Deleted Member Posted December 19, 2020 Posted December 19, 2020 I’m normally happy to experiment with different things but my boyfriend has expressed that he’d really like to watch me with someone else and gets really turned on just by talking about it. I’m happy to try it as I like the fact that he gets so much enjoyment out of it and I do watch a fair bit of cuckhold porn but I’ve never done anything sexual with more that one person and have no idea how to approach it! Does anyone have any advice?
Tucker1070 Posted December 20, 2020 Posted December 20, 2020 Hi Summer, you sound a tad curious but apprehensive, which is perfectly natural...Does you bf have someone in mind? Does he prefer to see you with another man? A woman? Would one be more comfortable than the others or you...is there anyone you have had interest in that you can perhaps see yourself approaching or might it be easier with a relative stranger ( which may not be the best move at this time). As with all fetish desires, all parties must be comfortable in the pursuit.. best of luck.
Deleted Member Posted December 20, 2020 Author Posted December 20, 2020 (edited) Morning. Talking and getting turned on is completely different to the act itself and the potential to destroy otherwise solid relationships is high if not considered carefully. It's not so much about on the day but also a couple of weeks down the line where cracks, if any will begin to show. Open and honest communication with clear boundaries is key, before any steps are taken. What if you have more fun with another and your man can clearly see that? How would that make him feel? These are the sort of things you need to discuss before stepping in. It can be and is an awesome experience if done correctly and with two people who are comfortable completely with all the different possibilities. Talk, then talk some more and then talk again. Not so much in the heat of passion as that in itself can lead down a dangerous and misleading path. If it's a step you both then wish to take then you could advertise on here or even a site lile Fab swingers. For me it's always better with a well vetted stranger, playing with those we know can, although not always cause problems, again later down the line 😊 Edited December 20, 2020 by Deleted Member Spelling
bi**** Posted December 20, 2020 Posted December 20, 2020 Never find a freidn to do this with - the *** points for the futrue are huge. Instead, first time, at least you'd possibly be best off with a male prostitute. Find a sane one who can do bdsm and knows what you're after.
ol**** Posted December 20, 2020 Posted December 20, 2020 You need to think this through very carefully. Your bf may think it's hot but the actuallity of some other guy telling him how good he feels while fucking you is going to be very different. There are ways to approach this and leave an escape route but you need somebody who understands a lot about the subject.
Deleted Member Posted December 20, 2020 Author Posted December 20, 2020 you need to have a proper chat between you two. Go through every pieces of scenario or any issues you might run through and the solutions. find someone experienced or mature enough to avoid dramas and know the boundaries, etiquettes and respect them. Porn is never a good reference, sorry
aB**** Posted December 20, 2020 Posted December 20, 2020 Talk talk talk. It’s very important. My wife and I started swinging with friends then I realized I like watching. We went to swingers clubs and played with strangers. The sex we have after we get back together is mind blowing. You really need to talk about it. Down to details which is exciting and usually leads to sex but you both need to think about how it’s going to make you feel. There will be way more feelings after then you thought there was going to be before. I’m no expert but go for it, go slow, and talk about how he’s jealous, angry, turned on beyond imagination and his dick is always better. Lol.
ey**** Posted December 20, 2020 Posted December 20, 2020 It's one of those fantasies where you'll never have a shortage of volunteers wanting to "help" but that most of these will often be unsuitable. It's something where there's often 3 people to consider, including one who you either might not know - or - might know, and that brings with it it's own complexities. The first thing to consider is any characteristics this bull might need. Certainly the static one is they have to be someone you'd want to have sex with. But for example whether they need a certain physique. Whether you'd want to do this one-off or ongoing. That, actually, as hot as this may sound - seeing you with someone "better" might affect your partners confidence if they think they'll never again be good enough... or.... perhaps they do find this hot and want this to be regular/ongoing whether you're happy to do that or not. Porn can be a lot of fun - but remember there's a lot you don't see. Often people are not really couples - or, often when they are, everyone is a porn actor anyway. There's also often a lot more off-camera aftercare as well.
Deleted Member Posted December 20, 2020 Author Posted December 20, 2020 It’s difficult because my bf tends to be quite a jealous person even though he says the idea of watching me with someone else turns him on. He even has someone in mind (who is an ex of mine) but I’d rather pick someone who was unknown to both of us and the ‘relationship’ was established as purely sexual and we both knew that from the beginning. He also has some ‘size’ anxiety even though he is above average, I am perfectly satisfied with him and me makes me cum like crazy and don’t want anything more, I worry that being with anyone else would make him more anxious and paranoid when he really doesn’t need to be! 😂
ey**** Posted December 20, 2020 Posted December 20, 2020 yep - these are worries to talk to him about : because there's kinda the buzz associated, for sure - but don't want this to be lasting.
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