Obscene Messages

[Vi****]

So I do wonder why I bother to have a profile rarely its read, just lately all I'm getting are obscene messages. It's so boring!

People I will just no thanks this or block you.

Why do you think a "Hi I've a big black 12inch cock for you call me" and a number do you think is a great opener 😏

Or "I want to destroy your pussy inside and lick your asshole deep and make you scream" really gonna warrant a happy reply.

Its a long shot thats for sure.

Is it too much to ask for a good conversation?!

How does everyone deal with them? they are starting to wear me down. 

Edited August 4, 2022 by Vic1077

[Je****]

I got exactly the cock call me message. 

 

I said nah no bbc is as impressive to reach uk from ohio 😭🤣

 

The messages i also get are awful. 

Like so bad. 

Ita disheartening 

[DevonDom]

A lot of people have no respect for anyone but themselves, and their own needs. Just block them, they will never enrich your life with that mentality.

[en****]

I've had similar issues, what worked for me was to remove my bio, so I no longer have anything to get mad at them for not reading lmao.
I also suggest message filters, they genuinely work wonders!

[Mr****]

Ive always been polite with my messages. Not always had luck with chats but aint gonna change who i am. Kink or not being pooite and respectfull costs nothing. Hope ya find what looking for and dont get any or many more bad messages. :)

[Deleted Member]

Let them think or reflect.🤔ah never mind some are not even interested in what you say and believe it’s a ‘meat’markett

[sm****]

sadly most of the knickledragger brigade think it's open season and they are gods gift in their own minds, thinking it's a quick easy "bed hop"

Pure narcissism and a total lack of respect and understanding for the person they are contacting.

best left well alone and forgotten about, or not even responding to and blocked.  

I'd suggest changing your filters, so a certain word count is needed to contact you, this puts off a lot of the dross as they can't think of something to write and how to interact.

It won't stop all but will help weed out the nettles.

 

Edited August 4, 2022 by smeagol

[Cu****]

There seems to be a thought by some men, that if you’re female, and on here, that you’re mind is full of the same obscenities that theirs is, and you’ve just been watching the same porn that they’ve got excited from, and therefore you must be just waiting on your knees, for the dross that they serve to be splattered across your screen. And that you’ll thank them for such smut.
As has been mentioned, where’s the respect? Where’s the time taken to talk and to find out what you might be searching for? Where’s the effort to ask, consider, muse over, formulate other questions to develop the further and potentially deeper conversation? Oh wait…there isn’t time for that sort of thing. Instant gratification isn’t rewarded by thinking. It’s all to do with some male urge to say exactly what they think and what they want, and not you, and to get a response NOW!
So how can some men actually consider that such foul drivel, can actually make them seem attractive to women? Do they want to be seen as being able to be trusted with someone else and to be responsible for their safety, sanity and by agreement? Of course not, that’s difficult, and besides, the moment has gone. You didn’t respond, so they went and filled some other, unsuspecting female’s in box with the same detritus.
Please note. I said “some” men. Not, all men.
Please, use your block button, don’t say anything, don’t give them the narcissistic pleasure of knowing that they’re upsetting you, and leave the men who can only behave as though they’re only as old as their UK shoe size, to wonder why they don’t deserve, not receive, a reply.

[Deleted Member]

I am feeling a bit left out, I almost never get these messages 🤣 I have filters that blocks out U30s... I wonder if that's why?

[sm****]

Just now, Lady_Char said:

I am feeling a bit left out, I almost never get these messages 🤣 I have filters that blocks out U30s... I wonder if that's why?

probably have a point, i find two age categories seem to come across as the main offenders, the randy under 25's wanting a quick fling and lack of social skills when interacting with people and the over 50's thinking im uber dom and can get some young lady to float my ego.

[Vi****]

Thanks all, don't get me wrong I love me some filth but to open a message straight into it, its just lazy and crass. Even now 6 guys have messaged me, 1 referenced this thread saying he's not got a big vlack cock but he'd love to lick my ass.  🙄 no respect at all.

Usually I just sigh and ignore but its beginning to wind me up, perhaps I need a break. 

I do use message filters and min words but they still get though, something that is definitely flawed on here.

[Deleted Member]

Reply in a different language?

