Age is a preference

[Ax****]

  On 8/5/2022 at 1:54 PM, Daddy-n-Paddy said:

That is not r*pe if someone is asking her to look at someone outside he preferred age range... she still has the choice not to do it..

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***/manipulation/guilt tripping= r*pe. If someone sets a limit regardless of what it is and you break that limit you are violating their consent. OP has made it clear they have hard limits for age ranges.

[Th****]

Younger guys do this to me all the time. Huge turn off. I'll be 43 this month. I'm not going to have much in common with a 22 year old. Like sex is great and all but if I can't have a conversation with you I'm done lol

[it****]

I completely agree with you.
Coke and Pepsi are both soda but you prefer coke. Your body your choice. Those that are challenging it are just being dense

[Da****]

  On 8/5/2022 at 2:37 PM, cross-plain662 said:

You have absolutely no idea how insulting that is to *** victims every where. Real r*pe victims. You should for real read a definition of r*pe atleast before you throw the word around. All Actons have consequences and regardless of what some people may think when u type shit or you open your mouth and dumb shit falls out that is still an action and all actions carry cansaquenced.

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Who are you responding to? Just trying to figure out where you are coming from...

[Da****]

  20 hours ago, AxAxRon said:

***/manipulation/guilt tripping= r*pe. If someone sets a limit regardless of what it is and you break that limit you are violating their consent. OP has made it clear they have hard limits for age ranges.

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Ok so by you statement.... if you go to a bar with your buddies and say you are done drinking and they say " Come on just one more"... they just r*ped you?? You know you have just minimized r*pe.. what you are saying is that everytime someone asks you to do something you don't want to do you are getting r*ped.. Thats how I read it...but hey I could be wrong.. As a friend of actual r*pe victims, I am appalled by your comments because you make r*pe trivial and you minimize the victims... I have seen what the after affects of r*pe can be. I've seen the ***, the shame, the hurt, the wondering what they did that lasts for YEARS.. someone being asked to look outside their preferences is NOTHING compared to that. Yes the OP is entitled to set her own preferences and set them as a hard limit, if she so chooses, but being asked, not ***d or guilt tripped into looking outside those preferences, where she can still say "not interested" is no where near r*pe.

[Da****]

  20 hours ago, AxAxRon said:

***/manipulation/guilt tripping= r*pe. If someone sets a limit regardless of what it is and you break that limit you are violating their consent. OP has made it clear they have hard limits for age ranges.

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I wrote this long reply earlier but it hasn't posted for whatever reason so here we go again..

So what you are saying is that if you go to a bar with a bunch of buddies and say I'm ready to go home and they say "no stay and have another drink" you just got r*ped? By saying that "***/manipulation/guilt tripping= r*pe. If someone sets a limit regardless of what it is and you break that limit you are violating their consent. OP has made it clear they have hard limits for age ranges." You minimize r*pe. Now I just used the bar example to show you just how what you have stated sounds. As a friend of actual r*pe survivors, you have just minimized them and all r*pe victims. I have seen what the aftermath of r*pe can be, the hurt, the self loathing, the ***, the wondering what they may have done wrong(even knowing it was not their fault). I am disgusted by your comments. Asking someone to look at possibly pushing a hard limit, is not forcing them to do it or bullying them into doing it and sure as hell not r*ping them. I hope you never have to see what r*pe can do to a person..

[Da****]

  7 hours ago, ittybrittyfun said:

I completely agree with you.
Coke and Pepsi are both soda but you prefer coke. Your body your choice. Those that are challenging it are just being dense

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Agree 1000000% your choice..

[Deleted Member]

  4 hours ago, UncutandDominant said:

First off, the simps comment was referring to these absolute ridiculous threads of logic I saw on display here with some members. Not even going to dignify their thought process with a response because I gain absolutely nothing from it but stress.

Second, If you are writing someone off solely on the basis of their age, it is literally by definition, close-minded. You haven't been with every man on the planet younger than you so to write off all of them due to bad experiences, even if it's many. And nor should you! Like I said before it your right... You may disagree, that's fine, I don't really care to change your mind, but that is the case.

