Advice for Littles

[Deleted Member]

Littles,

You are the most important thing in your CareGiver's life, there are some small pieces of advice I have collected over the years that will help you keep an excellent relationship that can last a lifetime!

1. Talk about rules. Your Rules may need to change over time. If you **need** rules and structure and your Daddy doesn’t give you that he may not be the nurturing Daddy you're looking for. (Not every little needs rules.)
2. Those rules should cover your health and what your Daddy experts from you; they should also provide you a way to tell your Daddy what you expect of him. (Sometimes Daddys need guidelines too)
3. Discuss how those rules will be en***d (discipline vs punishment vs funishment). Are they strict and go straight for punishment or do they explain the rules and take time to make sure you understand what you did was wrong and why it was wrong. If you break that rule again discipline might start from there. 
4. Don't be afraid to tell your CareGiver you don't feel comfortable doing something. If you really don't want to do something and your CareGiver pushes you to do it, it can cause mental or physical trauma. Don't think you will be disappointing your CareGiver by saying "No" to something.
5. Tell your Daddy what specifically you appreciate about him regularly. You loved story time, playing with your hair, etc. 
6. Write Daddy a note and stick it somewhere for him to be surprised. 

 

[Pinkish]

Thank you for this, muchly appreciated x

[Al****]

Communication is key in any relationship. I feel that the little/ big dynamic needs it more than most. As you say, sometimes things will change over time. There should always be an open line of communication... if that stops, there will be a lot of issues and the main one that will be hurt will be the little. A good caregiver should always listen to the needs of their little. Just as a good little should also listen to their caregiver and know that they want what is best for them. Without that communication, neither one of them will know that something has changed and needs to be discussed.

[ne****]

Thank you