Need some advice

[Deleted Member]

I'm completely new to all this! But I have booked a session with a local professional mistress. I was wondering if anyone with any experience could talk with me, I don't want to waste her time and would love to refine what I will say in the chat before the session as I'm quite nervous and anxious that I will just blab on 😅 any help would be greatly appreciated. Would prefer private message I'm still shy.

[ey****]

So - is the session booked, or are you in the process of booking it?

If booked. Just basically turn up at the agreed time (not before unless this has been expressly agreed)

In most cases, when you arrive she will open the door from behind the door as she may well not be wearing appropriate clothing for all the neighbours to see - so just go in and wait for her to close the door - she might already be telling you to wait or where to go.

From there - I found "Hello, how are you?" usually works and she will do the same.  

If you like her outfit, or hair, or nails, or footwear, or dungeon (though it's likely to be a hire space, not hers - very few have their own place) then say that as an icebreaker.  Tell her you're looking forward to being her plaything for the time.

Have you already discussed kinda activities you might want to do together?  If not then she'll likely go through a couple of bits anyway. Just answer truthfully.  

In session the MAIN way to waste time is by being dishonest. 

On one side, she has done this before - you're not the first person through her door and not likely to be the first person for whom it's your first time.

On another hand, ultimately, at this point - you're just a client - be polite, be presentable, be honest - and then have fun together. 

[Foxter]

The best thing to say is. Is that you are un experienced and a bit nervous, and they will guide you. Professional dommes have many new comers and they will have a basic plan set out for beginners. Have a rough idea of the kinks you're interested in, and the ones you're not as well. And all is good.

If you've already booked a session then you shouldn't worry about wasting anyone's time.

[Deleted Member]

Thank you! Think I'm over complicating it in my head because I'm nervous 😅 I wasn't sure on if to turn up early or not so thank you for that!!

[ey****]

So yep.  Turning up early is a no-no as she won't be ready.  

If you're, say, her first session of the day - she will have arrived in plain clothes and have to change, touch up make up, and get the room ready for whatever is planned 

If there were other sessions that day, then, they won't be back to back so she might have left and come back (otherwise it's just burning *** on hire charges unless she's booked the place for the day) but would certainly need to change, shower, etc. etc and get things ready again.

A top tip is to aim to arrive early, but find a local cafe - or florist - you can pop into until the time is right 

[Deleted Member]

Thank you that settles my mind very much! 😅

[aPairOfBrownEyes]

Good luck. Be ready for everything.