Dustykat Posted October 23, 2021 Posted October 23, 2021 I’m curious how to keep it under control and know how other people control it
Carnelian2 Posted October 23, 2021 Posted October 23, 2021 I am not hypsersexual - but I would say that it depends on whether it is causing actual problems for you in your daily life. If so, therapy and one of the 12-step programmes might help getting to terms with it. I sincerely hope this is received in the friendly way it is intended.
Dustykat Posted October 23, 2021 Author Posted October 23, 2021 Well I understand that very well but there must be something else 🧚🏻♀️
Deleted Member Posted October 23, 2021 Posted October 23, 2021 I used to constantly fantasise about sexual fantasies / past experiences, skip out on family meet ups, skip out on work to go and have sex with a partner at the time and I almost got sacked for my attendance. That was when I realised I had to focus on work & spending time with my family but I sat down and made a plan on how I would tackle the balance between sex and life. I’m in a much better place now and while it was hard for the better part of two years it was worth it. My answer isn’t really a ‘how to do’ but just based on what I did to help me personally as it was becoming a problem for me in my life. 😊
Dustykat Posted October 23, 2021 Author Posted October 23, 2021 Just now, Pr3tty_Little said: I used to constantly fantasise about sexual fantasies / past experiences, skip out on family meet ups, skip out on work to go and have sex with a partner at the time and I almost got sacked for my attendance. That was when I realised I had to focus on work & spending time with my family but I sat down and made a plan on how I would tackle the balance between sex and life. I’m in a much better place now and while it was hard for the better part of two years it was worth it. My answer isn’t really a ‘how to do’ but just based on what I did to help me personally as it was becoming a problem for me in my life. 😊 I like that but still wonder if there’s other ways to live a close to normal life
Carnelian2 Posted October 23, 2021 Posted October 23, 2021 1 minute ago, Dustykat said: I like that but still wonder if there’s other ways to live a close to normal life Try to look into SAA and maybe read the Green Book. You might also have meetings you can attend
Deleted Member Posted October 23, 2021 Posted October 23, 2021 2 minutes ago, Dustykat said: I like that but still wonder if there’s other ways to live a close to normal life I wish I had the answer for you. Whilst I’m still very sexually active I definitely no longer class myself as hypersexual. Plus my life changed quite a bit so I had to adapt 😊
Dustykat Posted October 23, 2021 Author Posted October 23, 2021 Just now, Carnelian2 said: Try to look into SAA and maybe read the Green Book. You might also have meetings you can attend I have done most of all that have been talked about but I keep having trouble and it’s bugging me
Carnelian2 Posted October 23, 2021 Posted October 23, 2021 Just now, Dustykat said: I have done most of all that have been talked about but I keep having trouble and it’s bugging me Feel free to message me and I can explain more. I attend one of the other programmes that has helped me.
Dustykat Posted October 23, 2021 Author Posted October 23, 2021 1 minute ago, Pr3tty_Little said: I wish I had the answer for you. Whilst I’m still very sexually active I definitely no longer class myself as hypersexual. Plus my life changed quite a bit so I had to adapt 😊 There days I want to cry cause it’s very hard to been under control of it
GentlemanDom Posted October 23, 2021 Posted October 23, 2021 17 minutes ago, Carnelian2 said: I am not hypsersexual - but I would say that it depends on whether it is causing actual problems for you in your daily life. If so, therapy and one of the 12-step programmes might help getting to terms with it. I sincerely hope this is received in the friendly way it is intended. 12 step programs are a literal scam and they are so detrimental to mental health and self image.
