I need some help understanding some things

[ra****]

Hey im new to everything well seminew actually and i had some questions. My husband and i are again semi new to the bdsm community and i wanna fullfil his needs to the fullest but i dont know what all to do. We took a bdsm test to figure out somemore of eachothers kinks and that helped somwat but i still dont think hes fully fullfilled or its that he doesnt know what all to do either.we have been doing our own research on what we can do but i still need a bit of help understanding and coming up with different scinarios. We move in a few days and i wanna surprise him with something on the first night. Weve been married for a year and a half and have had a child together.  All advice would be very much appreciated and i wanna use the advice given to set something up for whenever we move into the new house. He doesnt know im gunna surprise him and honestly i cant wait to ^-^ 

[Ch****]

Ever consider adding a 3rd?

[Ch****]

Could tie yourself up for him that'd be a nice surprise

[Pi****]

Put some new toys out you guys have never used.. let him pick what he wants to use on you

[li****]

Adding a third with a baby sounds stressful
.. all I know is we have to kind of know what you are both into ,to answer this and theres not enough . Do you guys like dress up role play ? Maybe

[ma****]

you could post a few pics to help legitimize your profile

[Go****]

Communication is key…..

[mi****]

I would have him take you out to the bar and act like he’s never seen you before make him buy you drinks and shoot him down a couple times. Really make him earn it like he did in the beginning and when he closes the deal be extremely vocal when he does anything you like in the bedroom

[Greatdam]

Still figuring out what i like interacting with other kink members alot of different types of things that we don't know we like or never new existed

[Ge****]

I don’t know what you’ve explored and what your kinks lean towards…. Wax play? Bondage? D/s power exchange? Those are the easy places to start with new toys or scenes.

[CopperKnob]

Why not use the outcome of his BDSM test and your own knowledge of him as an individual and the conversations that you've had together to determine what you'll surprise him with? At least that way it should be a well received surprise rather than something which has randomly been suggested here and not go down as well as you'd like
I wouldn't overthink it

[Da****]

1 hour ago, macNmiller said:

you could post a few pics to help legitimize your profile

What does that have to do with anything...

[Ne****]

Exploring is a process, having a s/o agreeable with that mindset is amazing. Its a journey though so it will take time and testing. Fulfillment for you might not mean the same for him, the best way would be a good line of communication and a healthy dose of adventure mindset

[Da****]

2 hours ago, CopperKnob said:

Why not use the outcome of his BDSM test and your own knowledge of him as an individual and the conversations that you've had together to determine what you'll surprise him with? At least that way it should be a well received surprise rather than something which has randomly been suggested here and not go down as well as you'd like
I wouldn't overthink it

Good call

[sh****]

Look through his porn history on his phone 😂

[Ra****]

Porn is always a good source for inspiration but not always true to reality. There’s a lot of books and written online. Start reading it and talk about the things that inspire you maybe it inspires your husband too. It’s all about communication

[Pa****]

To be honest, you should probably have an open discussion about it all. Define your dynamics and your rolls in your relationship and then live it. In any sort of bdsm dynamic, communication is key. Start simple and then expand with time. That’s how you grow.

[DD****]

Its not easy to give advise when one does not know what u guys are into. Or what roles you have set betwenn the two.
To start a scenario van be as easy as u in lingerie or naked offering him a drink on one knee with ur head down, stretched arms holding the plate and saying have adrink Master/Sir. Thats if thats the dynamic between u and ur husband. Just turn it around if its the other way around.
U can do so with ropes and toys just to start your play. And its also for future reference on what is possible to ask.
And thats just an idea from this side.

[Deleted Member]

Have you each openly discussed your limits?

[fo****]

Is he into cuckolding if so you guys should definitely give it a shot it’s definitely the most intense orgasm I’ve ever had whenever my girlfriend dose it to me

[BruiseWayne]

One idea might be to watch some kink porn together and talk about the things that turn each of you on.

 

A Kink.com subscription might be really good for you two. There's loads and loads and loads ( no pun intended ) of different kinds of BDSM related vids in just about every different type of flavor you could think of. I'm sure you won't be lacking in the inspiration department after watching a few of those.

[Bi****]

Communication is key just because you're kinky doesn't mean you don't have to talk about it as a matter of fact it means you have to talk more about it. The joy is there is no wrong way to talk about it

[Ga****]

Roleplay is a kind of fun way to break the ice and get things started

[Deleted Member]

Welcome to the community! My advice is to ask each other a million questions. Learn about what turns each other on and find common ground. Don’t surprise him with your kinks. Communicate and surprise him with something new that you both have interest in. This is especially important for those new to this. You don’t want to create a scenario that you’re excited to share only to discover your partner hates it. So communicate as much as possible to get ideas for your surprise. There are also d/s and fetish kink lists that have ratings. If you’re not sure where to start, maybe it would be good to start by both of you filling one out and then discussing it. Hope that helps!