Oral sex - pussy eating

[Deleted Member]

Like others have said, add it to the dirty talk. At least for me, a switch turns in when I'm told what to do in an erotic way

[FlippdSwitch]

Personally, I appreciate it when a woman tells me what/how she wants. If he truly cares about your pleasure, he’ll want to know how to best please you.

[Deleted Member]

I am all ways willing to learn.

[Buzzedbrutal]

That's a art no one will master I'm still learning and always will be

[Buzzedbrutal]

And. Will make u squirt in 10

[Lu****]

Lots of helpful suggestions given already. You got to tell him otherwise you will be the one left unsatisfied and unhappy, don't settle for bad sex

[QXX666]

I teach my subs to give a perfect blow job. 
but men think they know how to pleasure women naturally! Unless you been down there for years and learn, it won’t happened. 
So if you chose your partner under 30’s then you will be disappointed… 

[1967CQ]

grab him by the hair and make him do it right. and if he won't, I volunteer.

[Queen_Holzripper]

I love giving my partner oral sex and while I am doing it I love watching his face and seeing his reaction.. I really love when he was wow what was that u haven't done that before

[hi****]

Show him a porn clip of how you like it; and say something like “mhmm this is so sexy” sometimes approaching it a different way can make all the difference.

❤️

[BruiseWayne]

Say something like 'Hey I really like it when you...' and talk about the thing you want that they aren't doing, so this way they won't think they're being insufficient or bad at oral, probably won't realize they haven't ever done it, and they won't feel like they're being critiqued or whatever else.

 

It's silly, I know, but some people really can't stand the idea that they might not be 1000% amazing in bed. It's really just an ego thing. Some guys need to be handled delicately in that regard.

 

Personally I prefer being direct with people but if you're looking for a way to finesse the situation without ruffling any feathers then that could be one way to do it.

[ThumperG]

22 hours ago, BruiseWayne said:

Say something like 'Hey I really like it when you...' and talk about the thing you want that they aren't doing, so this way they won't think they're being insufficient or bad at oral, probably won't realize they haven't ever done it, and they won't feel like they're being critiqued or whatever else.

 

It's silly, I know, but some people really can't stand the idea that they might not be 1000% amazing in bed. It's really just an ego thing. Some guys need to be handled delicately in that regard.

 

Personally I prefer being direct with people but if you're looking for a way to finesse the situation without ruffling any feathers then that could be one way to do it.

Ohh don't you worry...ALL the woman in the Free World have been raised to believe to be very careful and tiptoe their way very far and wide around the ever precious male ego! 😂

[Garrotjax]

Watch Nina hartleys guide to eating pussy on PH, then add in what you like. That woman changed the game for me

[Deleted Member]

If the person can't take pointers or suggestions it's time to move on to the next partner

[ka****]

I love eating pussy

[Jp****]

What if she has no idea what she wants. Seem to have no interest or scared. 

[Nacho-2589]

Honesty. If there’s no interest then that needs to be discussed. If there’s an anxiety about it you can be reassuring. A partner of mine was really upset about how she looked “downstairs” had heard some nasty descriptions and wasn’t keen for me to venture there. We talked it out. I explained that for me I really enjoy being there. It turns me on and I was happy if it made her happy. I’ve also been told by someone that they simply didn’t see the point because they wouldn’t cum like that, the insinuation was that my expectations were pressurising. So again. Talk. Admit that you just want to be there and have listen to your partner. Give positive feedback. It’s not a results based business! It’s a fun time m! That’s when you’ll get there! 

[YorkshireBiker]

I would very much prefer to know how I could improve things for my wife than find out later on that it wasn't as enjoyable as I could have made it. 

[Nacho-2589]

I would say that depends for each person. Talk about it beforehand. Explain your anxieties. She might have some too. Pressure to enjoy your efforts is counter productive. Get rid of those and you’re off to a good start. Then it’s a case of when you’re down there you need to be switched on to how she reacts. Her body will tell you if you’re doing ok. Don’t get hooked up on clit play or rummaging around for the g spot at the expense of all else. Don’t forget about how you hold her and what else your hands are able to do. Hold hers? Touch her tummy? Oh and if she’s telling you “just like that” keep doing just that! Also I would say that no matter how into this I might be I don’t have the required genitals to know exactly how it feels. 

[YorkshireBiker]

That’s true. I have anxiety and struggle to tell her what I like and will shy away from the conversation so I do understand how she may feel.

[Nacho-2589]

I get that. If you trust each other that should help. Remind yourself of that. Without wishing to tell you things you might already know; as anxiety increases and reaches a peak it then abates. It’s all relative of course and I wouldn’t want to judge how that feels for any individual. Anxiety can be paralysing. But if you remind yourself it does end and make sure that the environment is relaxing it helps. You can always have that conversation as a series of small comments if that helps? Might avoid that peak? Try dropping little pieces of what you want to talk about into conversation when you’re both relaxed. See how it goes! 

[YorkshireBiker]

I don’t want to assume but maybe this can help OP too, if I’m not comfortable to tell my partner what I like, how can I expect her feel comfortable either? The opposite could be true in your case, have you asked if there’s anything you can do? That may give him the opportunity/confidence to engage in an honest conversation where not one feels hard done by. 

[Sting-ATL]

On 11/2/2022 at 3:16 PM, Angie_xx said:

Based on experience with previous boyfriends, sometimes guys don't want to get any pointers or suggestions about giving oral sex.  How can I propose changes without making my partner uncomfortable? 

If your man isn't listening to this advice on going down, you need a new man. I have learned so much in the last 7 years.

[Kirri]

Telling them outright is the best approach. If they are doing it wrong, best to say something. Communication is key. Ultimately if they don't know your buttons.....that's their loss. Because if they don't utilise that then really they are also missing out. Much better to know and use what someone likes than guess hope for the best and them struggling to enjoy the situation.

[Nacho-2589]

2 hours ago, Kirri said:

Telling them outright is the best approach. If they are doing it wrong, best to say something. Communication is key. Ultimately if they don't know your buttons.....that's their loss. Because if they don't utilise that then really they are also missing out. Much better to know and use what someone likes than guess hope for the best and them struggling to enjoy the situation.

I’d much rather be told if I’m not doing a good job! Let’s be honest you’re looking to make the recipient happy. Or at least you should be in my book! Even the most stubborn of us should be able to place themselves in the others place and want to make it the best time for them! Surely nobody wants bad sex?! Be brave! Be honest!!