Switching - Power exchange

[Deleted Member]

  17 minutes ago, METALSIR said:

all it takes is practice.

You can practice dominance in your normal day.

I find it also helps to have a filthy mouth!

Practice saying awful perverse things outloud to yourself in the mirror!

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Oh I can have a very filthy mouth 😛 thank you for the advice, I’ll give it a try 

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  5 hours ago, sweet***sub said:

Oh I can have a very filthy mouth 😛 thank you for the advice, I’ll give it a try 

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Let me know the result 😈

[Deleted Member]

  37 minutes ago, Firewitch said:

Let me know the result 😈

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I might even let you hear me practicing 😈

[Deleted Member]

  27 minutes ago, sweet***sub said:

I might even let you hear me practicing 😈

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I'm in!!!

[Deleted Member]

New to switching myself. But for me it's most definitely an energy thing. It's extremely fun that's for sure. I find music helps me find my headspace a lot. I generally go for cheesy stuff to be in a sub headspace and more aggressive stuff for a dom headspace.

[Deleted Member]

  1 hour ago, Firewitch said:

I'm in!!!

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Yay!!!

[Psuedom]

  8 hours ago, METALSIR said:

all it takes is practice.

You can practice dominance in your normal day.

I find it also helps to have a filthy mouth!

Practice saying awful perverse things outloud to yourself in the mirror!

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Completely agree. There's strong evidence backing that "habitual positive self-talk" is incredibly effective. There's a few tricks to getting to work, but if you're interested, PM me.

[Me****]

  1 hour ago, Psuedom said:

Completely agree. There's strong evidence backing that "habitual positive self-talk" is incredibly effective. There's a few tricks to getting to work, but if you're interested, PM me.

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in all fairness psue, Metal can dish out the filthiest bollocking you ever did see already!

Bollockings are my stock in trade!

[Deleted Member]

  1 hour ago, Psuedom said:

Completely agree. There's strong evidence backing that "habitual positive self-talk" is incredibly effective. There's a few tricks to getting to work, but if you're interested, PM me.

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Thank you very much for the offer 😊 I’ve done cbt in the past so should be ok but if not I’ll let you know. 

[Me****]

  4 hours ago, sweet***sub said:

Thank you very much for the offer 😊 I’ve done cbt in the past so should be ok but if not I’ll let you know. 

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cbt? cock and ball ***?

giggles

[Deleted Member]

  4 hours ago, METALSIR said:

cbt? cock and ball ***?

giggles

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That made me giggle too!!!

[Psuedom]

  On 9/18/2020 at 12:00 AM, METALSIR said:

in all fairness psue, Metal can dish out the filthiest bollocking you ever did see already!

Bollockings are my stock in trade!

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Forgot, the only way is METAL!! 😂

[Jinxy]

Thank you for posting this, Sweet! I’ve had many of the same questions. Most of the responses I got were similar to what has been said here. Additionally, I also had a few people mention that they keep it completely separate with being submissive with one person and Dominant with another. I still haven’t figured out how it would work best for me! 
 

My follow up question to @Firewitch (or anyone else who has some wisdom), you mentioned that everyone might not be matching on mood for role every time which makes sense. Any advice on how to navigate if both still want to engage in play at that time? Does it maybe start more vanilla and proceed from there? 

[Me****]

  7 hours ago, Jinxy said:

Thank you for posting this, Sweet! I’ve had many of the same questions. Most of the responses I got were similar to what has been said here. Additionally, I also had a few people mention that they keep it completely separate with being submissive with one person and Dominant with another. I still haven’t figured out how it would work best for me! 
 

My follow up question to @Firewitch (or anyone else who has some wisdom), you mentioned that everyone might not be matching on mood for role every time which makes sense. Any advice on how to navigate if both still want to engage in play at that time? Does it maybe start more vanilla and proceed from there? 

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keep it simple jinx

 Switching is all about "keeping your options for pleasure open"

Dont box yourself in with complexities or get stuck in a sexual rut.

Switch it up!

[Deleted Member]

  7 hours ago, Jinxy said:

Thank you for posting this, Sweet! I’ve had many of the same questions. Most of the responses I got were similar to what has been said here. Additionally, I also had a few people mention that they keep it completely separate with being submissive with one person and Dominant with another. I still haven’t figured out how it would work best for me! 
 

My follow up question to @Firewitch (or anyone else who has some wisdom), you mentioned that everyone might not be matching on mood for role every time which makes sense. Any advice on how to navigate if both still want to engage in play at that time? Does it maybe start more vanilla and proceed from there? 

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Wiggles @ (some) wisdom!!! 😁🔥😁

When/ if switch meet switch, there's a whole plethora of factors that come into play (pun intended), as in any union of 2 people (just assume 2 now for ease of discussion) who wish to engage in the things we like to do.  

In my experience (which is all I can comment on) I like connections/ dynamics where I'm free to express myself and be myself.  I am predominantly Dominant in my relationships which I love for a million reasons, rarely submissive and occasionally I've enjoyed time switching. 

I have experienced some switching which has been ineffective (other issues influenced my decision to end it) where there was switch attempts mid scene which I didn't enjoy and the image i have writing that is 2 submissives kinda languishing in the absence of a Dominant or 2 Dominants clashing with no one feeling able to submit.  Hence that relationship/ connection didn't work!!!

