Fake Dommes

[Deleted Member]

They drive me insane. Mostly on other dating sites, not here thankfully. There's loads of them messaging me asking for my hangout account details. I don't have hangouts or . and email are enough for me. And what's wrong with actually calling eachother to chat? 

Anyway, I digress, all of those who message me want ***, a tribute, a registration fee. Does anybody actually fall for it?

It seems is a thing now but at least they're up front with it from the off. These fake Dommes lead us dumb men into thinking we're chatting to make a connection then Bam! They ask for ***. 

I know women get more and worse messages from random men so I should be grateful really. I am. 

Time wasters eh?

Thanks for reading my whingy whiney ...thing. 

[ne****]

I was getting three or four a week until a few months ago. I think I've gotten only two in 2021. Possibly, there is a limited number of scammers (I doubt many are even women), and they've finally stopped wasting their time on me? Or maybe fetish.com screening has gotten better. I put a note in my profile, specifying a kind of "password" to tell me if you'd read that far. Nobody has used it yet (afraid I don't many contacts, period), but on the other hand, I haven't had my hopes up.

[Deleted Member]

Romance scamming had a banner year in my country, over $300M US in 2020. That's just what was reported to the FTC. I was shocked to hear little old widows were getting scammed by people they met on Words With Friends. Sad.

[ey****]

It is always going to be a problem - dating scams in general are very common (and then there's often a financial interest for things which are not scams) and so it's often firefighting.

I've not had too many on here - and some I have had, have had their profiles very quickly caught and deleted.

Scammers generally work a numbers game - this is the same for any scam from your Lottery scams, to "you are entitled to a refund" to "you need to pay postage on a parcel you didn't know you have so we can steal your credit card details" 

I've said elsewhere that often what works for scammers is effectively seeming a really good offer.

"I would love to play with you - just book this dungeon (that doesn't exist) and we can meet and play all night" and it's like - the dungeon hire is £100-£200 and the mark might be - "well an hour with a pro is about that"

"you can be my slave, just this training kit, join this organisation, do this..." and people fall for these thinking "hey, even if this person is no good, I get these toys or this membership" but the companies don't exist.

 

 

[Deleted Member]

Yea once I hear “hangouts and email” that’s a red flag for me. There’s no need for all that personal info when you can chat send pics and voice/video call on here so. Too many fakes out there.

[Deleted Member]

Mine was........
Why was a random girl who isn't living in this country talking to me
One day later .......... Tribute haha

[Vanillacookie18]

Same here. Sick of the dm's telling me to call them sir, or daddy or master off the bat.
Why is it so hard to find someone genuine....

[ki****]

@vanilla I agree it’s a nightmare so many fake Dom’s around

[ar****]

1 hour ago, Vanillacookie18 said:

Same here. Sick of the dm's telling me to call them sir, or daddy or master off the bat.
Why is it so hard to find someone genuine....

This happened to multiple times here despite me stating multiple times that I have more dominant tendencies 🤣

[PandoraUK]

Like @nerdfriend said, these scammers are everywhere and are not usually women. I’ve seen actual photos of scammers trying to bypass photo security and none were actually women. It’s just a job for them, finding *** people in what they perceive to be a rich country. Just report and block and keep doing it.

[Deleted Member]

Totally agree

[Deleted Member]

Treat them with the same issue . Dear Mistress I’m the best grovelling sub ever, I will take all the punishment that you can dish out! Yes you can tie me to a tree and leave me overnight! Are you ready to be the smartest most powerful Goddess! Yes 👍. Great now please sign here pay the registration fees ! Hi ho hi ho it’s off to work we go ! …….. 💰

[Deleted Member]

10 hours ago, Vanillacookie18 said:

Same here. Sick of the dm's telling me to call them sir, or daddy or master off the bat.
Why is it so hard to find someone genuine....

What bothers me most are not the scammers. They are annoyed but in the end they are just scammers. What annoy me more are fake ones that they are looking for God knows what. Not talking for new people in bdsm that might make mistakes on what a dom really is and trying to lean in the process (I have made wrong approaches in the past trying to learn and I'm not shame to admit it) but about those who really don't care to learn. Those people really push away anyone new who wants and trying to learn more about this lifestyle.

[Mo****]

It's more the difficulty in finding a Domme who doesn't base everything around that does my head in.

Apparently we're all desperate to hand our *** over to strangers for a bit of "filth" in return 😴

[su****]

13 hours ago, Boundnoodle said:

Mine was........
Why was a random girl who isn't living in this country talking to me
One day later .......... Tribute haha

I've had several of these on here. An attractive woman - half my age - wants me to be her 24/7 slave... She's in New York, I'm in Scotland. 

