Popular Post br**** Posted September 13, 2022 Popular Post Posted September 13, 2022 I thought I found a great DOM to connect with but lately I’ve been feeling like I’m chasing him , I feel like I should step back and let him approach…..damn what should I do ? I don’t want to scare him off 🤦🏾♀️
sp**** Posted September 15, 2022 Posted September 15, 2022 You should step back if someone not bothering just move on 😉
Kam Posted September 15, 2022 Posted September 15, 2022 If he's not coming for u like a Dom should then let it go....move on. A dom spanks and respects. It's like any other relationship. If he/she is distant then let them be.
sp**** Posted September 15, 2022 Posted September 15, 2022 You should step back if someone not bothering just move on 😉 don't waste your time feelings on those u don't bother ..
Deleted Member Posted September 15, 2022 Posted September 15, 2022 Don’t Chase. I’ve made this mistake as well when I was super into a potential dom. In my own opinion and experience if they are worth it they’ll show their interest by pursuing you.
Deleted Member Posted September 15, 2022 Posted September 15, 2022 Never chase a man. If he wanted to, no matter how busy he may be, he would—remember that. Hold that head high like the queen you are, take a step back, and let him come to you. If he doesn’t, then you know it wasn’t meant to be. xoxo 💖
Deleted Member Posted September 15, 2022 Posted September 15, 2022 Chasing the guy that has all the options by any chance?
Deleted Member Posted September 15, 2022 Posted September 15, 2022 Something I learned recently, a Dom will MAKE time for his sub. Just because he's dominant shouldn't mean he's completely aloof. A Dom is still meant to care for his sub or little, and part of that is providing needs, pleasure, and punishment as necessary. To do all/any of that properly, he needs to spend actual time getting to know you and into your head. If he's not willing to do that from the get-go, then that's a him problem. Not yours. Wait for a Dom that wants you to be his to tend to and make it KNOWN. A Dom should never leave a sub doubting their place.
na**** Posted September 15, 2022 Posted September 15, 2022 So true ladies. You’re worth so much more 💞
Deleted Member Posted September 15, 2022 Posted September 15, 2022 I love the kink community. You aren’t alone we are all here for each other through the thick and thin 💜
Pr**** Posted September 15, 2022 Posted September 15, 2022 Omg. Took the words right out of my mouth😩
El**** Posted September 15, 2022 Posted September 15, 2022 35 minutes ago, Honey_07 said: Something I learned recently, a Dom will MAKE time for his sub. Just because he's dominant shouldn't mean he's completely aloof. A Dom is still meant to care for his sub or little, and part of that is providing needs, pleasure, and punishment as necessary. To do all/any of that properly, he needs to spend actual time getting to know you and into your head. If he's not willing to do that from the get-go, then that's a him problem. Not yours. Wait for a Dom that wants you to be his to tend to and make it KNOWN. A Dom should never leave a sub doubting their place. This one also applies to subs as well. I have had an issue with my recent sub, same as you have with your dom. So at the end I severed my ties with him. No meaning to *** a relationship when only one side is actually engaged, interested and respectful. And that should apply to all kinds of relationship, not only in bdsm.
fh**** Posted September 15, 2022 Posted September 15, 2022 Honey hit the nail on the head. My last sub our schedules were completely different. But I’d still wake up at 2am when she got off work and make sure she was taken care of. No matter the time. He would find or make time to be in that dynamic
Deleted Member Posted September 15, 2022 Posted September 15, 2022 Me too! Thanks all. It’s a hard lesson to learn.
45**** Posted September 15, 2022 Posted September 15, 2022 Ellie - thank you do much for saying that. I’ve been having issues very similar as of late. Trying to meet a new sub, making it crystal clear that I’m not looking for multiple subs just 1. Thinking we are in agreement only to find out that’s not true at all she’s still looking or “interviewing” it’s beyond frustrating at this point and I’m starting to wonder if there are really subs seeking daddy/dom or are these just woman who like the idea of it but not willing to commit…..
th**** Posted September 15, 2022 Posted September 15, 2022 I feel this, I had a try out with a potential Dom and he has not messaged me since, I am not chasing him. I had a great time, but obviously he is not feeling it, or he would have reached out by now.
Sk**** Posted September 15, 2022 Posted September 15, 2022 @45DJ62_ Of course us subs who are seeking daddy/doms are out here. And I’m sure there are a lot of women, kink or not, that are not willing to commit.  you are talking about two different groups of women. Let’s not make women or subs a monolith based on your experience.
45**** Posted September 15, 2022 Posted September 15, 2022 I’m not I’m simply sharing my experiences as of late…. I did not say all nor was I speaking of all…..
sp**** Posted September 15, 2022 Posted September 15, 2022 Never chase anyone unless its a scene. What I am trying to say is, if the feelings aren’t mutual, don’t *** it.
Pez-S Posted September 15, 2022 Posted September 15, 2022 I had a recent experience with a possible sub similar to the one described by the OP. They would not call, never text and when they did it was to tell me that they are too busy with XYZ. So I checked with them whether they were actually serious or not about the relationship if one existed at all and they said yes. Texted, texted, texted........ I was totally talking with a ghost. So I took some advice from a friend who said maybe she is waiting for me to lay down some rules, I did just that and boy that was a Huge mistake. Either way I tried.
lo**** Posted September 15, 2022 Posted September 15, 2022 Very hard choice. I'm in the same boat. There a great opportunity just a boring partner
Un**** Posted September 15, 2022 Posted September 15, 2022 1 hour ago, lokizax said: Very hard choice. I'm in the same boat. There a great opportunity just a boring partner If they're boring it sounds like a terrible opportunity
Un**** Posted September 15, 2022 Posted September 15, 2022 Like a relationship, never chase only persue
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