[Vi****]

11 minutes ago, CumbriaLeather said:

There seems to be a thought by some men, that if you’re female, and on here, that you’re mind is full of the same obscenities that theirs is, and you’ve just been watching the same porn that they’ve got excited from, and therefore you must be just waiting on your knees, for the dross that they serve to be splattered across your screen. And that you’ll thank them for such smut.
As has been mentioned, where’s the respect? Where’s the time taken to talk and to find out what you might be searching for? Where’s the effort to ask, consider, muse over, formulate other questions to develop the further and potentially deeper conversation? Oh wait…there isn’t time for that sort of thing. Instant gratification isn’t rewarded by thinking. It’s all to do with some male urge to say exactly what they think and what they want, and not you, and to get a response NOW!
So how can some men actually consider that such foul drivel, can actually make them seem attractive to women? Do they want to be seen as being able to be trusted with someone else and to be responsible for their safety, sanity and by agreement? Of course not, that’s difficult, and besides, the moment has gone. You didn’t respond, so they went and filled some other, unsuspecting female’s in box with the same detritus.
Please note. I said “some” men. Not, all men.
Please, use your block button, don’t say anything, don’t give them the narcissistic pleasure of knowing that they’re upsetting you, and leave the men who can only behave as though they’re only as old as their UK shoe size, to wonder why they don’t deserve, not receive, a reply.

Thanks for this much appreciated. 

[Vi****]

11 minutes ago, Lady_Char said:

I am feeling a bit left out, I almost never get these messages 🤣 I have filters that blocks out U30s... I wonder if that's why?

Char me too I changed it to from 30 up!!! I'll.pass them onto you so you don't feel left out lol

[sm****]

sometimes i go radio silent and have the profile hidden from view when i can't be arsed with the kindergarden mentality at times.  While viewing the forums and interacting with people i already know helps.

[Vi****]

Ooo how do you hide it away? Yeah I do likenti read the forums and there's some great people on here too.

[lesdevon]

Its because some men think there dominant over every woman and are to lazy to read profiles very rude

[Go****]

I have the age limit, word count and profile pic filters on. I still get those types of messages, but not as many.

My only suggestions would be to increase your word count, and filter out non premium/via members, as they're a little less likely to send crappy messages.

[Da****]

As a guy, who doesn't sent those messages or dick pics, I don't understand, if you are trying to build trust or anything why would you be so disrespectful to send crap like that. My assumption is that most think that their big dick is their only redeeming quality... and not just an "oh BTW I have a big dick" ... good luck ladies

[Lord_Talion]

Ubber-doms are everywhere and there's a few other sites that might be better

[Deleted Member]

"Hi I've a big black 12inch cock for you call me"

Now to most, thats an instant block, but there's many that, for them, that's enough to make them interested & while, even just 1 person out of 100 replies, then they will keep sending the messages so it's a double edge sword, those who send the messages will keep sending them, if there's people who do respond to them, so there's 2 guilty parties really in this situation, both perpetuate each other

[Deleted Member]

1 hour ago, Daddy-n-Paddy said:

As a guy, who doesn't sent those messages or dick pics, I don't understand, if you are trying to build trust or anything why would you be so disrespectful to send crap like that. My assumption is that most think that their big dick is their only redeeming quality... and not just an "oh BTW I have a big dick" ... good luck ladies

Actually I don't think most see it as their only redeeming quality, they just know there are women that's main requirement in a sexual partner is dick size, they want that big dick, seen it on soooooo many profiles & on sites/apps these men know there are those women who just want to hook up with someone we'll hung & that's all they are looking for & such a direct message, to those guys, weeds out those who aren't going to just drop their knickers at the sight of a big package

[Da****]

10 minutes ago, DomDaddySir said:

Actually I don't think most see it as their only redeeming quality, they just know there are women that's main requirement in a sexual partner is dick size, they want that big dick, seen it on soooooo many profiles & on sites/apps these men know there are those women who just want to hook up with someone we'll hung & that's all they are looking for & such a direct message, to those guys, weeds out those who aren't going to just drop their knickers at the sight of a big package

I can understand that pov.

[Wo****]

🙏🤗🙏 a block list in excess of 450! Boring as they are, applying silly comments can provide a few giggles. Pity blocking society isn't as easy🤣😘

[Lo****]

2 hours ago, Lady_Char said:

I am feeling a bit left out, I almost never get these messages 🤣 I have filters that blocks out U30s... I wonder if that's why?

I think my block starts at 49? I rarely get disrespectful messages, though the odd one gets through. My profile blurb is also (for those that bother to read them) quite offputting to anyone looking for a bit of casual.