You're All Fake!

[LT****]

On 12/1/2022 at 2:51 PM, CopperKnob said:

We are easy to talk to.

I’m real, but what I’ve seen in the chats so far is a lot of ignorance regarding gender and sexuality.  While I’m real, I don’t think this forum is easy or safe for all LGBTQ+ people.

[Ki****]

I’m definitely fake. I checked the label.

[Po****]

Whilst the majority of what you say is accurate and valid, and I agree with your sentiment, what I would say is there are plenty of people who flatter to deceive on here.

I can only speak from my experience, however, I've had several conversations with people who claim to be interested in me and interested in meeting IRL only to do and say things that give me pause and question the sincerity of their interest and if they would even meet me or come up with an excuse last minute based on what they have told me.

This is after swapping numbers and before any sex talk. I hate talking about sex over text, I believe it should be done in person or over the phone.

I just find it really odd that it gets as far as swapping numbers and a potential phone call and there's just a distinct lack of effort and desire to engage further. In one instance deciding to play with one of her online doms instead of taking my call to discuss meeting which was the whole point of swapping numbers. Red flag stuff.

It's really weird and I've only ever experienced this on here.

[CopperKnob]

19 hours ago, PoisonJohnny said:

Whilst the majority of what you say is accurate and valid, and I agree with your sentiment, what I would say is there are plenty of people who flatter to deceive on here.

I can only speak from my experience, however, I've had several conversations with people who claim to be interested in me and interested in meeting IRL only to do and say things that give me pause and question the sincerity of their interest and if they would even meet me or come up with an excuse last minute based on what they have told me.

This is after swapping numbers and before any sex talk. I hate talking about sex over text, I believe it should be done in person or over the phone.

I just find it really odd that it gets as far as swapping numbers and a potential phone call and there's just a distinct lack of effort and desire to engage further. In one instance deciding to play with one of her online doms instead of taking my call to discuss meeting which was the whole point of swapping numbers. Red flag stuff.

It's really weird and I've only ever experienced this on here.

I think that the starting point of the post was to outline that the idea of 'everyone' on Fet being fake generally gets thrown around by those that either aren't putting much effort in or, who are barking up the wrong tree maybe because they're approaching the wrong people or it's being recognised by others that they either lack experience or are giving red flags off themselves.
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The point is, once people let go of their hormones, settle down and actually think about why they're on Fet and what they want out of the app, the do actually start to find their people even if those people are a friendship group and nothing more. It's in those relatively trustworthy relationships where people feel safe enough to share themselves emotionally.
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I think it's necessary to point out that my post isn't necessarily "valid" or "accurate", you simply agree to some of the point I make which are my opinion and/or experience, nothing more.
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Lastly, your "red" flag comment at the end, not necessarily, perhaps that person felt safer to conduct an online interaction than discuss an IRL meet. BDSM is all about all parties feeling safe. If safety isn't being provided, it's unlikely to happen. Again, whether you agree or not, it's my opinion and experience.

[CopperKnob]

November 16, LT214 said:

I’m real, but what I’ve seen in the chats so far is a lot of ignorance regarding gender and sexuality.  While I’m real, I don’t think this forum is easy or safe for all LGBTQ+ people.

From what I've seen, I would agree

[Se****]

7 minutes ago, CopperKnob said:

The point is, once people let go of their hormones, settle down and actually think about why they're on Fet and what they want out of the app, the do actually start to find their people even if those people are a friendship group and nothing more. It's in those relatively trustworthy relationships where people feel safe enough to share themselves emotionally.
 

My people on here are the best people and I don’t know what I’d have done without you all at times (although we’re all very quiet atm) 😘❤️

[CopperKnob]

33 minutes ago, SerendipitousKeeper said:

My people on here are the best people and I don’t know what I’d have done without you all at times (although we’re all very quiet atm) 😘❤️

💜

[Vi****]

I agree with the fake people theory. I've been on here 2 months, talked to ALOT of guys in my area. It's all about video masterbation, pic exchange, hook-ups.... Which I find to be more of a fuckboy mentality myself and should stick to plenty of 🐠 sites. In my opinion.

[Vi****]

November 28, CopperKnob said:

I think that the starting point of the post was to outline that the idea of 'everyone' on Fet being fake generally gets thrown around by those that either aren't putting much effort in or, who are barking up the wrong tree maybe because they're approaching the wrong people or it's being recognised by others that they either lack experience or are giving red flags off themselves.
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The point is, once people let go of their hormones, settle down and actually think about why they're on Fet and what they want out of the app, the do actually start to find their people even if those people are a friendship group and nothing more. It's in those relatively trustworthy relationships where people feel safe enough to share themselves emotionally.
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I think it's necessary to point out that my post isn't necessarily "valid" or "accurate", you simply agree to some of the point I make which are my opinion and/or experience, nothing more.
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Lastly, your "red" flag comment at the end, not necessarily, perhaps that person felt safer to conduct an online interaction than discuss an IRL meet. BDSM is all about all parties feeling safe. If safety isn't being provided, it's unlikely to happen. Again, whether you agree or not, it's my opinion and experience.

Well said. Definitely gave me something to think about. Thank you for the comment. 🙏

[Ki****]

I met some very very nice people in here and I met some very nice people, but you have that with anything a good in the bad are always there. It’s what you choose to look at and deal with.

[mi****]

Fake v Real I believe that most here are here with intent to express who they are on a deeply personal level. Fet was laid out as a safe place. I do not stand in judgement about any other nor do I accept a judgement about myself. If your personal tastes clash with my sensibilities or mores, I will let you know as softly as I am able to. That being said, I have annoyed the absolute fuck out of a few. I have given apologies very sincerely then just blocked. BDSM is a catch all. A largely misunderstood and wrongly used catch all. I am a Dom. By nature. And a Sadist. I am a voracious reader. And a bit of an opinionated ass What I have learned is there is way too much misinformation or misunderstanding of the BDSM meanings. Some of you folk just fuckin scare me with your misunderstanding of the lives around us all. I am a gentle person. I care about all of the intricacies of the human soul. I can and do introduce exquisite agonies. But it is done with precision and great care. Beating on another for sport is not sexual. If it is then stay the fuck out my house. My partners are just that, PARTNERS. Equal in every respect, if you understand D/s you also understand that the submissive is the power dynamic. They freely submit their body, mind, spirit, and well being into your care. That is one hell of a lot of trust, much more than I am capable of placing in another's hands. Dominion over another or submission to another. Understand your role. If you just like beating folks up you are a bully, not a Dom. If you can fuck a bologna sandwich with the same passion as your chosen partner, your another level of fuck off. Play nice kids. The tattoos are added works, they do not make you any tougher than you were before you got em. You only get to play this particular round once. Be kind.