Self respect and submission

[Deleted Member]

I see so many posts on kink sites where men are desperate for any woman to be the object of their desire. I am beginning to understand my self worth and I wouldn’t share my kink with any random woman. There is so much trust exchanged In a healthy kink interaction. My interactions are usually fairly intense and exhausting, physically and emotionally. I get into *** positions physically and emotionally. I won’t trust that to just anyone. I think many men are choosing kink instead of therapy. To be adept at kink I think you have to be in touch with your own self worth or you’re in very dangerous territory 

[Deleted Member]

I definitely agree with that.

[rohanyours619]

Agree with you 💯

[Daddy_K]

You're right

[CopperKnob]

I think many are confusing kink with an easy lay

[na****]

@Sweetdisfunction. Hit the nail on the head. So to speak 👍🏻

[ey****]

Absolutely, on every count

As CK also says - there's a lot of men who confuse Kink as being Easy - so they come woefully unprepared thinking they will meet somebody no problem (and then it's everyone else's fault when they don't) and this could be for whatever reason - which, yeah, could include their own mental health (kink communities can be good for MH.  Pinning your health on someone, or the hopes of meeting someone, are not)

and there's no magic bullet, there really isn't.  But if you apply standards and only contact (or respond to) those who particularly interest you it's a vibe that already comes across.  And if it doesn't work out for whatever reason, you already know your value and can accept that it didn't work with one person, but someone else will appreciate it

(not that it makes rejection much easier, but it changes the mindset a bit) 

Another key thing is being happy with yourself and your own company.  There's then a lot less you need from someone else.  A lot less pressure on pushing something to work

and it all makes a difference

[Deleted Member]

Unfortunately, i think for a lot of people the desire for kink interactions comes from porn…primarily the desire of rough sex. But with that comes an absolute neglect and failure to understand the responsibility of someones physical and mental wellbeing from that kind of interaction

[Deleted Member]

This is only my experiences. I noticed a few... only few desperate to experience "becoming/being/exploring", and Not the sex part. I hope I make sense. So they become pushy, or are only things they can talk about (without realizing). I did not like this, but at the same time felt bad for them. It's not easy with any kink, and finding a dominate in a long lasting relationship.