Cuckolding

[ki****]

Why is it so hard to find a woman who would be into a cuckold relationship????

[ey****]

I think at it's simplest you're asking someone to be in a relationship with you, but not have sex with you - but you want them to find someone else to have sex with to serve your fetish

if they wanted to just have sex with someone they could cut you out of the equation entirely and have sex with the other person 

[ki****]

A cuckold relationship doesn't mean you don't have sex with your partner. In some cases, yes, but it's a relationship where you allow your partner to have sex with other men.

[du****]

I’d be happy with a female that would Peg me for a night lol

Relationship is a lofty goal your setting there.

[ey****]

  18 minutes ago, kinkin_chris said:

A cuckold relationship doesn't mean you don't have sex with your partner. In some cases, yes, but it's a relationship where you allow your partner to have sex with other men.

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yeah, but your default position is still "be in a relationship with me - but - I want you to go off and do stuff with other men" 

so, again, if that interests her why not cut you out and do stuff with these other men?

the opening proposition always falls flat.

[ge****]

The thing is OP like any other type of "relationship" the key is finding the relationship first and foremost and then building on that - whereas looking for a specific type of relationship is almost putting the cart before the horse.
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Sure on sites like this you have a little more leeway to find both, but you still need to find the relationship first for the other specifics you are looking for to grow - and as many men will tell you about sites like this, finding a match isn't an easy thing to do, for all the usual well documented reasons.

[AN****]

We are still around 🙈😈

[jw****]

My first reaction to this is; “ why doesn’t she just f**k that guy?” Why start a relationship with you, and then start f**king that guy? I know I’m simplifying the whole dynamic, but it doesn’t make much sense to me.

[Tc****]

Yeah a friend who’s in an open relationship invites me over for playtime in front of him

[Deleted Member]

Cause a lot of men and women can’t handle seeing their SO f**ked by another much less in front of them. Human nature.

[Deleted Member]

I don’t know but I want it too 😭

[ST****]

To be honest I never minded my girl f**kin someone else when I was f**kin her friends in front of her but this girl took some convincing she was a real sub didn't want to disappoint me... It was a long time ago and at that point in my life I liked that sort of thing were she did exactly what I said and nothing more not even a sound . Now I like em fiesty lol

[SE****]

That is not so bad if u can trust your significant other

[Deleted Member]

I think it depends on how you present it too or bring it up

[ST****]

Definitely if you bring it up Like you don't care then 9-10 times it won't happen

[oa****]

I put the C in cuckold

[Lo****]

I look at it like this, if you are not secure in yourself and in your relationship then this type of excitement is not for you. Understanding that it's about the pleasure your significant other is able to experience from another while in front of you is what makes cuckold cuckolding.

[Ki****]

*** of the unknown

[roped_kitten]

I've been asked if I would consider this kind of relationship a few times now. There's a lot going on in that dynamic that makes it quite high-stakes for me. Mentally speaking. I can occasionally glimpse the appeal from my role's perspective, but it also creates a lot of emotional strain I'm 100% sure I'm not equipped to deal with.
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For starters, I will usually only have sex with people I have feelings for and I don't tend to have those kinds of feels for more than one person at a time. They develop over time and many exchanges/encounters.
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Then... If you want to watch, that's tapping into an exhibitionist streak of the psyche from an interesting angle. You're being watched but by someone who has seen all of you anyway (assuming your pairing includes sex and a strong emotional bond). I'm not a natural exhibitionist and don't think it would matter that the voyeur had seen it all before. The watching would be unsettling, no matter the watcher.
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There's also battling your own perceptions of the behaviour. If our positions were switched I couldn't see it as anything other than a total *** of trust. I think cuckolding is not a kink you can casually dip into, or try without preparation and consequences. If my partner spanks me and I'm not into it, we move on. If he wants to be tied and learns restraint is more frustrating than arousing, we haven't brought a third or more person into our relationship. Perhaps I'm limited by viewing it through my own flawed equipment but opening your bond to include others seems to be the kind of boundary you can't cross back over once done.

