Coming out to relatives

[KinkyMike-6941]

What experience has anyone of coming out to their relatives? My late mother knew about my straitjacket ans stilletos but I have no idea if she ever spoke to my siblings about it.

[Subbynick]

Family don’t need to know in my opinion sure it’s great to come out as gay and if they find your sex toys it’s best to be honest but... talking about but plugs and whips isn’t really dinner table conversation

[ey****]

you don't need to come out.   This isn't a sexuality it's a lifestyle choice.   While some people do find that their kink interests do tie in with their sexuality; it's still not your sexuality.

 

[Mollysdailykiss]

Personally I have found being out about my kinks makes it all the much easier. There are been tricky moments for sure but writing openly about sex and kink means people find out about your life. However it totally depends on your situation. There is no need to come out unless you feel like it would be beneficial or maybe help you to explain a relationship you are having to your family.

Mollyx

[BDSM_Master]

This coming out greatly depends on how far you are in. If it is just kinky stuff, everyone dose a bit of that.. Good point - @eyemblacksheep

[ey****]

there's a lot you need to weigh up.  A lot of people know what I do, but then I also film.  There are at least 2 people in my friends circle have stumbled over things I'm in - and - to cut a story short, being open "hey, I've been spending the last however long travelling around the country and Europe making BDSM pornography" removes the power of anyone I've had crosswords with from being able to "out" me.

I guess a question is - would your life be easier or better if you were "out" and what does that mean to you?

Funny enough I had this kind of conversation with someone yesterday regarding - well - sometimes you get people who have kinks and fetishes surpressed and they come to forums (like this one) and just want to get it off the chest "hey, I have this fetish - is this normal?" (yes. sorry...) because they feel they can't raise it with friends (or family)

the thing is... even if your friends and family know - they still largely don't want to know about your fetishes for assorted reasons.  You still probably can't have the conversation about how you're curious about (whatever) so being out doesn't really improve much.