Newly discovered & a question

[Deleted Member]

Hi all, I’ve been curious about searching for a site like this and then have taken the plunge today and signed up. I’m guessing there are some on here that are not genuine but it’s great to see the genuine kinks people here. It’s a great learning curve…
The question is, does it leave you more frustrated or have people found what they are looking for?

Thanks for reading

[Dy****]

I've had several experiences on here that were singularly satisfying, but nothing long term. Many people are not exactly what they think they are. And BDSM is a big journey of self-exploration, so I'm not annoyed by it. Comes with the process.

[ch****]

You'll always find frustration on the Internet, it's how you process it reflects your learning curve (:

Suppose that's a basic rule to life too!

[typhoon2]

I've found platonic and sexual kinky playmates here, engaging in real life. I've chatted with many more with regard to relationships and my events. It's online interactions, and yes - there can be many frustrations, but also many wonderful experiences. One gets what one works for here, as with similar sites. There is no substitute for putting in effort to chat, interact, comment, etc. even if ghosting, being ignored or dismissed and generally not having one's efforts reciprocated are the result. It really is worth the frequent lack of politeness or gratitude because there are many wonderful folk out there.

[ca****]

I'd say the frustration is based on your level of expectation. If you enter without expectation to see where it takes you it can be fun and educative, you will meet some great people. It'll help you discover more about yourself. But I'd say having a goal of "I'll definitely find what I'm looking for" usually doesn't work. It can occasionally still be annoying at times even without expectation but I'd say I've had more fun that frustration.

[Deleted Member]

I'm very new here, but I will say that my experience is already that this is a very engaging community, and I don't think there's ever going to me somewhere that will guarantee that you 100% find exactly what you're looking for, but this app seems to be the best I've seen for exploring a kinky side. People are open minded and civil and even if they aren't looking for the same as you, they are still friendly.

As long you aren't an ass to people then I think you'll find this to be a great place

[ey****]

there are a lot of people with success stories on this site

there are also those who do not consider their results to be fruitful.   It depends on how you measure things.   If the only measurement of success is you meet someone on here and have at least a short term relationship then it's a tough barometer. 

If of course you've spent time and boosted your knowledge and then potentially even met someone somewhere else using knowledge gained from here - then that is certainly a benefit.

"genuine" is often subjective.   I've seen people being accused of being fake or not genuine cos they wouldn't meet within a week or reply to a message. I've seen people accused of being fake cos they have their birth year in their username.

Some people aren't fake but still aren't interested/compatible 

[ge****]

A lot comes down to your approach and attitude - if you make meeting people your sole aim for using the site and don't make the effort with your profile and pics and getting along to social events or get involved with the site beyond blindly messaging other profiles then you're likely to find it frustrating.
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Take a more laid back approach and don't make meeting people your aim, even if you are open to doing so, and perceptions change.

[Mr****]

Frustration found here may be proportional to that you've experienced on other dating sites. I can vouch for you that this app is generally better for making matches than most sites.
As someone who has only been here for a couple days, I cannot exactly be a valuable source about this, but there is one clear cut superior advantage to Fet over all others: open communication on/and public posts.
If you do not receive swipes from who you are looking for, don't ve afraid to socialize and network your local matches. Groups of friends can be very helpful at gaining preferred friends

[SashaK]

I’ve met some great people from this site both online and in person. Frustration is inevitable but if you don’t try then you won’t know x

[Puppy6411]

Here feels more of a community than a strictly "dating site"
If you're looking to "hook up tonight" probably not the best
If you're looking to connect with like minded individuals, better.

[Deleted Member]

I honestly think frustration is part of every dating app/site as well as every social site. There are fake people everywhere, though in all honesty I've found that this one is much more welcoming and genuine in a sense.

[Ak****]

There's always a good topic or someone 5,000 moles away that wants to role-play so that's pretty fun. It takes time to find local people to connect with but the more info you feed into it and interact the more people understand you and hopefully want to get to know you more. I also always post what events we are going to and where incase someone is shy bit willing to interact in person. 😘💕

[Ak****]

Miles 🤣

[ke****]

I find that finding someone you are compatible with is a challenge even as a vanilla but add the many different kinks into it which aren't to everyone's taste each person has kinks they enjoy and don't enjoy, then finding someone compatible becomes even more of a challenge

[Deleted Member]

I am new here and chatted to a couple of people so far and met up with one. Not a lot of people on here in my area so that’s the only downfall for me.

[x-****]

Hello Woods, and welcome to Fet.  I have made many friends here, and did meet a lovely gentleman at one point on my kink journey.  Take your time, and have fun, this is a great community for the most part.  Have a fabulous day! 💙💎

[bl****]

So far I like this site on some of the sites most of the women was selling their ass I have never paid for love you think you made have a date well you guys will find out I tell them ladies I'm on disability I mean just enough to survive because I walked these streets with a six string on my back I play for keeps cuz I might not make it back I've Been Everywhere Standing Tall seen and faces and I Rock them all cuz I'm a cowboy on a steel horse I ride I'm wanting dead or alive with a $2 million bounty on my head