Tell me if I am wrong.

[Du****]

  15 minutes ago, Windwolf said:

Unfortunately this lifestyle has been changed for the worse by the interest.
Even vanilla relationships are online these dates.

I think that many people don't know how to have a real life relationships and that's really sad.

Making things worse are those who come here looking for easy marks.

I have come to the point that when someone contacts me, the first thing I do is run facial recognition software on their photo to see if they are connected to any nefarious sites.
It really sad to have to do this, but things have gotten that bad.

Strangely, a lot of people that call themselves Dom have been influenced by others that have no real life experience.

In the old days, it was not unusual for a Dom mentoring a new Dom to assign a sub to help train the student.

I suspect that you already do this but I suggest that when people act as you describe, you treat them as they should be treated. Like beginners that they are.

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Thank you, and yes I tend to assume anyone contacting me doesn't know what they're doing until they show me otherwise. I've been involved in talking to people too many times, who have a good talk for about a day or so, then it very quickly devolves into them showing me with absolutely no uncertainty, that they have no clue. Unfortunately, the most recent one was touting that he was "a Dom with 18 years experience in the lifestyle, and I'm pretty well known, I mentor other Doms in how to handle their Subs."
I feel really bad for those subs..guy had absolutely no clue, and no respect. Was pushing me to call him Daddy after 2 days.
Absolutely.
Not.

[Windwolf]

  21 minutes ago, Dusky25 said:

Thank you, and yes I tend to assume anyone contacting me doesn't know what they're doing until they show me otherwise. I've been involved in talking to people too many times, who have a good talk for about a day or so, then it very quickly devolves into them showing me with absolutely no uncertainty, that they have no clue. Unfortunately, the most recent one was touting that he was "a Dom with 18 years experience in the lifestyle, and I'm pretty well known, I mentor other Doms in how to handle their Subs."
I feel really bad for those subs..guy had absolutely no clue, and no respect. Was pushing me to call him Daddy after 2 days.
Absolutely.
Not.

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Lol Unfortunately, too many have no idea what respect.
Personally, what I call my sub and what she calls me, is far less important than how we show each other respect.
I was married to my only full-time sub for 41 years. We had many names for each other. Each had their own reason and it's own meaning.

To me, love,respect and honor have been the triad foundation of my house.
Those three cover everything.

A Dom and sub relationship is more than bedroom play. It's a lifestyle in and out of the bedroom.
Being able to live this life in public as well as in private is something that only experience can develop.

Too many people want to skip the real life experience and desire to seek experience in their own way.

[Du****]

  10 hours ago, Windwolf said:

Lol Unfortunately, too many have no idea what respect.
Personally, what I call my sub and what she calls me, is far less important than how we show each other respect.
I was married to my only full-time sub for 41 years. We had many names for each other. Each had their own reason and it's own meaning.

To me, love,respect and honor have been the triad foundation of my house.
Those three cover everything.

A Dom and sub relationship is more than bedroom play. It's a lifestyle in and out of the bedroom.
Being able to live this life in public as well as in private is something that only experience can develop.

Too many people want to skip the real life experience and desire to seek experience in their own way.

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Ah I completely agree, I should have elaborated, to me, the title of Daddy is something to be earned when they have shown me that they can treat me and our relationship in the way that deserves that title. There are many pet names of course, but for me that one is special. I don't like to have pet names ***d from me because someone is telling me I should, I like to give them when I feel it's right, because the bond encompasses the values I hold important. I recently purged my profile so it's really bare, but I did have a long description that is similar to yours.

[Kr****]

  On 1/18/2023 at 9:55 AM, peavley said:

,gifts are always the norm in any relationship.Kinky or not.Just not upfront.Thats scamming!

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I never experienced plane finacial transactios as a gift except from old relatives, who had no idea what they could buy me or knew I could really use some extra *** while making my degree.

The idea of a gift is in my opinion about showing affection by being thoughtfull. I draw partners, I repaired the childhood toy she cared deeply about or wrote a Latin poem for once... If a woman straight up tells me she wants ***, I'd ask, if she is in dept or something, and if it is the best I could come up with, I'd try to get to know her better...