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Ah. the experience paradox.

I don't think this has come up in a while.

There are a few ways... 

At the minute, you're probably going to need to be patient as a lot will be a lot easier post-covid.  But, patience is also good in the sense that it is a good trait.

After that.

1) Building passive connections is one of the best ways

This can be done on and off line but is often easier offline.  Passive connections get build over time - see patience.  So online, if you participate in the forums and in chat you'll likely find those you are drawn to, or who are drawn to you.  Offline this would involve getting involved in local fetish scene, attending munches and events.  Again, you're probably(?) not going to get the play or a partner you want on your first trip out - but, as you make friends and connections there would certainly be those who wished to help you out.  Whether this is to play, or to show you stuff - or make introductions.

2) Workshops

There's likely to also be local training and workshops - there's a few online also!  (In fact, this very website opened it's own training) 

I notice you want to learn more on ropes. I recommend ***r rope workshops and, in the meantime, there are an awful lot of books and youtube tutorials in existence 

3) Find a Professional

this is much quicker and you can simply put it out there what you want to do, try or learn 

I noticed a fantasy you had on your profile, this is something you can very easily make happen there. 

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Talking to people usually helps, and obviously sticking to the guidelines if your single the only experience you could get would be online until it’s safe to meet. Covid has really fucked everyone over .

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Find someone you’re comfortable with and try everything u want

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The experience catch 22, if you don’t have it no one will take you, but no one will take you unless you have it. Your best bet is to find someone with the same experience level as you and learn together. People are lonely and want relationships, my opinion the majority are willing to risk covid in order to find someone. However these dating apps allow people to be flaky as f and promote the “I am going to hold out for better” mentality. Alternatively, If you live in a larger city there are groups that teach classes, the ones in my city are strictly tailored to newbies. You can gain knowledge there and perhaps experience and maybe meet another newbie....except that there are no gatherings during covid. My suggestion, go out to where you can go out to, talk to someone while wearing your mask. Develop a connection with them, it’s about love first. Most people are willing to experiment a little for the ones they love, experiment together, learn together.

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I've been curious as well. I see I'm a little late to this thread though haha.

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Usually I just host that involve ppl of all backgrounds and levels. Starting atVouyerism to flogging:) I didn’t know I liked this lifestyle until I experienced it bc someone asked me to do something. It grossed me out at first then I was like okay I can do this.

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Phone sex is going to be a big thing but I haven't done it since I was younger so I'm really awesome at it that's my advantage

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