Just to use me as an example so you don't feel I'm picking on you. I have a preference towards certain women, so it is somewhat close minded on my behalf to reject others for not falling into my preferred category. What about if i only prefered thick women? It would be close-minded to write-off all skinny women. Another example, I was approached by men on here and instantly blocked them. It doesn't matter to me that I'm close-minded when it comes men, thats a hard no for me.

Everyone has a certain degree close-minded otherwise everyone would be into everything, and that's not the case right?
Life is about perspective, if I have to break down because my wording because was offensive, maybe just own-it and accept who you are. Have your limits "on your sleeve", if you were confident enough to post about it, own your decision and preference and don't get defensive.

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Calling people simple in an argument or to prove a point doesn’t really come across as mature! I am owning my decision! I don’t like being with younger or much older men. I think I’ve clearly stated it. I’ve tried it, I don’t like it. It’s not like I just went nope, not for me. I don’t think it’s close minded. Age is only a number- a response I get very regularly and when rejected they just prove my point that I was correct right off the bat by trying forcing it. My point in the post was age is a preference, why can’t men (I only chat to men and am only interested in men) accept it and move on!! I will say it is not close minded- close minded might be never trying being with them. I don’t want to submit to someone younger. Also you’re on the site three days, if it’s stressing you out and conversations are, maybe avoid them. We all have a choice to scroll by!

[Deleted Member]

  5 hours ago, UncutandDominant said:

You also literally proved me right with your comment, yeah it would make close minded because, no I don't want an old man giving me a blow job. Only difference I don't care 😘

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How can someone’s sexual preference be closed minded? That comment in itself seems uneducated and close minded!

[ar****]

I think any interaction where someone argues back after being told what someone does or doesn’t find attractive is just massively cringe. Attraction is attraction. Sure someone might be cutting off their nose to spite their face by being too close minded or picky or whatever, but if you’re the person being rejected by that selection criteria then you are not in a good position to be changing that person’s mind there and then. It looks desperate and unattractive. Seen it lots of times!

It’s also often the case that when we reject someone we give whichever reason sounds the least mean, when there might be multiple reasons. It’s weird to dig at someone for their reasons for rejecting you when they’re probably only going to come out with worse ones if they’ve been trying to soften the blow thus far.

[sw****]

I agree age is a preference! I don't want someone who just turned 18. But I also don't want someone who's older than my dad. I totally understand

[Vu****]

I think your reaction is perfectly reasonable.

[ge****]

  12 hours ago, buffalo947 said:

How can someone’s sexual preference be closed minded? That comment in itself seems uneducated and close minded!

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Couldn't agree more - having a preference is not "close minded" in the slightest, in fact it's arguable it could be quite the opposite as preferences are often based on experience or knowledge, so to have formed them has taken some level of open mindedness to reach those preferences.
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Strikes me that accusations of closed mindedness or simping are coming from a place of immaturity and lack of comprehension completely and as such aren't worthy of any merit in the slightest.
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If people can't handle rejection because of a preference, then I'd suggest the problem lies firmly and squarely with them and not the person holding the preference.
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About the only time where it may not would be if it was obvious the preference was grounded in some form of bigotry (racism, homophobia etc) which clearly an age preference is not.

[CopperKnob]

  Yesterday at 07:28 AM, UncutandDominant said:

Of course the simps, come out with posts like these...
It's perfectly fine, it's your choice to be close minded.

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I'd rather converse, be friends etc with a 'simp' than I would with someone who 'hides' their true character by sending out messages to those whose comments in a forum post which they disagree with calling them c*nts etc.
I'll expect one from you soon because, if you identify as a Dominant, then one of your traits should be being respectful and accepting of peoples boundaries

[ol****]

it would be poor if we were all the same.

Ultimately for me it's the relationship between two people.

I think online you set boundaries to avoid being overwhelmed with messages. 

I used to get 25 year old women messaging me all the time. So I set some limits despite the fact that I might prevent the one in a million person who might have been a connection.

I think it's understandable that folks set theselimits in the online world. 

