Where is the best place to find non porn recordings of scenes?

March 7, 2019

Hey there -
My girlfriend and I have just started getting into BDSM, it's been great - but I find myself at a loss for what to do at times, which I can see is a common thing for beginners. I try to find good inspiration from watching other couples act out scenes to build up my repertoire, but it seems like everything out there is just bdsm themed porn, with a couple of exceptions, and not really great for learning. Where should I / do you look for video or text descriptions of this stuff to borrow from?

Thanks!

Edited March 7, 2019 by Mif

March 7, 2019

In short - off the internet and in real life.

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In longer.

Clip stores and the morally corrupt Tube sites tend to focus on effectively selling porn rather than education. While there are educational clips amongst them (I've been in some!) they can be very difficult to find.

YouTube does have a great deal of clips that are designed to be educational - but these are of course a little limited due to content restrictions and I've also found there is a bit of a "mixed bag" in terms of quality.

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A lot that I learned was from watching others play at local fetish clubs, attending workshops and also I've learnt via play with others

One thing I do often say though is to try to get info from more than one source. If, for example, you learn from someone who plays dangerously - then you will learn dangerous habits - if you also learn from someone else it can help you get a better picture.

I'm aware of an argument in a club recently where a dungeon monitor told someone off for striking their sub in the kidneys - "that's how we play at home" - "Well, that's dangerous - it's not how you play here - if you want to take the risk in your own home then, go ahead, but if you do it here then not only are we liable - but it sets a bad example to others who are watching you"