sm**** Posted May 5 Posted May 5 I want him to reach and see if we vibe first...not all doms are created equal
li**** Posted May 6 Posted May 6 Be sure to read the profile. It’s frustrating when a someone messages and it’s clear we’re not searching for the same things and have different limits. Show interest in what they’re looking for, their profile says they like rope play so enquirer on their experience with it, or something like that. The approach is different though depending on each profile. An NSA situation is a different from LTR, obviously. So you should approach them the Same Way
bu**** Posted May 6 Posted May 6 Definitely read my profile and don't start of trying to Dom me I'm new and it freaked me out just a bit
Sc**** Posted May 19 Posted May 19 I'm very shy at first and the best way to approach me is being kind -flirty -sweet- and show legit interest in wanting me
Ar**** Posted May 20 Posted May 20 I'm kinda new but I like them to be head on and upfront basically male the first move
ch**** Posted May 31 Posted May 31 I don’t want a d**k pick to start I think we all want to be approached the same way with respect I want the dom to say hello and have some polite conversation then get into what he is looking for see if. We match
su**** Posted May 31 Posted May 31 Ask what we’re into and share stuff about themselves and encourage us to do the same
jj**** Posted June 19 Posted June 19 A friendly hello, as well as being willing to talk a bit before just telling me what to do. I get we're all here for kink, but I'd much prefer to chat with someone and find out if we're compatible, rather than just feel like the next number in line at the DMV.
Ki**** Posted June 19 Posted June 19 1 hour ago, jjsubfun88 said: A friendly hello, as well as being willing to talk a bit before just telling me what to do. I get we're all here for kink, but I'd much prefer to chat with someone and find out if we're compatible, rather than just feel like the next number in line at the DMV. That made me laugh I liked it
61**** Posted June 19 Posted June 19 Take my opinion with a grain as salt as I'm completely new to the scene. Obviously unless I specifically say "Skip the hellos and peg me", I think it's appropriate at least be cordial and respectful to start. There should be a chemistry I would think regardless of the dynamic. So, I think a quick intro like "We look like we could be compatible, check out my profile " would certainly attract me more than "Oh hey you sissy sl*t, c*m kiss Mistresses dirty toes". My question on the flip side is, is it appropriate for a sub to message a Dom who says they are looking for exactly what you are looking to be? Or is that power dynamic so much I have to wait to be approached?
Wa**** Posted July 7 Posted July 7 Make it clear you read my profile and want to know more about 'x'..... Makes it easy for a natural flow of conversation. For Christ's sake do not send a first message with "Hey" and that's all 😆
Ca**** Posted July 8 Posted July 8 I’d say same way you’d message anyone else, just a simple greeting then the conversation can continue from there
subdomaho Posted July 8 Posted July 8 On 10/15/2022 at 11:58 PM, Mr_Benjamin said: Subs - How do you like to be approached by a dom on this app? What is your ideal 1st message that you like to see? Just a direct approach is fine. We want to get to the point and just do as we are told. And if we are about to be used and ***d we dont want to think.
MasterDarcy1979 Posted July 8 Posted July 8 (edited) On 6/19/2024 at 5:12 AM, 616GrSub said: My question on the flip side is, is it appropriate for a sub to message a Dom who says they are looking for exactly what you are looking to be? Or is that power dynamic so much I have to wait to be approached? It's definitely appropriate. I'm a Dom. I don't think I've ever approached a sub in all my years. Subs have always approached me. My profile/post is incredibly thorough, so with that I've already did the groundwork. A sub can initiate contact if she feels an innate attraction to the content. It's in her court. Edited July 8 by MasterDarcy1979
Mi**** Posted July 8 Posted July 8 What frustrates me the most is someone who hasn't taken the time to read our profile. I'm a sub but I'm also a collared sub and in a D/s couple - we have a couples profile. Yet I continue to get the opening message of something stupid like "I'd love you to submit to me, you look gorgeous" followed by what they want to do to me 🙄🙄 my Dom will normally reply to that one 🤣. Open with a chat if you feel that we have something in common and are looking for the same thing. I am not your sub so never disrespect my Dom ! Just be "normal" and not creepy
Jen4497 Posted July 10 Posted July 10 Don’t just say”hi” or something just start with maybe a question (although compliments are nice). Also tell me what you’re looking for and what my interest in kink are
gu**** Posted July 14 Posted July 14 Tell me. Don't ask. Asking me something suggests that I have a choice. Being a sub I should not have choices .
Deleted Member Posted July 15 Posted July 15 My profile specifically says I'm not getting into kink talk if we haven't talked. If you are not into getting to know me as a person, you don't get to know me sexualy.
su**** Posted July 16 Posted July 16 I would like for you to come on strong and ***ful at first meet... That would give mindset of the control you will have over me
Li**** Posted July 17 Posted July 17 I'd like to know I'm not just talking to a horny bot who will disappear. I'd hope they'd just vibe and take their time stepping into that role!
su**** Posted July 17 Posted July 17 I definitely don't want them to disappear but I do want them to have the power over me right from the beginning
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