My best pal.

[Deleted Member]

My penis and I.

 

My best mate, love him to bits I do and he knows it, how can he not the amount of times I've engaged with him. He's only let me down a couple of times yet I don't hold that against him. It's usually been my fault, too much booze or too much wanking. No, to blame him for these faults would be unfair as he's a top lad and we do have so much fun together.

 

It's fair to say as lads we do become a little obsessed with him, especially when we first discover all the clever things he can do. Overuse as a ***ager is a problem as is the trusty wank sock or crusty sheets. I think about it now and cringe knowing full well my Ma who had to wash my sheets or socks knew exactly that he and I, had been chatting, getting acquainted so to speak.

 

Yes we as men generally and if without any confusion of gender, love our dicks, mates for life and all that. Yet what still confuses me is how some may think to show off our pride and joy to another, maybe another we have literally just started interacting with is correct and will cause a positive reaction. Trust me most women have seen what our most valuable of friends, looks like. Yours may be different in size and shape, maybe bent at a different angle to the bloke sat next to you on the bus, but most are all pretty much the same thing and for me hold no surprises for the ladies out there.

 

So for me it's fair to assume that sending a pic of our pals to another, unwanted and unasked for in no way is going to cause a positive reaction. It's beyond my understanding how so many can believe otherwise, to think a pic of your pal will guide you into a world of hedonism and debauchery. If anything from what i see and hear it actually has completely the opposite affect to the one you desire.

 

Sending dick pics to a lass you are new to without clear consent and a request for said pic does not entertain or please and if anything it makes you as a man look exactly like the pic you have just sent, a complete prick. If anything rather than finding that connection you seek with another It will in fact only connect you more with that trusty wank sock, those crusty sheets we are all so familiar with as young lads.

 

So maybe it would be wise before you try and show off your mate, maybe a little thought for the lass, whom you don't know. Maybe you need to understand your mate is nothing special, nothing really to show off about as we all have one and the ladies out there really have no desire to see something, they will have seen before.

[He****]

Yeah this, have been sent a shitload of dick pics, why?

[Ar****]

Also under the Malicious Communications Act it can be an offence to send a message which is ‘grossly offensive, or of an indecent, obscene or menacing character’. There is an argument in the legal profession to say that unsolicited sexual images could be seen as being ‘obscene’ and therefore charges could be pursued under this legislation. You wouldn't flash somebody on the street and not expect to get charged for it, so why would you do it online?

 

The sooner laws firm up against this form of sexual harassment, the better.

[Wo****]

I wonder where we stand with naming and shaming them?

[Deleted Member]

5 hours ago, Hels1920 said:

Yeah this, have been sent a shitload of dick pics, why?

I can't explain myself why, hence the thread. It's a strange one for sure 

[Deleted Member]

2 hours ago, Bounty said:

I wonder where we stand with naming and shaming them?

I've mentioned this before. You did earlier and that's what sparked this post. The only problem is a bitter or spurned ex maybe being less than whole with the truth, I could see that causing issues.

[Wo****]

Just now, Donnykinkster said:

I've mentioned this before. You did earlier and that's what sparked this post. The only problem is a bitter or spurned ex maybe being less than whole with the truth, I could see that causing issues.

Not if the message is reported, maybe.

Depends if message history is kept. 

If you message me, I ask for a pic, delete the convo, your pic would be under "This is the beginning of the conversation" so messages would need to be traceable, any prior contact.

 

[Deleted Member]

24 minutes ago, Bounty said:

Not if the message is reported, maybe.

Depends if message history is kept. 

If you message me, I ask for a pic, delete the convo, your pic would be under "This is the beginning of the conversation" so messages would need to be traceable, any prior contact.

 

Makes sense to me, a blacklist that all could view but thinking about it, it would be hard to trace deleted messages, maybe impossible. I think it's a problem that we ourselves would need to police. From what I'm told that's what happens in the live scene.

Edited October 3, 2020 by Deleted Member

[Deleted Member]

You know that (negative) points list you talked about, Donny? Is this covered on there? I feel I am missing something as I didn’t think men could send those pics on here. I’ve had several guys say that to me. Personally I’m not offended by them, but nor do I think guys should send them without consent.

