You're All Fake!

[LT****]

  On 12/1/2022 at 2:51 PM, CopperKnob said:

We are easy to talk to.

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I’m real, but what I’ve seen in the chats so far is a lot of ignorance regarding gender and sexuality.  While I’m real, I don’t think this forum is easy or safe for all LGBTQ+ people.

[Ki****]

I’m definitely fake. I checked the label.

[Po****]

Whilst the majority of what you say is accurate and valid, and I agree with your sentiment, what I would say is there are plenty of people who flatter to deceive on here.

I can only speak from my experience, however, I've had several conversations with people who claim to be interested in me and interested in meeting IRL only to do and say things that give me pause and question the sincerity of their interest and if they would even meet me or come up with an excuse last minute based on what they have told me.

This is after swapping numbers and before any sex talk. I hate talking about sex over text, I believe it should be done in person or over the phone.

I just find it really odd that it gets as far as swapping numbers and a potential phone call and there's just a distinct lack of effort and desire to engage further. In one instance deciding to play with one of her online doms instead of taking my call to discuss meeting which was the whole point of swapping numbers. Red flag stuff.

It's really weird and I've only ever experienced this on here.

[CopperKnob]

  19 hours ago, PoisonJohnny said:

Whilst the majority of what you say is accurate and valid, and I agree with your sentiment, what I would say is there are plenty of people who flatter to deceive on here.

I can only speak from my experience, however, I've had several conversations with people who claim to be interested in me and interested in meeting IRL only to do and say things that give me pause and question the sincerity of their interest and if they would even meet me or come up with an excuse last minute based on what they have told me.

This is after swapping numbers and before any sex talk. I hate talking about sex over text, I believe it should be done in person or over the phone.

I just find it really odd that it gets as far as swapping numbers and a potential phone call and there's just a distinct lack of effort and desire to engage further. In one instance deciding to play with one of her online doms instead of taking my call to discuss meeting which was the whole point of swapping numbers. Red flag stuff.

It's really weird and I've only ever experienced this on here.

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I think that the starting point of the post was to outline that the idea of 'everyone' on Fet being fake generally gets thrown around by those that either aren't putting much effort in or, who are barking up the wrong tree maybe because they're approaching the wrong people or it's being recognised by others that they either lack experience or are giving red flags off themselves.
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The point is, once people let go of their hormones, settle down and actually think about why they're on Fet and what they want out of the app, the do actually start to find their people even if those people are a friendship group and nothing more. It's in those relatively trustworthy relationships where people feel safe enough to share themselves emotionally.
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I think it's necessary to point out that my post isn't necessarily "valid" or "accurate", you simply agree to some of the point I make which are my opinion and/or experience, nothing more.
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Lastly, your "red" flag comment at the end, not necessarily, perhaps that person felt safer to conduct an online interaction than discuss an IRL meet. BDSM is all about all parties feeling safe. If safety isn't being provided, it's unlikely to happen. Again, whether you agree or not, it's my opinion and experience.

[CopperKnob]

  November 16, LT214 said:

I’m real, but what I’ve seen in the chats so far is a lot of ignorance regarding gender and sexuality.  While I’m real, I don’t think this forum is easy or safe for all LGBTQ+ people.

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From what I've seen, I would agree

[Se****]

  7 minutes ago, CopperKnob said:

The point is, once people let go of their hormones, settle down and actually think about why they're on Fet and what they want out of the app, the do actually start to find their people even if those people are a friendship group and nothing more. It's in those relatively trustworthy relationships where people feel safe enough to share themselves emotionally.
 

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My people on here are the best people and I don’t know what I’d have done without you all at times (although we’re all very quiet atm) 😘❤️

[CopperKnob]

  33 minutes ago, SerendipitousKeeper said:

My people on here are the best people and I don’t know what I’d have done without you all at times (although we’re all very quiet atm) 😘❤️

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💜

[Vi****]

I agree with the fake people theory. I've been on here 2 months, talked to ALOT of guys in my area. It's all about video masterbation, pic exchange, hook-ups.... Which I find to be more of a fuckboy mentality myself and should stick to plenty of 🐠 sites. In my opinion.

[Vi****]

  November 28, CopperKnob said:

I think that the starting point of the post was to outline that the idea of 'everyone' on Fet being fake generally gets thrown around by those that either aren't putting much effort in or, who are barking up the wrong tree maybe because they're approaching the wrong people or it's being recognised by others that they either lack experience or are giving red flags off themselves.
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The point is, once people let go of their hormones, settle down and actually think about why they're on Fet and what they want out of the app, the do actually start to find their people even if those people are a friendship group and nothing more. It's in those relatively trustworthy relationships where people feel safe enough to share themselves emotionally.
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I think it's necessary to point out that my post isn't necessarily "valid" or "accurate", you simply agree to some of the point I make which are my opinion and/or experience, nothing more.
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Lastly, your "red" flag comment at the end, not necessarily, perhaps that person felt safer to conduct an online interaction than discuss an IRL meet. BDSM is all about all parties feeling safe. If safety isn't being provided, it's unlikely to happen. Again, whether you agree or not, it's my opinion and experience.

