Dipping my toes back in

[Leisa]

After months of being away to heal I have made the decision to slowly wade back in. I’m not certain I’m ready for a new dynamic, in fact I’m fairly positive I’m not, but I’ve missed my friends from the site. At first it was about healing and I think it’s slowly become about punishing myself for not being smarter and allowing someone in who refused to compromise at all. What’s scary? He’s local to me and we have a bunch of vanilla friends in common so I run into him frequently. It was only when he reached out on Father’s Day that instead of being hurt and scared I finally allowed myself to become angry at what he’d done. If there’s anyone new to the lifestyle I hope you can take this advice…if the potential refuses to acknowledge your concerns and have a conversation, RUN. If a potential refuses to give clear expectations and direction when requested…RUN. If a potential uses your limits as punishment…RUN. It’s abusive and it won’t work.

[ge****]

Welcome back Leisa...so good to see you and look forward to reading your wise words again 😊
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Sorry you've been through what sounds a rough time, but glad you're finding your way again even if it is slowly - healing can be a slow process and there's no need to rush it until your are ready.

[CopperKnob]

I'm echoing Gemini's comment. It takes time and ALL the emotions before things can feel good again. I'm glad you're back and with sensible advice for those who are new and a reminder for those that are not

[Deleted Member]

Glad to hear you are coming back. You are showing others not to give up.💖