ca**** Posted July 31, 2022 Posted July 31, 2022 As a newcomer, what should I expect and what should I follow? Any advise or insight is all welcome. Trying to be a bull/dom in this world. What works and doesn’t work? Open to all conversations!!
Deleted Member Posted July 31, 2022 Posted July 31, 2022 Be respectful. Don't try to engage in any sort of dynamic or petnames off the bat. Don't immediately try to delve into sex and kinks. People want to know who they're talking to before opening up about these things.
Ac**** Posted July 31, 2022 Posted July 31, 2022 Look into what your interested in and find your sub. I try to open convenience respectful but also so they know what you want.
Su**** Posted July 31, 2022 Posted July 31, 2022 Be honest about your interests and intentions but most importantly respect people and there boundaries. And I think this one may be obvious be polite either if its in person or in chat.
Ri**** Posted July 31, 2022 Posted July 31, 2022 Communication is key; establish what you are looking for, what your partner is looking for, and never ever ignore the safety word. You can try to stretch soft limits IF your partner is interested and OK with that but never hard limits (unless with explicit permission). Expect nothing so anything which does happen will be a nice experience
Ri**** Posted July 31, 2022 Posted July 31, 2022 Oh yeah, and in chat: when introducing youeself, talk to people in such a way you would talk to a regular person you just met in a bar or supermarket. If you need reminding: imagine the conversations you're starting will be read out loud to your mother or grandmother. (So do not to start with a 'Yo b*tch, get on all fours and start sucking coz I need a slave since I think I'm God's gift to womanhood" or any crap like that. It's a mystery to me that this has to be said in the 21st century )
Master885 Posted July 31, 2022 Posted July 31, 2022 Absolutely agree with rigviking , until a dynamic has been agreed and established then u are just 2 people having a conversation. Being a Dom gives no one the right to assume control over anyone else. It's a gift that is given freely by the sub and that can only come with trust.
Lord_Talion Posted July 31, 2022 Posted July 31, 2022 Expect ppl to tell yoy what to do cause such has been the way its been done for generations. You SHOULD listen to the opinions of others while using your ability to think for yourself in order to determine what's best for you. "Take what yoy want from the lifestyle, make it your own, and if anyone talks against what you decide is best for you than to he'll with them "
Deleted Member Posted July 31, 2022 Posted July 31, 2022 Being a dom isnt jist about dominating its actually moslty about trust and affection it can be more *** than reward sometimes as us littles all have mental and emotional disorders which is our need for this escapw. Good luck on your journey Daddy.
ny**** Posted July 31, 2022 Posted July 31, 2022 Your either a Dom or your not. You either have it in you or you dont. You can try to or be taught how to be a Dom but if its not truly in you... you will just ruin alot of sub, littles, slaves lives and mindset. And always remember. They are blessings. They choose who they decide to give themselves too. Always respect them. They are priceless!
ro**** Posted August 1, 2022 Posted August 1, 2022 I wouldn't say I'm a little but I def get the disorders part. Makes a lot of since being put like that it takes trust and affection. I've just started down my freak path so far I'd say I'm a dom so thanks for the insight, have been so wrapped up in having fun didn't consider that just because they like being dominated doesn't mean it isn't scary and ***ful specially when y'all barley know each other.
Bi**** Posted August 12, 2022 Posted August 12, 2022 Starts with a conversation with yourself you have to figure out what you like and what your limits are. Your ability to be a dom starts with understanding and the ability to communicate.
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