Spanking advice

[Deleted Member]

Myself and parter are quite new to the fet scene but loving it so far, need some advice from you kinky buggers.  She has an interest in being spanked but I'm hopeless, need some tips/pointers or videos to help give me a clue what to do, thanks in advance!

[Deleted Member]

Define spanking. Honestly impact play is as wide and diverse a subject as kink itself. But if your starting out build up from light over the knee, to a flogger, to crops to paddles to canes. Check that she is happy with the strength at strokes only moving up when she's ready

[Deleted Member]

There we go, an amazing start, learning something new every day! Nothing extreme, got a flogger ready, more like do you say, 10 strokes type thing as apposed to just random slapping?

[MsDrawers]

Some things/implements require more expertise than others, and part of the joy will be exploring what you both get out of it, and what you like the most. OTK (over the knee) and bare handed are the most accessible and arguably the most intimate, allowing for lots of body contact and touch. Start slowly and build up a little, you can always take breaks to check in with her, engage in other - ahem - activities and perhaps check on its effects (which is normally quite an incentive for the spanker). What kind of sensations does she enjoy? Hard or more gentle? Rhythmic or short, sharp bouts? If using implements (and you have plenty at home, no need to spend a fortune, certainly not while you're experimenting so belts, brushes, wooden spoons, bats, carpet beaters, books even) does she like stingy or more thuddy ***? Once you both have some idea of that you can focus play accordingly.
Then there's the play context whether role playing or exploring d/s in a more straightforward way. Many work within the language of punishment and discipline. I personally don't respond to that because its such a source of pleasure for me and I like to please so I prefer it as an expression of intimacy and care. Spanking can be erotic, intimate, bonding as well as mentally and emotionally cathartic. Happy exploring! It isn't permitted to recommend external links/sources here but there are plenty of freely available guides, as well as straight up porn, to give you some ideas and direction.

[Deleted Member]

Thank you for your very informative response! Can't wait to start exploring ☺

[John54]

Ms Drawers - Thanks for a useful overview. You have lovely eyes by the way