[Deleted Member]

The Penis Study

The American Government funded a study to see why the head of a man's penis was larger than the shaft. After 1 year and $180,000, they concluded the reason was to give the man more pleasure during sex.

After the US published the study, the French decided to do their own. $250,000 Euro and 3 years of research later, they concluded it was to give the woman more pleasure during sex. (Clearly, they limited the study to heterosexuals.)

The Irish, unsatisfied by these findings, conducted their own study. After 2 weeks, a cost of around $75.46 and many pints of beer, they figured it was to keep a man's hand from flying off and hitting himself in the forehead.

[Wo****]

39 minutes ago, Curvykate said:

You know that (negative) points list you talked about, Donny? Is this covered on there? I feel I am missing something as I didn’t think men could send those pics on here. I’ve had several guys say that to me. Personally I’m not offended by them, but nor do I think guys should send them without consent.

They can, and do.

I'm not offended as such, it's more what the fk were they thinking?

Don't get me wrong, I love cock but doesn't mean I wanna be presented by a strangers cock. 

How many men would walk into a bar, show themselves off and expect women to melt? I just think twat.

 

[Deleted Member]

3 hours ago, Bounty said:

They can, and do.

I'm not offended as such, it's more what the fk were they thinking?

Don't get me wrong, I love cock but doesn't mean I wanna be presented by a strangers cock. 

How many men would walk into a bar, show themselves off and expect women to melt? I just think twat.

 

I guess I have a special ***nus-deflecting account then! 🤷🏻‍♀️ 🤣

[Deleted Member]

What a great post! From a woman’s point of view there nothing worse than opening up a message to see an unwanted cock. 

[Deleted Member]

8 hours ago, blondeLG said:

What a great post! From a woman’s point of view there nothing worse than opening up a message to see an unwanted cock. 

I find the messages worse than an image. I have received plenty of unwanted dick pics on other apps. But the worse thing I have ever had in my inbox was a man demanding I cut his dick off.

[Deleted Member]

17 hours ago, Curvykate said:

You know that (negative) points list you talked about, Donny? Is this covered on there? I feel I am missing something as I didn’t think men could send those pics on here. I’ve had several guys say that to me. Personally I’m not offended by them, but nor do I think guys should send them without consent.

No there is no list, it was a suggestion from Bounty and maybe not such a bad idea.

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50 minutes ago, Donnykinkster said:

No there is no list, it was a suggestion from Bounty and maybe not such a bad idea.

I did ask Tech when I reported that guy I just referred to, and have asked again but no reply.

[Ar****]

20 hours ago, Curvykate said:

You know that (negative) points list you talked about, Donny? Is this covered on there? I feel I am missing something as I didn’t think men could send those pics on here. I’ve had several guys say that to me. Personally I’m not offended by them, but nor do I think guys should send them without consent.

I thought it depended upon the level of account that they had? 🤔

 

I have been able to send pics when I was in my free upgrade period when I first joined, and when I've used points to get an upgrade or had other free upgrades for my birthday, but never at any other times. Though I have been in conversation with several women who have not been upgraded who WERE able to send pics. I always found it an unsettling inequality, especially when we're simply talking about books and I'm not able to show them the collection on my shelves!

 

In retrospect, having a system where one set of folk cannot use this part of the service could actually be quite dangerous from a safeguarding perspective, as it might encourage users to move to an alternate means of communication (sharing personal information) before they are otherwise ready so that pictures can be sent (be it of books, pets, hobbies, or raunchy stuff). I have always assumed this block is in place to prevent further unwanted and unwarranted harassment... removing it would doubtless lead to more asshats sharing their bits 🙄😞

 

Or is it just me? Are there any male users who have found they can still picture message when their account has been basic, or anybody who can vouch for receiving pics whilst an account has been basic at the time?

Edited October 4, 2020 by Aranhis

[Leisa]

13 minutes ago, Aranhis said:

I thought it depended upon the level of account that they had? 🤔

 

I have been able to send pics when I was in my free upgrade period when I first joined, and when I've used points to get an upgrade or had other free upgrades for my birthday, but never at any other times. Though I have been in conversation with several women who have not been upgraded who WERE able to send pics. I always found it an unsettling inequality, especially when we're simply talking about books and I'm not able to show them the collection on my shelves!