[ge****]

  33 minutes ago, roped_kitten said:

I've been asked if I would consider this kind of relationship a few times now. There's a lot going on in that dynamic that makes it quite high-stakes for me. Mentally speaking. I can occasionally glimpse the appeal from my role's perspective, but it also creates a lot of emotional strain I'm 100% sure I'm not equipped to deal with.
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For starters, I will usually only have sex with people I have feelings for and I don't tend to have those kinds of feels for more than one person at a time. They develop over time and many exchanges/encounters.
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Then... If you want to watch, that's tapping into an exhibitionist streak of the psyche from an interesting angle. You're being watched but by someone who has seen all of you anyway (assuming your pairing includes sex and a strong emotional bond). I'm not a natural exhibitionist and don't think it would matter that the voyeur had seen it all before. The watching would be unsettling, no matter the watcher.
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There's also battling your own perceptions of the behaviour. If our positions were switched I couldn't see it as anything other than a total *** of trust. I think cuckolding is not a kink you can casually dip into, or try without preparation and consequences. If my partner spanks me and I'm not into it, we move on. If he wants to be tied and learns restraint is more frustrating than arousing, we haven't brought a third or more person into our relationship. Perhaps I'm limited by viewing it through my own flawed equipment but opening your bond to include others seems to be the kind of boundary you can't cross back over once done.

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That's incredibly well put and worded - the idea of adding another is indeed a tricky and potentially perilous path to take - on the one hand it *can* be exciting and very liberating, but on the other it can be a total mind f**k and lead to anxiety, resentment and worse.
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I've sat both sides of the fence and appreciate how difficult it can be to get your head round - especially when coming from unstable foundations in the first place.
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So to anyone considering cuckolding, or even pure non-monogamy I'd urge caution, it's a very narrow tightrope to tread and not for everyone - sure it *can* be incredibly fulfilling and exciting, but it can also ruin a relationship completely - so you need absolute certainty and stability before even going down that route, and more importantly clear boundaries and limits agreed by all that are *only* changed with absolute agreement from all concerned.
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Personally I find and have found, the idea of watching a partner with another incredibly arousing and exciting, but when that has been taken to me not being present I struggle.

[ey****]

I know a few folk who do some form of cuckolding and there's different trenches

one is a more professional/as-a-service route as either a one-off or any form of ongoing thing - for example seeing any form of Pro-Domme to build a regular relationship and mentioning cuckold is an interest - they (and any partners) may have their own boundaries here - but sometimes it can just be talking about the great sex they (allegedly) had : although I do know a Mistress who allowed her sub to do 'clean up' duties.   There's so many strings to this arrangement cos it can also include paying for dates or so on.

This does work for some (I mean, it's still a kinda relationship with someone who won't sleep with you - and you're funding her time/dates with someone else) but not others 

A lot of the people I know who have an element of cuckold; it took a long time and a lot of mental challenges to get there regardless on their own boundaries.  This is ultimately the fantasy of the cuck, and benefits them more than their partner.

There are some I know who do find other men to sleep with but this has it's own psychological aspect in not wanting to sleep with just anyone but it's someone else's feelings to consider also.  

There are some, who, ahem - will go out to a club or bar and then go home and make something up about what they did and that's enough for their partner.   

But in particularly those latter cases this is difficult because it's something to be worked towards, which has its own challenges, rather than something which works as a starting position.  

[Deleted Member]

I think it starts out spontaneously between a healthier woman with big appetite, who is not necessarily dominant but strongley "independent" and less energetic partner who is not very much into sex anyways and with a blasé character...but they've stronger ties than a simple lack of satisfactory sex could damage think shared financial burdens, shared bank account, home mortgage, *** etc...and or genuine love that with time turned platonic... so they are still solid together with plenty of trust, however being who she is and him being who he is, her : "I met this hot guy" , him * happy to escape the burden of sex* " ok .. have fun, don't be late..."
I think most enduring cuckold relationships happens thus way, very much unlike the fantasies we see on porn....

[Ni****]

I'm also searching for the answer to this.

[ey****]

  2 hours ago, thurrock655 said:

I'm also searching for the answer to this.

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many have answered above. search no more.

[Aihtak]

I’m into it. But this can only be done in a solid, well grounded and communicative relationship.
Look for a partner that understands it and be open about it. Express your desire of watching your partner be sexually pleased. This can also be done as a gift of love and respect. <3
Don’t give up! ☺️