Is this normal? Advice needed

November 20, 2020

Is it normal to feel traumatised every time you get drunk?

November 21, 2020

Traumatised in what way?

November 21, 2020

It would depend upon why you feel traumatised. If you have had past experiences which happened when you were drunk which were "bad" you may have formed a negative association with drunkenness (perhaps some manner of flashback syndrome, as I call it) - in which case I'd consider it perfectly normal.

November 21, 2020

Does being drunk make you feel *** and therefore bring on feelings of trauma? Or does being drunk magnify something that is going on in your life or something that has happened in the past? Whichever way both I'd say are normal (or not normal but understandable) but if it's affecting you then probably best to give getting drunk a break. Often easier said than done i know as I went through a 2 year self destructive phase with alcohol, where I kept drinking even though the results were pretty much horrific

November 21, 2020

How drunk were you hon? Do you remember what happened? I think there is more than you’ve said 😔 I have felt traumatized after I drank, for many reasons but not after every time. Reach out if you need to talk xoxo

November 21, 2020

This may trigger past trauma or allow you to feel emotions related to a past trauma that you normally repress when sober.

November 21, 2020

Get drunk once like that, and then realize it's best that you don't again. I drink, but yiu have to know your limit, and it's well before passing out.. and everyone has a limit.

November 21, 2020

Booze is a massive depressant, can put anyone on a downer especially the days following a heavy "sesh". If feeling a little blue for whatever reason booze can magnify that sadness tenfold and is best left alone. I agree with all the other opinons, it has the capability to unlock doors our sober mind keeps firmly locked.

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November 21, 2020

9 hours ago, VeryBadWizard said:

Traumatised in what way?

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Like feeling anxious and like something bad will happen I guess

November 21, 2020

7 hours ago, Mirixo said:

How drunk were you hon? Do you remember what happened? I think there is more than you’ve said 😔 I have felt traumatized after I drank, for many reasons but not after every time. Reach out if you need to talk xoxo

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It was probably also because it was Friday... I know why and I probably was impulsive in my posting just because I felt so alone and anxious last night

November 21, 2020

35 minutes ago, Donnykinkster said:

Booze is a massive depressant, can put anyone on a downer especially the days following a heavy "sesh". If feeling a little blue for whatever reason booze can magnify that sadness tenfold and is best left alone. I agree with all the other opinons, it has the capability to unlock doors our sober mind keeps firmly locked.

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I agree. Bit of a train wreck at the moment...

thanks 😊

November 21, 2020

17 minutes ago, Messedup79 said:

It was probably also because it was Friday... I know why and I probably was impulsive in my posting just because I felt so alone and anxious last night

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You're not alone.. you have us.

I spent over 25 years drinking, every day. Been sober a while now. Drinking doesn't help.

Keep posting, reach out.

Am happy to chat if you want an ear x

November 21, 2020

21 minutes ago, Messedup79 said:

I agree. Bit of a train wreck at the moment...

thanks 😊

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I know you are, only you can choose to walk another path and in time you will, when you are ready. Until then never alone, remember that 😊

November 21, 2020

Impulse or not, hopefully your reaching out brought some peace. Perhaps be easy on the drink in the future, and please continue to post when you need to find help in your thoughts; there are many in your shoes, you are never alone.

November 21, 2020

1 hour ago, Donnykinkster said:

I know you are, only you can choose to walk another path and in time you will, when you are ready. Until then never alone, remember that 😊

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But I wrote a poem about that ...

the last line is

I ended as I began

Alone

November 21, 2020

32 minutes ago, Cassafrass said:

Impulse or not, hopefully your reaching out brought some peace. Perhaps be easy on the drink in the future, and please continue to post when you need to find help in your thoughts; there are many in your shoes, you are never alone.

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Thanks 😊

November 21, 2020

10 hours ago, Aranhis said:

It would depend upon why you feel traumatised. If you have had past experiences which happened when you were drunk which were "bad" you may have formed a negative association with drunkenness (perhaps some manner of flashback syndrome, as I call it) - in which case I'd consider it perfectly normal.

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Fridays and drinking are a bit traumatic for me.

November 21, 2020

I think it can be normal to feel miserable, lonely, afraid and generally low when you get drunk.

I also think it's entirely possible to be taken advantage of if you are very drunk in public. Sobering up with a dawning reality of what happened or even what might have happened could be a very traumatic experience.

Whatever, you have been offered an ear by @Bounty who I think can be be trusted if you need support.