Better power exchange models of switching work best for me when high levels of emotional intelligence,  good self knowledge,  intuition, confidence to express oneself and a deep understanding of each other. 

In some switch dynamics and certainly in my own there's a move towards a more hedonistic approach whereby you seek and enjoy a more organic and fluid level of kink. 

How does it start? How do you get from ideas in your mind to making it happen? It may be discussions before the meet about the type of play you want to explore,  it may be wanting to be together and feel which way it goes,  it may be the time you spend together before you start the play that determines how it progresses, it maybe you keep feel particularly D or s with that person and you don't switch, it maybe as the primary Dominant in the relationship you have ensured your lil switchy sub is gonna fully enjoy their earned "free time" when you uncage them (sometimes literally) and can't wait to find out what they decide to do to you!!! Last one is a personal fave but that isn't necessarily applicable to all....as it depends on the component parts of the dynamic. 

 

I hope that sheds a little light on my experiences and thoughts

 

🔥💋🔥

Edited September 21, 2020 by Deleted Member
Added a word to reflect my pan sexuality

[Jinxy]

  15 hours ago, Firewitch said:

Wiggles @ (some) wisdom!!! 😁🔥😁

When/ if switch meet switch, there's a whole plethora of factors that come into play (pun intended), as in any union of 2 people (just assume 2 now for ease of discussion) who wish to engage in the things we like to do.  

In my experience (which is all I can comment on) I like connections/ dynamics where I'm free to express myself and be myself.  I am predominantly Dominant in my relationships which I love for a million reasons, rarely submissive and occasionally I've enjoyed time switching. 

I have experienced some switching which has been ineffective (other issues influenced my decision to end it) where there was switch attempts mid scene which I didn't enjoy and the image i have writing that is 2 submissives kinda languishing in the absence of a Dominant or 2 Dominants clashing with no one feeling able to submit.  Hence that relationship/ connection didn't work!!!

Better power exchange models of switching work best for me when high levels of emotional intelligence,  good self knowledge,  intuition, confidence to express oneself and a deep understanding of each other. 

In some switch dynamics and certainly in my own there's a move towards a more hedonistic approach whereby you seek and enjoy a more organic and fluid level of kink. 

How does it start? How do you get from ideas in your mind to making it happen? It may be discussions before the meet about the type of play you want to explore,  it may be wanting to be together and feel which way it goes,  it may be the time you spend together before you start the play that determines how it progresses, it maybe you keep feel particularly D or s with that person and you don't switch, it maybe as the primary Dominant in the relationship you have ensured your lil switchy sub is gonna fully enjoy their earned "free time" when you uncage them (sometimes literally) and can't wait to find out what they decide to do to you!!! Last one is a personal fave but that isn't necessarily applicable to all....as it depends on the component parts of the dynamic. 

 

I hope that sheds a little light on my experiences and thoughts

 

🔥💋🔥

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Thank you for this! I think what I get caught on sometimes is that kink and its roles seem to have certain rules (even knowing these rules are up to you and your partner/s). When switching, all of a sudden those rules don’t apply in the same way to each person so my brain can get stuck on how people would make that work. However, seeing how you described it was helpful in framing it for me. 

Edited September 21, 2020 by Jinxy
Added clarity

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Wiggles @ (some) wisdom!!! 😁🔥😁
When/ if switch meet switch, there's a whole plethora of factors that come into play (pun intended), as in any union of 2 people (just assume 2 now for ease of discussion) who wish to engage in the things we like to do.
In my experience (which is all I can comment on) I like connections/ dynamics where I'm free to express myself and be myself. I am predominantly Dominant in my relationships which I love for a million reasons, rarely submissive and occasionally I've enjoyed time switching.
I have experienced some switching which has been ineffective (other issues influenced my decision to end it) where there was switch attempts mid scene which I didn't enjoy and the image i have writing that is 2 submissives kinda languishing in the absence of a Dominant or 2 Dominants clashing with no one feeling able to submit. Hence that relationship/ connection didn't work!!!
Better power exchange models of switching work best for me when high levels of emotional intelligence, good self knowledge, intuition, confidence to express oneself and a deep understanding of each other.
In some switch dynamics and certainly in my own there's a move towards a more hedonistic approach whereby you seek and enjoy a more organic and fluid level of kink.
How does it start? How do you get from ideas in your mind to making it happen? It may be discussions before the meet about the type of play you want to explore, it may be wanting to be together and feel which way it goes, it may be the time you spend together before you start the play that determines how it progresses, it maybe you keep feel particularly D or s with that person and you don't switch, it maybe as the primary Dominant in the relationship you have ensured your lil switchy sub is gonna fully enjoy their earned "free time" when you uncage them (sometimes literally) and can't wait to find out what they decide to do to you!!! Last one is a personal fave but that isn't necessarily applicable to all....as it depends on the component parts of the dynamic.
I hope that sheds a little light on my experiences and thoughts
🔥💋🔥

I absolutely LOVE how you can be psychically connected to your partenrs. I am very empathic and a lot of times it is so nice to find my dom either a switch or Dom by title. For me I enjoy dominant women, even if they are switches (I can switch) but I wouldn't want to risk losing the power exchange and the authority that I have given to my switch dom and make me feel that I can use a more masculine dominant approach to illicit a feminine submissive response? Once I am there, hold me bitch!