Online safety

[8l****]

Hello there. A question to everyone who engage in some cyber kinky fun. What are some precautions you all take. To the subs: Do you verify that the person on the other side is real, do you take precautions to cover your face in any videos. To the doms: what kinda stuff do you all do to help subs feel comfortable in vids/pics?

[LanceH]

I never take vids or pics except with their device. If they aren't willing to meet in public first, or require *** to meet, it doesn't happen.

[Deleted Member]

I almost always hide my face unless I have know my dom for quite awhile and have built trust. If they get angry that you want to show your face right away then they are probably not for the best.

[Ki****]

I always ask my sub if they are comfortable with sending pics/vids before anything and as long as I’ve known them for a little while

[De****]

I rarely if ever send lewd things as I've had bad experience in the past. When I do take them I always hide my face and anything that can be used to identify me.
I don't send them to anyone unless I know they are a real person and not using me and I get something out of the exchange, I mostly only send them to people who i know irl which isn't very many anyways

[FeeturingHeide]

I always start by setting the same precautions I would in real life play. Safewords, discussing limit for both, and making sure it is well understood any engagement should not come before their physical, emotional, or financial safety IRL.

I think the biggest risk engaging online-besides confirming legalities-is the emotional rollercoaster you can put people through if expectations are not up front. People come online looking for a connection, often with anonymity. Those unknowns about the person on the other side allows you to fill in what we want to imagine, creating a very rich and satisfying fantasy. For some it's a rabbit hole for dangerously strong attachment that is unseen to the other. 

Play should always have an emotional responsibility to it for after care. If you've spent an hour helping someone explore boundaries, you've asked them to create a scene in their mind, so any Dominate should make sure they've done what aftercare they can. Have a signal if you have to step away  from the conversation so that you don't leave that person alone wondering if they were ghosted. Make sure to check in on the afterwards remind them to rest, hydrate, and reflect. And then follow up. Communication is important in BDSM, but it's everything if you're not in the room with someone. If either of you can't agree to complete honesty and respect, then you shouldn't engage. 

[us****]

If the person doesn’t want to be filled or anything it’s all agreed in the online contract end off also a secret word which means !!! Stop !!!