But...Fet Is A Sex Site!

November 17, 2021

Errr...no

When you arrive in a stranger’s inbox with your 🍆 in your hand using honorifics, calling her a good girl and telling them your behaviour is acceptable because this is a sex site, it’s clear that you haven’t figured out what the kink community is about. That we’re on a kink site is not a reason to heed boundaries less. It’s a reason to be even more careful about unsolicited sexual advances.

You might want to shove your genitals in some people’s faces whilst you're here, but before you do you may like to make sure those faces are willing. Since we spend so much time in a sex-immersed eco-system, most of us work hard to make sure those who aren’t into it aren’t exposed to it.

Treading on boundaries is an excellent way to cock block yourself. The safer I feel, the more likely I am to put myself in sexually charged situations. I’m weird that way: call me odd but I kinda need to feel I won’t be ***d in order to let loose.

Many people separate sex and kink. Some of us can’t, these differences apply offline and on. Some are not here for sex at all. That’s why this is a kink network, not a ‘sex site’. There’s a hell of a lot of sex around, though, which is precisely why we’re so careful about establishing people’s sexual boundaries before we storm into their worlds with our hormones raging. This does not prevent people from finding sex partners. It makes it easier to get laid if you’re ethical enough to treat people like people.

November 17, 2021

The concept that BDSM can be non-sexual struggles to get into some ppl 's minds doesn't it? Sad sad sad

November 17, 2021

Very well written copperknob

November 17, 2021

Another nice writing, and very true about kink not always being about sex, and id even venture to guess that even the kinkiest of kinky couples enjoy a good quicky without any kink involved at all.

November 17, 2021

FFS guys how many more women have to come on here and say this before it sinks home? It’s a pretty simple concept. If she asks to see your cock send a pic or if you ask her if she wants to and the answers yes likewise but all other scenarios keep it in your pants!! Simple yes!! Next you’ll be on here bleating that there aren’t any real women on here it’s all bots and made up profiles!!
You have to ask yourself would I walk up to a lady in a bar and get my cock out?? The answer should be no just so you know and if it’s yes then you’re going on a list and it ain’t santas one either!! When I was growing up there was a lot of guys jumping out from behind bushes and exposing themselves to women and I wondered where they all disappeared to and now I have the answer, they are still there but just doing it from the safety of their keyboards. Don’t kid yourselves you’re still a perv in a dirty Mac!!!

November 17, 2021

It was one of my first lessons; when I was doing a lot of research I thought it was all lead by sex; until I met a good friend who is my sadist and we play non sexually - he taught me what I learnt isn’t always about sex.
I would want to know the person, see how each other entwine; if there is connection and passion - a penis does nothing for me before all of that; especially within my job I see one I seen them all

November 17, 2021

@7ohn_dom_and_sub
Some people just are not familiar with this concept and can learn. When you are 15, the world is different then when you are 45. Help them grow with a good example to follow

November 17, 2021

Men should never send woman dick pics, it takes away the mystery and they’ve seen millions of them anyway lol. Also it’s rude to just send someone a dirty pic without them asking. Some men just don’t understand this unfortunately.

November 17, 2021

32 minutes ago, Spanksy said:

FFS guys how many more women have to come on here and say this before it sinks home? It’s a pretty simple concept. If she asks to see your cock send a pic or if you ask her if she wants to and the answers yes likewise but all other scenarios keep it in your pants!! Simple yes!! Next you’ll be on here bleating that there aren’t any real women on here it’s all bots and made up profiles!!
You have to ask yourself would I walk up to a lady in a bar and get my cock out?? The answer should be no just so you know and if it’s yes then you’re going on a list and it ain’t santas one either!! When I was growing up there was a lot of guys jumping out from behind bushes and exposing themselves to women and I wondered where they all disappeared to and now I have the answer, they are still there but just doing it from the safety of their keyboards. Don’t kid yourselves you’re still a perv in a dirty Mac!!!
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Santa has a naughty list Spankster, just saying

November 17, 2021

29 minutes ago, MLG said:

@7ohn_dom_and_sub
Some people just are not familiar with this concept and can learn. When you are 15, the world is different then when you are 45. Help them grow with a good example to follow
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If only it we just the youngsters that did it...

November 17, 2021

41 minutes ago, Spanksy said:

FFS guys how many more women have to come on here and say this before it sinks home? It’s a pretty simple concept. If she asks to see your cock send a pic or if you ask her if she wants to and the answers yes likewise but all other scenarios keep it in your pants!! Simple yes!! Next you’ll be on here bleating that there aren’t any real women on here it’s all bots and made up profiles!!
You have to ask yourself would I walk up to a lady in a bar and get my cock out?? The answer should be no just so you know and if it’s yes then you’re going on a list and it ain’t santas one either!! When I was growing up there was a lot of guys jumping out from behind bushes and exposing themselves to women and I wondered where they all disappeared to and now I have the answer, they are still there but just doing it from the safety of their keyboards. Don’t kid yourselves you’re still a perv in a dirty Mac!!!
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Is it any different with women posting ass, breast or vagina pictures and yes ive even had them sent to me unsolicited by women.

I dont mind the female form, but theres more to a person than thier physical looks.

