Discovering my wife is a submissive

[Urassismine]

First, a bit of background. My wife and I were happily married for 12 years, without ever truly uncovering our dom/sub relationship. While we had a perfectly fine sex life together, nothing ever really crossed too far into the dom/sub world.

But all of that changed one night a couple of years ago. We had (a very rare) night to ourselves, as both of our young kids were spending the night at my in-laws house. We were enjoying having the house to ourselves and making out on the couch, which soon lead to my wife getting down on her knees and giving me a blowjob. Something about being free, and not needing to worry about kids hearing us or interrupting us, had me particularly turned on, and in the heat of the moment, I roughly grabbed her head and ***d myself into her mouth as far as I could push it. I instantly let go, expecting her to get angry and me spending the next hour apologizing. But much to my surprise, when I let go, she let out an audible moan, pushed her mouth down even further onto me, and drool shot out of her mouth, almost like some kind of Pavlovian response. I almost didn’t know what do to with myself when it registered with me that she had instantly been very turned on. And I say almost, because it only took me another few seconds to grab her head again, and even more ***fully push her head onto me. And when she didn’t fight, it was only a matter of time before I was ***-fucking her mouth as hard as I could. Occasionally, she would pull her head back to gasp for breath, with thick strands of drool hanging from her mouth, which she made no attempt to wipe away. And I saw in her eyes, a look I’d never seen before and can‘t even begin to describe.

As she leaned back one time to try and catch her breath, I took her nipples in between my fingers and squeezed them, not very lightly. Which elicited from her a very loud, primitive moan, the likes of which I had never heard her make. And as I squeezed them harder and harder, she convulsed, as an orasmic waves descended over her. Another first (orgasm from nipple play, that is).

At that point, she leaned back and half laid down/half fell onto her back, legs spread open. And at that moment, I saw that she had been far more than just a little turned on. While she was giving me a blowjob and I was squeezing her nipples, I now saw that she had literally been dripping, as her legs were soaked, all the way down to her knees. I promptly got on top of her, pulled her arms over her head, pinned them to the floor, and proceeded to pound into her like I never dreamed of doing.

As we lay there on the floor recuperating, I asked her WTH was with that? She grinned and sheepishly said that being ***d to give a rough blowjob and being ***d into other things, being tied up, etc, has secretly been a huge fantasy for years, one that she watched porn about quite often, and had always wanted to tell me but was not sure how I would react. Why, I’m not sure, as I‘ve certainly never been any kind of prude sexually, and she damn well knows I’m up for anything.

We spent the next hour or so talking about what she was into, learning her thresholds of what was/wasn‘t in bounds, which ended up being a bigger turn on for both of us than anything we’d ever experienced.

Needless to say, that evening opened a lot of doors for both of us sexually, And I often ask her why we’d wasted 14 years together not knowing how much this would turn us both on. Over the last couple of years, we’ve explored her submissive desires a great deal, and practically own a dungeon’s worth of toys and props.

Maybe one day, I’ll post about our anniversary weekend last year. That weekend started with me texting her a picture of a collar I‘d bought her. One that she could wear out in public without drawing too much attention. Along with the picture, I sent a message saying I want to put this on your when we get to the hotel. And from the second I do, that hot little pussy of yours belongs to me. I own it, no matter where we are and what we are doing. If I tell you to put your hands down your pants and masturbate in the middle of a restaurant, you will do it. You will wear whatever I tell you to put on and do every single I thing I ask of you, with no other response than “yes, sir”. Are you willing to do that for me? Her response of, ‘YES! I just got so wet reading that’ was music to my ears. That was one HELL of a weekend!

[Qu****]

Love it!

[Deleted Member]

This is amazing. So happy that you have been able to share this new adventurous chapter of your together.

Perhaps spending so much time with her “mother” hat on previously had meant she felt unable to say anything about satisfying her own personal desires ...

From my own experience you end up being a mother and a wife, looking after everyone else’s needs and wants first and somewhere along that road what is desired for oneself is at the very bottom of a very long list. So you push those thoughts and desires back into a corner of your mind and continue to focus on others.

I hope you have many more years of kinky adventures to cum (sorry, come 😉). Best of luck x

[Urassismine]

Longhotsummer, this is very true. The mother hat certainly has played into it. But she could also be put into the stereotypical high-stress, always in control career, as well. She is always in control of everything in her life and always has been. Her desires are very much an intense relief valve for her. A valve that I am very happy turning wide open for her. :)

[JayAub]

Fantastic. Good luck to you both.

[Deleted Member]

That's so beautiful. Do you still consider your vanilla years as time wasted? I can't think of a better place to start from, fully secure in a relationship that works on all levels.

[Urassismine]

Straight-edge, wasted....no. More of a mourning of explosive orgasms never achieved.