Age is a preference

[Deleted Member]

I agree, yes it is a preference. I don’t want to have a massive age gap either younger or older. A lot of young men (18-25) message on here that I just wouldn’t contemplate meeting when I am old enough to be their mother I want to be dominated by a man with maturity and experience.
Same goes for men older than me, I don’t want to meet a man old enough to be my father, no daddy issues here. 10 year age gap either younger or older is acceptable and my preference.

[He****]

I'm friends with many ages. However if you want to be in my bed there is a definite goal.

[Deleted Member]

100% agree. And I am sick of saying "You're clearly not that mature because you aren't mature enough to respect my decision"

[ey****]

and also - the whole "age is just a number" trope is very dismissive.

that it's not just about maturity or experience or so on - like someone can be im/mature for their age or in one field or another someone who is 25 might have 5 years consistent experience and someone who is 45 might have 2 years ad hoc experience

those are not my points

having a preference or a lack of care to an age is fine - but then it also depends on what you want from the other person and that age isn't just "life experience" but the era we grew up in might lead to similar tastes or experiences - being able to connect on similarities

but then also interests change over time.  and that might be when we're less bothered about going clubbing/partying (or, less able) or so on.

the whole "age is just a number" is very dismissive of someone's situation or experiences 

 

[Da****]

3 hours ago, buffalo947 said:

I fully agree, I’ve also met 50 year olds with the maturity level of a younger person too.

Oh I agree.. I know there are times that I act and have thethoughts of a 20 year old, or even younger...but those are a few and far between and never when it comes to respecting a sub or if safewords are used...

[Deleted Member]

I think sadly too many people have an inherent belief that they can’t possibly not be to someone’s liking. So they find it ludicrous that you wouldn’t be interested in them. It unfortunately is an all too accurate reflection of the self-absorbed, narcissistic society we live in today. x

[Deleted Member]

Thank you everyone for the feedback, I thought it was me at times and being fussy and too harsh almost.

[br****]

I cant date younger people at all, younger just stresses me out in so many ways and it honestly has since I was in high school. I don't know why, but I really just date people same age or older. So I defintely get it.

[6b****]

It’s not you, people get butthurt way too easily, especially when they hear the word “NO”.
That “block” button is your best friend 🙂

[Da****]

2 hours ago, buffalo947 said:

Thank you everyone for the feedback, I thought it was me at times and being fussy and too harsh almost.

Nope not at all.....well maybe a little....nope I was right the first time...not at all

[ke****]

Too many people are easily offended at the end of the day we all have our individual tastes, if we all liked the same things the world would be a boring place

[Ax****]

When it comes to physical attraction or finding a partner you can be as discriminatory as you want to be. Anyone telling you otherwise for literally any reason is pressuring you to do stuff you don't want to do and that's r*pe.

[Da****]

3 hours ago, AxAxRon said:

When it comes to physical attraction or finding a partner you can be as discriminatory as you want to be. Anyone telling you otherwise for literally any reason is pressuring you to do stuff you don't want to do and that's r*pe.

That is not r*pe if someone is asking her to look at someone outside he preferred age range... she still has the choice not to do it..

[cr****]

You politely turning someone down for any reason you chose shouldn't be an issue for anyone.

[Deleted Member]

Because you hurt their sensitivity. They want to be judged by how they are as partners not how young or old.
A 30 year old guy can be more mature/experienced/ etc, than a 50 years old guy and vice versa.
So I agree with them, age should not be a discriminatory factor in your choice.
That said it's obvious that it is always your choice to whom to submit.

[cr****]

You have absolutely no idea how insulting that is to *** victims every where. Real r*pe victims. You should for real read a definition of r*pe atleast before you throw the word around. All Actons have consequences and regardless of what some people may think when u type shit or you open your mouth and dumb shit falls out that is still an action and all actions carry cansaquenced.

[Na****]

I’m thinking of experience… I get a lot of messages from 23-25 year olds. “Age is just a number.” Yeah, but I’m nothing like mu 23-25-year-old self. I’ve experienced so much since then. I’ve grown so much. Learned so much. Done so much more LIVING. I also don’t want to feel like a mommy that them, as I would… it just feels young to me. And too much older would just feel like we don’t have a lot in common, or like was mentioned about fitness. Thinking not far down the line — 10-15 years. Age DOES matter.

[pl****]

I under your situation. I get it all the time! My youngest child is 23 this year old and I will not date anyone younger than my child. My oldest is 33 so sometimes even that is too young but I have tried

[go****]

That’s them being desperate. Move on.

[Un****]

Of course the simps, come out with posts like these...
It's perfectly fine, it's your choice to be close minded.

[Se****]

Some people don’t handle rejection well

[ey****]

56 minutes ago, UncutandDominant said:

Of course the simps, come out with posts like these...
It's perfectly fine, it's your choice to be close minded.

I think it's interesting your word choices here - to a degree words like 'simp' lose all meaning cos folk throw them around to try to devalue anything nice someone says or does.  But, I'll carry on....

if someone is "closed minded" because they set boundaries and preferences - then - the opposite would be someone who is basically desperate for anyone... which is probably a lot closer to being a simp.

[ge****]

1 hour ago, UncutandDominant said:

Of course the simps, come out with posts like these...
It's perfectly fine, it's your choice to be close minded.

How on earth is having a preference "close minded"?! To use an example based on your limited profile - I see you're not looking for men and therefore if, as a bisexual man, I messaged you offering you a blow job, you'd decline? Does that make you close minded for having that preference? If course it doesn't!!
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Having a preference around age is no different, and to suggest otherwise suggests a level of arrogant entitlement at best.
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As for the "simps" comment - given the overwhelming majority agree with the OP - there are either an awful lot of simps on this thread, or the weight of opinion is against you and I know which is the true statement.

[Deleted Member]

5 hours ago, JazzDominant said:

Because you hurt their sensitivity. They want to be judged by how they are as partners not how young or old.
A 30 year old guy can be more mature/experienced/ etc, than a 50 years old guy and vice versa.
So I agree with them, age should not be a discriminatory factor in your choice.
That said it's obvious that it is always your choice to whom to submit.

Why shouldn’t it be a factor? I don’t believe I mentioned maturity level as I know it works both ways, younger men can be more mature than older men. Even vanilla wise younger men are not my preference.

[Deleted Member]

4 hours ago, UncutandDominant said:

Of course the simps, come out with posts like these...
It's perfectly fine, it's your choice to be close minded.

I’m unsure how it makes me close minded. Could you explain? I am only open to men, does this also make me close minded? Just trying to understand how “the simps” mind think? I never mentioned maturity in my comment, but the level of immaturity in your comment is interesting! It’s ok to have an argument but your wording leaves a lot to be desired.