Perhaps 'she' was going to punish me with a drive-by caning. 

[su****]

13 hours ago, essexsub4dom said:

@vanilla I agree it’s a nightmare so many fake Dom’s around

I believe the generic term for a fake Dom/me is a 'schadenfraud'... 

😉

[LatexThing]

One of the most recent ones I've seen from another site is "Verification ID"

So the chat starts off legit, it appears the person could be genuine. As the hook goes in deeper, talk of a meet, withing the next 48 hours the amusing; "I have so much trouble with people or attempted this or that, I need to know if you're genuine. Do you have this card or that" *Shows a fake photcard*

At this point I laugh, tell them to try harder then instablock and report them to site, complete with chat log.

As has been said, we're thought of as being *** and easy marks - we aren't. If you see this that's a huge red flag and end the chat, it's going nowhere, so jog on.

I usually do a reverse image search of that person and some simple background checks. Don't fall for the; "This card is to ensure that you aren't a ***ist or nonce" No company hold that information, outside of the Police and a third party can not provide that level of verification, Data Protection etc.

So, just because that person may start off chatting like a they're interested, the hook will inevitably come within the first 30 minutes of initial chat. Most prefer Hangouts, as it's free and anybody globally, can open an account and if that "Verification Company" has a address, just laugh and point it out.

I've added this perspective as we all know the fakes are many, but it's the methods employed to separate you from your hard-earned , that's the factor that needs more attention, in my opinion.

If we had a slew of methods that could be referenced, by us all, then I feel it would help matters most, to avoid the same pitfalls others have endured.

Just my opinion

 

[Deleted Member]

Thanks for the replies. I knew it wasn't just me. 

To be clear, I haven't had one fake Domme approach me on this site. Not one, so well done admins and everyone who reports them. 

I'm convinced that nobody or very very few male subs will find their owner online anywhere. You have to go out to events clubs and munches to meet her. 

Good luck everyone.

[Deleted Member]

But to be fair to dom/mes.subs can be just as fake as well

[Deleted Member]

@Axlsub, that's what it comes down to at the end of the day: due diligence. I think online communities are wonderful for making introductions and discussions. But we're still complex biological meatbags, right? It's poor self-husbandry to put one's mind and body through stress over someone with whom nothing tangible has been built. I know it's easy for loneliness to give people an arranged mentality...but a partner isn't a substitute for a support system.
I'm hoping this will get better as it becomes safe to gather, but we'll see!

[Roxy1957]

Found one on Feeld app. Found my primary and nesting partner on Bumble.
Was about to give up, and just go vanilla.
Hang in there.

[Deleted Member]

9 hours ago, Roxy1957 said:

Found one on Feeld app. Found my primary and nesting partner on Bumble.
Was about to give up, and just go vanilla.
Hang in there.

I'm doing exactly that, looking on vanilla apps and sites. 

[Aeviternity]

Ugh, that’s so messed up and I’m sorry you have to deal with that! People just… blow my freaking mind.

[Mz****]

On 7/8/2021 at 2:35 PM, Axlsub said:

Thanks for the replies. I knew it wasn't just me. 

To be clear, I haven't had one fake Domme approach me on this site. Not one, so well done admins and everyone who reports them. 

I'm convinced that nobody or very very few male subs will find their owner online anywhere. You have to go out to events clubs and munches to meet her. 

Good luck everyone.

I met both of my last long term subs on dating platforms, one on Alt, well over a decade ago.. before it turned into a porn site, and the other through Fetlife, okay, not strictly a dating site but social media ish, and people do use it for dating..I'm here hoping that lightening can strike thrice. If I believed it wasn't possible to meet my next, and hopefully last, submissive partner here I wouldn't be bothering to look. And I know at least a dozen couples and a handful of poly relationships that are very real, and real time, that developed through friendships made here on this site in the time I've been a member, I've personally met several of them so I know they're not exaggerated or made up.

 

[Lokisgodhi]

I use tineye on ad photos.  You wouldn't believe how many are some porn stars photos.

Then there's the one's who answer my ad from across the country. Yeah, you're going to come to me. Riiiiight.

What annoys me most is the one's who obviously haven't actually read my ad. 

Based on the responses I get. there's a 98% illiteracy rate among femdommes.

Clearly we need to have a telethon to address the problem of femmedomme illiteracy in the BDSM scene. ;-)