Deleted Member Posted October 23, 2021 Posted October 23, 2021 7 minutes ago, Dustykat said: There days I want to cry cause it’s very hard to been under control of it I’ve been there so to an extent I can sympathise with you and I’m sorry to hear you are struggling so much. I wish I could do more for you but sadly I can’t other than to help give my take on what I’ve done. My inbox is open if you wish to talk 😊
Dustykat Posted October 23, 2021 Author Posted October 23, 2021 3 minutes ago, Pr3tty_Little said: I’ve been there so to an extent I can sympathise with you and I’m sorry to hear you are struggling so much. I wish I could do more for you but sadly I can’t other than to help give my take on what I’ve done. My inbox is open if you wish to talk 😊 Sorry My internet cashed talk you
Carnelian2 Posted October 23, 2021 Posted October 23, 2021 2 minutes ago, GentlemanDom said: 12 step programs are a literal scam and they are so detrimental to mental health and self image. That is your opinion. Would you also say that psychology is a scam as many of the thoughts within these are an inherent part of the programmes?
Dustykat Posted October 23, 2021 Author Posted October 23, 2021 2 minutes ago, Carnelian2 said: That is your opinion. Would you also say that psychology is a scam as many of the thoughts within these are an inherent part of the programmes? I understand I m trying that and I m seeing a specialist for tram-a and still have crazy issues and would like to see what other that have my problem do
Carnelian2 Posted October 23, 2021 Posted October 23, 2021 Just now, Dustykat said: I understand I m trying that and I m seeing a specialist for tram-a and still have crazy issues and would like to see what other that have my problem do The key is that you are acknowledging it, which is the first step on the way to recovery. It is good to explore different options to find out what works for you as well, but also have people around you with the same experiences that you can talk to - it also helps in seeing that you are not alone with this.
Dustykat Posted October 23, 2021 Author Posted October 23, 2021 2 minutes ago, Carnelian2 said: The key is that you are acknowledging it, which is the first step on the way to recovery. It is good to explore different options to find out what works for you as well, but also have people around you with the same experiences that you can talk to - it also helps in seeing that you are not alone with this. Thank you I’m sorry for bad spelling I’m French so when emotions are there I don’t think English so words are everywhere 🧚🏻♀️
Dustykat Posted October 23, 2021 Author Posted October 23, 2021 All I understand for some people hyper sexual has to do with traumatic incident and you become like this but only for some but not for all but I have tried most of the things we have mentioned I was hoping someone had something new to talk about 🧚🏻♀️🧚🏻♀️🧚🏻♀️🧚🏻♀️
Carnelian2 Posted October 23, 2021 Posted October 23, 2021 8 minutes ago, Dustykat said: Thank you I’m sorry for bad spelling I’m French so when emotions are there I don’t think English so words are everywhere 🧚🏻♀️ c'est ne pas grave. On peut aussi parler en Francais - ou comme meme une melange d'Anglais et Francais
Dustykat Posted October 23, 2021 Author Posted October 23, 2021 1 minute ago, Carnelian2 said: c'est ne pas grave. On peut aussi parler en Francais - ou comme meme une melange d'Anglais et Francais Merci but I thought we had to talk in English in this place but thank you 🧚🏻♀️
Carnelian2 Posted October 23, 2021 Posted October 23, 2021 3 minutes ago, Dustykat said: Merci but I thought we had to talk in English in this place but thank you 🧚🏻♀️ You will find discussions in German on the site, as I believe it is also big in Germany. I have seen some posts in French but I don't think it is popular in France and Canada Francophone
Dustykat Posted October 23, 2021 Author Posted October 23, 2021 1 minute ago, Carnelian2 said: You will find discussions in German on the site, as I believe it is also big in Germany. I have seen some posts in French but I don't think it is popular in France and Canada Francophone My German is not good
Carnelian2 Posted October 23, 2021 Posted October 23, 2021 1 minute ago, Dustykat said: My German is not good all I meant to say is that it is not limited to English. You can speak French :-)
Dustykat Posted October 23, 2021 Author Posted October 23, 2021 1 minute ago, Carnelian2 said: all I meant to say is that it is not limited to English. You can speak French :-) 🧚🏻♀️😁
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