Sub on Sub

[Iheartorgasms]

So my partner and I are both subs. Well at least I think I am but she KNOWS she is. Her idea of Dom is not what I normally do. And my idea of Dom is not what she is use to. SO what the hell do we do? I can be dominant but almost have to be provoked in some sort of way. But it doesnt flow out of me and same for her. If that makes sense. Any suggestions

[ey****]

Enjoy your relationship but not get too hung up on kink and Domination

There's obviously good in your relationship outside of that.  Build on it.

Consider if there are scenarios where you could be Dominated by someone outside of your relationships. 

[Iheartorgasms]

3 minutes ago, eyemblacksheep said:

Enjoy your relationship but not get too hung up on kink and Domination

There's obviously good in your relationship outside of that.  Build on it.

Consider if there are scenarios where you could be Dominated by someone outside of your relationships. 

We have considered. Tried a couple times. We do both agree with working on our "flow" before trying it again. So now limbo. Guess we'll keep trying. Thanks

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Hi, I recently explored the option of finding a Domme as a full time emotional partner and realised with a little help if that's what I wanted then why not, a D/D relationship if you like. You xan be anything you wish if both are in agreement 😊

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8 minutes ago, Donnykinkster said:

Hi, I recently explored the option of finding a Domme as a full time emotional partner and realised with a little help if that's what I wanted then why not, a D/D relationship if you like. You xan be anything you wish if both are in agreement 😊

I wonder if Dom on Dom might be easier that Sub on Sub?

There is the whole consideration of spectrum as well, it sounds like Iheartorgasms might be less sub perhaps?

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37 minutes ago, oldfellow said:

I wonder if Dom on Dom might be easier that Sub on Sub?

 

I think anything can be easy if it's what you both want and are able to communicate honestly

[ey****]

I know a few couples where both are Dominants and they have similar-ish but different issues.  The ones I can think of do relatively little together in terms of kink/BDSM but have other subs.  Mind, some do double-Domination as a couple also. 

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Have you considered using a man for a dom?

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1 hour ago, eyemblacksheep said:

The ones I can think of do relatively little together in terms of kink/BDSM but have other subs. 

That was the conclusion i reached when we duscussed this previously, I think the actual relationship in itself would be very vanilla and as you say both with the option of outside play.

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Find out exactly what you’re both into and then take turns in days (spaced apart) and act it out. There’s not a lot of info about the types of doms you both are into so pretty hard to offer a suggestion. Create a scene in your heads and build the anticipation for when the day comes. May bring you both out of your comfort zone but at least you’re both satisfying each other.

[Iheartorgasms]

4 hours ago, maxload2020 said:

Have you considered using a man for a dom?

We have. But they weren’t experienced or just didn’t listen to our wishes. So a not so great experience. But I’m still interested in a male dom