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Well said. Definitely gave me something to think about. Thank you for the comment. 🙏

[Ki****]

I met some very very nice people in here and I met some very nice people, but you have that with anything a good in the bad are always there. It’s what you choose to look at and deal with.

[xx****]

Fake v Real I believe that most here are here with intent to express who they are on a deeply personal level. Fet was laid out as a safe place. I do not stand in judgement about any other nor do I accept a judgement about myself. If your personal tastes clash with my sensibilities or mores, I will let you know as softly as I am able to. That being said, I have annoyed the absolute fuck out of a few. I have given apologies very sincerely then just blocked. BDSM is a catch all. A largely misunderstood and wrongly used catch all. I am a Dom. By nature. And a Sadist. I am a voracious reader. And a bit of an opinionated ass What I have learned is there is way too much misinformation or misunderstanding of the BDSM meanings. Some of you folk just fuckin scare me with your misunderstanding of the lives around us all. I am a gentle person. I care about all of the intricacies of the human soul. I can and do introduce exquisite agonies. But it is done with precision and great care. Beating on another for sport is not sexual. If it is then stay the fuck out my house. My partners are just that, PARTNERS. Equal in every respect, if you understand D/s you also understand that the submissive is the power dynamic. They freely submit their body, mind, spirit, and well being into your care. That is one hell of a lot of trust, much more than I am capable of placing in another's hands. Dominion over another or submission to another. Understand your role. If you just like beating folks up you are a bully, not a Dom. If you can fuck a bologna sandwich with the same passion as your chosen partner, your another level of fuck off. Play nice kids. The tattoos are added works, they do not make you any tougher than you were before you got em. You only get to play this particular round once. Be kind.

[At****]

LOL. I’m so real. I agree with this post though!

[Vanillapopsicle]

No kidding. I'm going to delete this account. This just isn't worth it if I am not getting the same decency back in return. I went on video calls with my face present.  Not showing my face on public profile for pic collectors. They are hidden in private. Some users openingly admitted to being men posing as women when they were getting frustrated I wasn't easily putting out online. This was after a week or so of conversation without any sexting of any sort. I would ask for voice or video call after some time in the DM to connect more and excuses come flying out all windows. 

 

My intention is to get to know someone and share our interests eventually in person. Assuring safety. Meeting in public places. I've meet really nice women here. Verified on both ends that we were legit to our photos. Some even brought it up first to meet up. I agreed. And they make an excuse at the last minute. Whatever the reason: Cold feet, secretly married and just wanted to tease, etc. 

 

Online dating in general sucks. I'm just going to stick with venues in person and go from there.

[Ti****]

I get tired of gold diggers.
I don't mind sharing in fact I'll give freely my nudes. In fact i don't care where you put them as long as you don't use them to scam. But im tired of all the fake people. Just come out and say your here to make *** that way you don't waste my time

[CopperKnob]

  3 hours ago, TinMan53 said:

I get tired of gold diggers.
I don't mind sharing in fact I'll give freely my nudes. In fact i don't care where you put them as long as you don't use them to scam. But im tired of all the fake people. Just come out and say your here to make *** that way you don't waste my time

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Gosh, me too!
The men here that not only expect us to bring home an income by working full time but to also take responsibility for 80% of household chores. Unbelievable. In fact, I'm so tired of it.

[ge****]

  4 hours ago, TinMan53 said:

I get tired of gold diggers.
I don't mind sharing in fact I'll give freely my nudes. In fact i don't care where you put them as long as you don't use them to scam. But im tired of all the fake people. Just come out and say your here to make *** that way you don't waste my time

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Firstly, perhaps don't give your nudes quite so freely - wait until you're as sure as you can be that the other person is genuinely into you and not out to scam and even then only do so when you're as sure as you can be that they would be welcomed.
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Secondly, scammers by their very nature won't announce they're there to fleece you - so while you shouldn't *have* to, it's up to you to protect yourself as best you can against them - they're usually pretty easy to spot if you use your brain before your little brain.

[Ti****]

CopperKnob
Gosh, me too!
The men here that not only expect us to bring home an income by working full time but to also take responsibility for 80% of household chores. Unbelievable. In fact, I'm so tired of it.

That's absurd.
I like a woman to have some kind of job. It only shows that they are a responsible person. Not necessarily a full time job as it seems the man should have an income that would subside the household needs. Aa far as household chores, ive had to do some soul searching for that. The reason is my Mother worked and did 100% of the household chores. At a time when those things were not as easy as they are today. Myself well, I cook, I do dishes, laundry (most boring of chores lol), I definitely clean the bathroom (toilet too), vacuum and dust. Just to name things I do. Men who want 80% done are lazy. I'm sorry but to me that's being lazy...
However the women i have met here want me to do100% of everything. I'm sorry, in today's economy it does take two.
The worst is the ones who want $$$$ and do nothing at all. Seems they want to get paid for being there.
But I think most of them are men acting like they are women.

