxy is restricting him to playing with his nipples really a punishment? I've always preferred it to playing down below

June 12, 2020

Remember what is femdom punishment to one is reward to another.

Tasks should be something useful. "Wash the dishes" is a task. As is "Go to work wearing panties" - but, in the first instance you get a benefit (the dishes are done) do you get anything out of the second?

I think for ideas, what do you like? What would you find useful? what turns YOU on?

June 12, 2020

11 hours ago, Jinxy said:

A couple possible options for punishments, especially if he comes without permission, might be a ruined orgasm or watching you orgasm without being able to assist. Both of these can be adapted in various ways with different types of bondage, where he is positioned, etc. If he’s okay with the rubber flogger, you might want to look into other types of CBT. I really like post orgasm ***. A chastity orgasm/locked orgasm might also be fun. Where all of these fall on the punishment/reward spectrum is obviously going to depend on both your preferences.

One fun “task” that I like with my sub is dictating how he’s allowed to play throughout the day. He is always horny and loves stroking so, for example, I might allow him to play if he gets horny but he’s only allowed to touch his nipples (or massage his balls or use one single finger, etc). Usually anything that doesn’t allow him to actually stroke. This keeps him on edge and frustrated until I’m ready to play. (Note: I’m not sure how well this one would work with kids around.)

For treats, you might give him a choice on something if he’s done especially well for the week. Either completely open or allowing him to choose between some options. It could be as simple as choosing what toy he wants to use that day. However, you don’t necessarily have to make both options “nice.” It could be something like, he could come today but then he’d have X number of days following he’s not allowed to come.

I feel like I’m not necessarily answering the question correctly, but hopefully something I wrote was helpful! 😂

Jinx

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I like to do orgasm *** as well. I typically use the vibrator on his cage and sometimes let him cum. Or I get him to edge and then just stop, other times if he starts to orgasm I squeeze the base of his dick.

Great answers! Thanks for the suggestions

June 12, 2020

On 6/12/2020 at 7:31 AM, Kymi said:

@Jinxy is restricting him to playing with his nipples really a punishment? I've always preferred it to playing down below

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I personally have put clothes pins on my subs nipples, he hated it, it was one of the best femdom punishments!

June 12, 2020

On 6/12/2020 at 7:31 AM, Kymi said:

@Jinxy is restricting him to playing with his nipples really a punishment? I've always preferred it to playing down below

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I don’t consider it a femdom punishment. I consider it a fun directive and would maybe place it under task just because I find it useful and a turn on to know my sub is on edge all day. And yes, it’s frustrating for this particular person because he really hates not being able to just stroke.

June 12, 2020

4 hours ago, eyemblacksheep said:

Remember what is punishment to one is reward to another.

Tasks should be something useful. "Wash the dishes" is a task. As is "Go to work wearing panties" - but, in the first instance you get a benefit (the dishes are done) do you get anything out of the second?

I think for ideas, what do you like? What would you find useful? what turns YOU on?

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I don’t necessarily think tasks have to be “useful”? At least not in such a traditional sense of did something get done. Sometimes it can just be for the enjoyment it brings. In your example, would you consider the “Go to work wearing panties” something else? Because even if something “useful” didn’t get done, I would still consider it useful in the sense that it’s a chance for your partner to follow your directions and (presumably) bring you both a bit of excitement/enjoyment.

June 12, 2020

1 minute ago, Jinxy said:

“Go to work wearing panties” something else? Because even if something “useful” didn’t get done, I would still consider it useful in the sense that it’s a chance for your partner to follow your directions

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Yes. And that's fair, for sure.

I think, and this ties back in to the first post - what do you like, what do you enjoy, what do you need?

So, if it's someone who you are already in a relationship with - and you'd get enjoyment telling them to go to work in panties, or to sit down whenever they needed the toilet, or a bodywriting task, or whatever - then that's great. But, if it's only the sub getting enjoyment out of this task then it's more for their benefit than yours. I think this is where context becomes important.

June 12, 2020

20 minutes ago, eyemblacksheep said:

Yes. And that's fair, for sure.

I think, and this ties back in to the first post - what do you like, what do you enjoy, what do you need?

So, if it's someone who you are already in a relationship with - and you'd get enjoyment telling them to go to work in panties, or to sit down whenever they needed the toilet, or a bodywriting task, or whatever - then that's great. But, if it's only the sub getting enjoyment out of this task then it's more for their benefit than yours. I think this is where context becomes important.

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Thank you for the clarification! I just wanted to make sure my understanding was correct. I think that’s a good point, though. It should be something you enjoy/benefit from as well.

June 12, 2020

55 minutes ago, EmDomme said:

I personally have put clothes pins on my subs nipples, he hated it, it was great.

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he hated it, funny person lol, do it some more cue evil laugh

June 12, 2020

27 minutes ago, Jinxy said:

Thank you for the clarification! I just wanted to make sure my understanding was correct. I think that’s a good point, though. It should be something you enjoy/benefit from as well.

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I think it's often one of the challenges especially when someone is new to being a Dominant. Sub guys, for example, might chime with what they would enjoy - and that can be helpful, for sure - but I think it definitely has to be, what would the Dominant enjoy or benefit from.

Because otherwise it risks getting one-sided.

June 12, 2020

On 6/12/2020 at 2:12 PM, eyemblacksheep said:

I think it definitely has to be, what would the Dominant enjoy or benefit from.

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I've heard this reasoning before and definitely sympathetic to it but I think Dommes should at least listen to their subs as sometimes they may have fun or enjoyable ideas that they had not considered the possibility of (and vice versa). For femdom punishments an rewards!

June 12, 2020

On 6/12/2020 at 4:17 PM, BlushingFlush said:

I think Dommes should at least listen to their subs as sometimes they may have fun or enjoyable ideas that they had not considered the possibility of (and vice versa).

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I agree. That's true and it's something the two can communicate. A former Mistress wanted to do 2 weekly tasks, 50 weeks of the year, so needed 100 tasks. As well as her own ideas, she set a task to each sub to contribute 5-10 ideas. This could be in line with their fetishes, or ideas, or whatever. She could then pick from the ones she felt she would enjoy.

For assorted reasons, it wasn't mandatory for every sub to do every task. This is because she was giving the same task to multiple people regardless of their own interests, likes or abilities

And, likewise, this meant that the subs were contributing ideas to her and, in exchange, she was sharing ideas which meant that others were presented with a non-mandatory task they might never have previously considered.

When it's one on one - it gets a bit different because the idea is tasks shouldn't be repeatedly rejected or cherry picked. Your sub is always the best source of ideas for femdom punishment because they will pipe up with what interests them and you can then think "OK, that works for me" or a little "Hmm, but, that could be a reward"

June 12, 2020

@eyemblacksheepSounds very reasonable.

July 16, 2020

I am old school....in my likes for femdom punishment. relentless beating with a riding crop or cane....failing that ball *** or edging with him wearing a cock ring! Do not judge me!

August 11, 2020

make him shave bare? then wear a cock ring?

February 24

I love being stripped down naked by any gender Domme and then they bathe, dry, shave, lotion and or powder me and they take me to a couch,bed, armless chair and or ottoman and then I'm placed and positioned and then held firmly at the waist and I am going to get the spanking that I deserve and I was disciplined many times like that by my ex wife and by one ex boyfriend in 10th grade

February 24

I'm the only one allowed any type pleasure. If my subs don't like it, they are SOL. They want to serve me; they have to follow my rules or else they get kicked to the curb