Older men and (much) younger women

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6 minutes ago, Curvykate said:

I guess we are not seeing ourselves as others do. But nor do I make a list like that about a potential partner - whether they have less stamina or grey hair or not the perfect body. That's not how I decide I like someone and want to be with them. It's whether I find them attractive overall - looks and personality. And not necessarily conventionally attractive - my ex wasn't. I thought he was gorgeous because something in him spoke to something in me.

Very true, I'm the same. I can find somebody highly attractive because they make me laugh or because they have the same love for a shared hobby or they just have a very sensual aura even if not traditionally attractive. So yes, I see your point. 

I guess the mainstream media and marketing companies tend to portray men and women in certain ways and we can sometimes forget that they are not representing real life or real people.

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9 minutes ago, eyemblacksheep said:

mate, I've had periods where I'm boggled why *anyone* would find *me* attractive, but, here we are

hehe, I actually find you attractive, especially in that pumpkin picture so there you go, you have at least one admirer 😁

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1 hour ago, LovingSub999 said:

Very true, I'm the same. I can find somebody highly attractive because they make me laugh or because they have the same love for a shared hobby or they just have a very sensual aura even if not traditionally attractive. So yes, I see your point. 

I guess the mainstream media and marketing companies tend to portray men and women in certain ways and we can sometimes forget that they are not representing real life or real people.

I find the kink world much more accepting and appreciative of the range of looks and bodies. I'd never had even a partner say such positive things to me before I joined "the other site" a few years ago. It helps look at myself less critically. I think when you're looking for someone who accepts all of you, your perspective changes.

[Phoenyx]

Interesting topic.  I have noticed a number of young ladies at the market checkout, get rather flirtatious with me.  In some cases, it may be a certain physical attraction.  "I love your hair!" is something that I have often heard (don't judge be the chemo-thrashed mess in my profile).

In most cases though, I would say that it is a disarming nature that experience given me.  The young store clerks feel comfortable allowing certain inner layers of themselves to show, as it is obvious that I can see those layers anyway.  For a moment, they can drop that stiff, uncomfortable, "professional" facade, and be themselves.  I might even offer a salve of humor, to help heal a wounded inner layer (typically caused by toxic coworkers).  In the end though, it really is just harmless flirtation---a brief "pause that refreshes", a smile in an otherwise gray day.

Ironically, I suspect that many would go running for the door, if they knew the whole story (ha ha).

[Kenloveass]

I'm 39 need young 18 early 20s