 

In retrospect, having a system where one set of folk cannot use this part of the service could actually be quite dangerous from a safeguarding perspective, as it might encourage users to move to an alternate means of communication (sharing personal information) before they are otherwise ready so that pictures can be sent (be it of books, pets, hobbies, or raunchy stuff). I have always assumed this block is in place to prevent further unwanted and unwarranted harassment... removing it would doubtless lead to more asshats sharing their bits 🙄😞

 

Or is it just me? Are there any male users who have found they can still picture message when their account has been basic, or anybody who can vouch for receiving pics whilst an account has been basic at the time?

It does depend on the level of the account.  While any level can receive pics, it is only premium and above that can send pictures.  Anyone who says differently is pulling your leg.  

14 minutes ago, Aranhis said:

I thought it depended upon the level of account that they had? 🤔

 

I have been able to send pics when I was in my free upgrade period when I first joined, and when I've used points to get an upgrade or had other free upgrades for my birthday, but never at any other times. Though I have been in conversation with several women who have not been upgraded who WERE able to send pics. I always found it an unsettling inequality, especially when we're simply talking about books and I'm not able to show them the collection on my shelves!

 

In retrospect, having a system where one set of folk cannot use this part of the service could actually be quite dangerous from a safeguarding perspective, as it might encourage users to move to an alternate means of communication (sharing personal information) before they are otherwise ready so that pictures can be sent (be it of books, pets, hobbies, or raunchy stuff). I have always assumed this block is in place to prevent further unwanted and unwarranted harassment... removing it would doubtless lead to more asshats sharing their bits 🙄😞

 

Or is it just me? Are there any male users who have found they can still picture message when their account has been basic, or anybody who can vouch for receiving pics whilst an account has been basic at the time?

 

[Leisa]

Frankly I don't receive any dick pics (not sure if I should be offended by that or not) but it could be something in my settings that only allows messages from certain members or if it is a word count filter.  I'm sure if I received them I'd respond with some smart ass response that would let them know that dick pics were not the way to get my attention.  Your crusty sheets and socks portion now makes a lot of sense to me.  I'm guessing it is the reason my son at 14 asked how to use the washer and dryer and from that day forward insisted on doing his own laundry.  

[Koby]

Perhaps some guys think women have never seen a penis before lol?

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23 hours ago, Curvykate said:

Personally I’m not offended by them, but nor do I think guys should send them without consent.

I'm in the same camp.... I love asking for them as well.... turn the tables!!! 🔥😈🔥

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3 minutes ago, Firewitch said:

I'm in the same camp.... I love asking for them as well.... turn the tables!!! 🔥😈🔥

I also hugely enjoy freedom of expression in our community and do ponder the "how dare you 😱!!!" response.... 🤔

 

Aaaaaannnddd, didn't mean to quote myself 🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️

Edited October 4, 2020 by Deleted Member
To explain action of the self

[Deleted Member]

5 hours ago, Aranhis said:

I thought it depended upon the level of account that they had? 🤔

 

I have been able to send pics when I was in my free upgrade period when I first joined, and when I've used points to get an upgrade or had other free upgrades for my birthday, but never at any other times. Though I have been in conversation with several women who have not been upgraded who WERE able to send pics. I always found it an unsettling inequality, especially when we're simply talking about books and I'm not able to show them the collection on my shelves!

 

In retrospect, having a system where one set of folk cannot use this part of the service could actually be quite dangerous from a safeguarding perspective, as it might encourage users to move to an alternate means of communication (sharing personal information) before they are otherwise ready so that pictures can be sent (be it of books, pets, hobbies, or raunchy stuff). I have always assumed this block is in place to prevent further unwanted and unwarranted harassment... removing it would doubtless lead to more asshats sharing their bits 🙄😞

 

Or is it just me? Are there any male users who have found they can still picture message when their account has been basic, or anybody who can vouch for receiving pics whilst an account has been basic at the time?

I think you’re right, Aranhis. I think on a free account women can send pics and men can’t. I have a basic account and can send photos. I’ve been told by guys before they can’t send me any.

[qwertytothemax]

This is an interesting spin on the usual "Stop sending dick pics" post.

[Lillyth]

They really don't bother me. As far as I'm concerned (speaking only for myself). It's just the internet, it's not like the dick pic is going to come to life and bother me! I just giggle and ignore.