November 17, 2021

8 minutes ago, TheBookCollector said:

Is it any different with women posting ass, breast or vagina pictures and yes ive even had them sent to me unsolicited by women.

I dont mind the female form, but theres more to a person than thier physical looks.

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Of course it's different, the same way that it is different when a man posts his bits *generically* and as part of his profile rather than directly into an inbox.

🤯

November 17, 2021

I’ve still never sent an unsolicited dick pick. I literally have no idea why anyone thinks it’s a good idea when so many women clearly don’t appreciate it. I’ve had unsolicited nudes from women, I do appreciate it. That doesn’t mean it has to work the other way. I actually thought there would be less of that on a platform like this.

November 17, 2021

After I put on my profile I will share dick pics with my freinds iv not had any.

But iv still had guys offer me sex like dude I'm here 4 kink. I want sex I can get that any were. I don't even have to leave my bed room to hook up an get a booty call. I have a phone after all. I don't need a Web site to fet laid.

The amount of times iv had to explain that fetish isn't about sex. Yes there are some furies who are into getting laid. For me it's not at all.

Also as a submissive it's nothing to do with sex at all it's about power exchange an serving my master.

November 17, 2021

Unsolicited dick pics are one thing but ‘hi Cum Whore/slut’ (first message) really does make me think you are a dick

November 17, 2021

🙏🤦‍♀️🙏@Charms.......merely a reflection of wider world into kink positive community?.......enough to make me resign from modteam.
Now I just throw 'em to The FenWolfe for intro to sadistic male on male cnc play.........an educational experiential learning opportunity ! Changes perspectives,lol!
And a block list 350+ long.........My freedom to choose my self expression in playful kink.
Your 'brother' was wondering why you hadn't shared dicpics with him?lol😘🙏

November 17, 2021

I have just had to submit a post of my own about how men are treating me now I am searching for a woman. It really is disgusting how some are behaving and it infuriates me that my friends are good men and they're being over looked when having genuine approaches due to men who do this.

Cock pics, I have recieved only 2 since I started here 18 months ago... This is considered exceptionally lucky compared to how many some women get. It literally sparks up a scary fire of loathing in my me, seeing anyone treat another human being this way... All because of the label they assume over this site. The minute anyone thinks this is "just a sex site" they are binned as far as I am concerned. It's dangerous and they are showing how uneducated they are, if this is what they joined up thinking, like fuck will they have any ounce of respect for someone they are speaking to.

Edited November 17, 2021 by JenniferTP
bad grammar, ugh coffee is sinking in.

November 17, 2021

21 minutes ago, FitGirl said:

Unsolicited dick pics are one thing but ‘hi Cum Whore/slut’ (first message) really does make me think you are a dick

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Either way, you're still getting a dick 😂

November 17, 2021

42 minutes ago, Charms said:

After I put on my profile I will share dick pics with my freinds iv not had any.

But iv still had guys offer me sex like dude I'm here 4 kink. I want sex I can get that any were. I don't even have to leave my bed room to hook up an get a booty call. I have a phone after all. I don't need a Web site to fet laid.

The amount of times iv had to explain that fetish isn't about sex. Yes there are some furies who are into getting laid. For me it's not at all.

Also as a submissive it's nothing to do with sex at all it's about power exchange an serving my master.

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Top tip - adding to my profile

November 17, 2021

Well said, they get younger by the day too!

November 17, 2021

@BountyHunter ask.your sadistic freind if I can send fuckwits to him.

Tell my darling brother iv not had any unsolicited dick picks for ages but soon as I do he will get them. Can even get them made into fridge magnets for him.

Only dick pics I get are 1s I want to see an no not of here. Actually come to think of it I'm owed a dick pic or 2. Must send txts.

Only time I want to see a dick video that doesn't belong to people I want them if is when I'm watching porn

November 17, 2021

39 minutes ago, Charms said:

@BountyHunter ask.your sadistic freind if I can send fuckwits to him.

Tell my darling brother iv not had any unsolicited dick picks for ages but soon as I do he will get them. Can even get them made into fridge magnets

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Will swap your unwanted dick pics for a pic of his solitary white shirt. Not him. Just the shirt..... 😋

@Charms Fenwolfe @Boldbald is always at his ***s command. Shirtless 😋 😚

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November 17, 2021

I’ve not once gotten one of these dick pics y’all talk about though I have gotten messages from dicks.

November 17, 2021

I don’t agree with unsolicited dick pics. Why anyone would think it’s a good idea I don’t know. As people have said, if they want to see one there’s the internet for that (or very rarely, a guy friend they know)… if you are gonna send an unsolicited pic, send a full body one…

November 17, 2021

I’ve had people insult me for being on here, they also said stuff like “why are you on here if you don’t want sex??” and “that I had to fix myself because I didn’t want sex”. A few people have had the nerve to say that I can’t be a submissive because BDSM is exclusively for sex or that the foundation of BDSM is sex. Not to mention that unsolicited dick pictures, dirty messages and insults/degrading comments, especially when we’ve barely spoken for less than 10 minutes. More often than not the first thing someone messages me is either rude, disrespectful or sexual.