New Sub's Psychological Hurdle

[AverageJose]

Hello.

My wife and I are new to BDSM.  We are trying per her request.  I am the D, she is the s.

We've educated ourselves over a few months, and have experimented some.  
My wife is struggling with my role D role, as she's never seen in me in such a role.

Any good advice on how she can accept my new D role?

Thanks in advance.

 

[Itchlarin]

personally i would say try and let her imagination go wild, try methods to get into the mental state of the preferred imagination, if she doesn't like you as you are currently as a dom ask her on her opinion on what type of person to be there are many ways to be a dom or sub and it doesn't always have to be too far away from your normal self

[ey****]

if this was her request; speak with her on what she thinks she needs from you to make it work

[ge****]

5 hours ago, eyemblacksheep said:

if this was her request; speak with her on what she thinks she needs from you to make it work

This all the way - the answer to your question lies completely with your wife - if she initiated this, she probably has an idea in her head of what she is looking for/expects.
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Take your guide from her as everything will be dependent on her wants and desires - from the style of submissive she is, to the style of dominant she'd like you to be.
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And without knowing those things, any advice you might be given here could be completely irrelevant.
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Of course playing into all that is your wants and desires too, and the kind of dominant you think you are/want to be.
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Beyond that the only other thing I can suggest is seek out some on-line BDSM questionnaires, the type that list various elements of BDSM and have you rate them in terms of interest - complete them independently of one another, and then compare notes to find common areas of interest - that then gives you a loose framework to build a dynamic around.

[Lo****]

Are you enjoying the D role? Do you feel comfortable?

Edited July 23, 2022 by Lockfairy