Rejection does hurt but whining about it is not the way to go.

 

[Ak****]

We have a pretty broad range 28-55 but still get 18yr olds wanting to play. That's all fun when it comes to an event but when you're looking for a serious relationship I'd rather not have another kid to take care of (age and or maturity level) 🤣💖

[go****]

  7 hours ago, CopperKnob said:

I'd rather converse, be friends etc with a 'simp' than I would with someone who 'hides' their true character by sending out messages to those whose comments in a forum post which they disagree with calling them c*nts etc.
I'll expect one from you soon because, if you identify as a Dominant, then one of your traits should be being respectful and accepting of peoples boundaries

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Side note @copperKnob I have a keeshound too… 😯

[Al****]

Age is a very big theme for me. It’s hardly just a number. I’m 48 but prefer men 18-28. Honestly I’m rather repulsed by my own age group. I can’t define why I’m such an extreme cougar, I just like them young… young, skinny and pretty. No beards.

[BruiseWayne]

Funny when I was younger the thought of it weirded me out more than it does now. Though now that I'm at the age where much younger women seem to be attracted to me I don't mind it at all. Only thing I'm wondering is where the f**k was all this attention when -I- was 25-30 yrs old, lol. Like a lot of others have said here women my age can be completely immature and awful while women in their 20s can be perfectly mature and lovely so I tend not to worry about it that much any more. If a woman I vibe with is my age, cool, if she happens to be much younger then that's cool too.

 

Honestly because of the nature of the things I like it doesn't behoove me to restrict it even further by limiting the age range of a potential mate too much either.

 

Something else to keep in mind though... People's preferences should always be respected, but that doesn't mean their reasons for having them are always respectable.

[Da****]

  20 hours ago, AlienAngel said:

Age is a very big theme for me. It’s hardly just a number. I’m 48 but prefer men 18-28. Honestly I’m rather repulsed by my own age group. I can’t define why I’m such an extreme cougar, I just like them young… young, skinny and pretty. No beards.

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Repulsed? I save those words for enemies. You’re probably just incredibly shallow if you “just like them young skinny and pretty”. If it’s an issue for you you can block anyone not fitting your narrow parameters. Enjoy your BOX 📦 !

[CopperKnob]

  1 hour ago, DarthDaric said:

Repulsed? I save those words for enemies. You’re probably just incredibly shallow if you “just like them young skinny and pretty”. If it’s an issue for you you can block anyone not fitting your narrow parameters. Enjoy your BOX 📦 !

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Maybe repulsed wasn't the best choice of words but do you know what is repulsive, for me?
Individuals who are unable to respect other peoples preferences, boundaries, limits and resort to unnecessary namecalling.

[ey****]

Guys be like - I have poor personal hygiene, take little pride in my appearance and have a set of beliefs of how women should behave - but women who won't give me a chance are the real closed minded ones. 

[ge****]

  3 hours ago, DarthDaric said:

Repulsed? I save those words for enemies. You’re probably just incredibly shallow if you “just like them young skinny and pretty”. If it’s an issue for you you can block anyone not fitting your narrow parameters. Enjoy your BOX 📦 !

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Whilst "repulsed" may have been on the extreme side, without understanding why that word was chosen is it right to cast judgement? I think calling someone shallow for their preference is also pretty extreme - especially when your own profile details how you are looking for "young" and "little lady" - is that not shallow too?

[Da****]

  2 hours ago, CopperKnob said:

Maybe repulsed wasn't the best choice of words but do you know what is repulsive, for me?
Individuals who are unable to respect other peoples preferences, boundaries, limits and resort to unnecessary namecalling.

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It’s all good. I get it. People our age generally don’t get it

[Da****]

  1 hour ago, gemini_man said:

Whilst "repulsed" may have been on the extreme side, without understanding why that word was chosen is it right to cast judgement? I think calling someone shallow for their preference is also pretty extreme - especially when your own profile details how you are looking for "young" and "little lady" - is that not shallow too?

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You’re right. I was harsh. And a bit d**ky. Not shallow.