[Ti****]

Note* a few ways to spot a scammer before the scam starts.
1. Grammer. If you live in the US there are phrases we use that other countries don't.
Ie. We say groceries. . They say foodstuff
We say my name is. . They say ....by name
2. Where they stay. I've never met so many people that live with their granny, *** of uncle.
3. Kids. They say they are staying with whoever and they have kids that they help watch.
•that leads to you providing a game gift card to keep the kids busy while you get naked and do your thing.
▪︎however they look up on a map and address in your area. Give you that address and ask when you'll be there. Somewhere in there they want proof of that card. They want the code on the card. And BTW IF you are like me you already looked up that address and know what's there.
4. Family Lawyer. This is the classic I want to use your PayPal, chime debit or bank card. No other explanation needed on this on.
5. Calling Codes. 233 and 234 are Ghana and Nigeria. The two biggest countries for scams.
6. ID. They want to see your ID to prove you are real. They want to see the front and back. This is used to try and get credit.
7. Profile picture. Screen shot the picture and dona picture search from Google. It's usually a porn stars picture. And then the story they have when you confront them on that one.
I have more as I have written a book on this subject.
Ive been tracking scammers for 15 years
And most of these are men posing as women
But beware of Grammer because that will give them away long before you get to trading anything specific.

[CopperKnob]

  27 minutes ago, TinMan53 said:

CopperKnob
Gosh, me too!
The men here that not only expect us to bring home an income by working full time but to also take responsibility for 80% of household chores. Unbelievable. In fact, I'm so tired of it.

That's absurd.
I like a woman to have some kind of job. It only shows that they are a responsible person. Not necessarily a full time job as it seems the man should have an income that would subside the household needs. Aa far as household chores, ive had to do some soul searching for that. The reason is my Mother worked and did 100% of the household chores. At a time when those things were not as easy as they are today. Myself well, I cook, I do dishes, laundry (most boring of chores lol), I definitely clean the bathroom (toilet too), vacuum and dust. Just to name things I do. Men who want 80% done are lazy. I'm sorry but to me that's being lazy...
However the women i have met here want me to do100% of everything. I'm sorry, in today's economy it does take two.
The worst is the ones who want $$$$ and do nothing at all. Seems they want to get paid for being there.
But I think most of them are men acting like they are women.

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So now we're criticising people for how they make their ***. You want them to be responsible and work, but you also want to dictate how they earn their income?

[Ti****]

Copperknob
Don't put words in my mouth.
Read what I said and stop dictating what I said out of context.
I didn't say that. Period

[Ti****]

Big problem is 4 women contacted me. Ends up they send photos of a porn star thinking no one knows the picture is a porn star. Then they try to tell you they quit doing it and are trying to find true love. Of course they also don't realize that it's also easy to look up if they are still active and if they are married.
Of course there is another problem they just got notified that their internet is about to run out..... guess what's next.
Or the phone got broke.... wonder how they are texting?
Im tired of the fakes. The people from Ghana and Nigeria trying to scam ***.

[Ti****]

  17 hours ago, gemini_man said:

Firstly, perhaps don't give your nudes quite so freely - wait until you're as sure as you can be that the other person is genuinely into you and not out to scam and even then only do so when you're as sure as you can be that they would be welcomed.
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Secondly, scammers by their very nature won't announce they're there to fleece you - so while you shouldn't *have* to, it's up to you to protect yourself as best you can against them - they're usually pretty easy to spot if you use your brain before your little brain.

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Oh I know all about the scammers. And all the (they don't have many. They all go by a script) different things they use to scam. I've never been scammed. But I have fucked with a few before I blocked then.
As I said. I don't care. I'm to old to care and they can't touch me to hurt me.

[Si****]

Most people on here are to chat and get their rocks off that way. You can weed them out pretty easily by the way they interact with the site and in messages.

[Hex1]

The part about being easy to talk to and get along with i have my doubts about. I just joined and social media is a *** to be apart of and likely won't really do to much on here. Miscommunication and people's twisted expectations and social demands are alot to be freed of. For me I want to take a break from lewd right now to better my social knowledge and figure out why people are such ***s in the ass to talk to. Why the block button is so common to be used on people without hesitation.why humans have devolved significantly. I'm very kinky and very curious about it all and live in a way that doesn't make things very easy for either side of the conversation, I also live in a low population state with little hope for finding anything im looking for. My disabilities and what comes from them also render capabilities and chances even less likely to occur even without the cruelty of how people handle things.

[Hex1]

Seriously the word *** is censored?