Suckyourtoes Posted March 13, 2023 Posted March 13, 2023 Is it possible to be submissive and degraded in the bedroom but still respected in your daily life? I find that if you’re being used and degraded sexually that it carries over into every day life in a relationship. Like it’s hard to turn it off.
SophieSubSlut11 Posted March 13, 2023 Posted March 13, 2023 Absolutely, because if you consent to the *** to someone in a certain space, it stays in that space. You don’t consent to be degraded by other people because they haven’t earned that place and are not part of a wider power exchange. Hope that helps x
CopperKnob Posted March 13, 2023 Posted March 13, 2023 A) err, you stole my title 🤷♀️🤣 B) isn't this about setting boundaries? As in if you don't want it carrying on into day to day life you say so and don't allow it. Simple
ChristySub Posted March 13, 2023 Posted March 13, 2023 Yes its possible. My dom degrades me in the bedroom but is a gentleman to me out of the bedroom
Deleted Member Posted March 13, 2023 Posted March 13, 2023 It’s absolutely possible. When I was into ***, my dom knew how to turn it on and off effortlessly. It shouldn’t be difficult if one views their submissive as a whole person, not just a submissive kink.
ey**** Posted March 13, 2023 Posted March 13, 2023 Even when being used and degraded a sub should STILL be respected. Even if that respect looks a little different at the time
Dan-Dan2430 Posted March 13, 2023 Posted March 13, 2023 If someone can’t differentiate between the bedroom and every day life then that’s toxic or can be in my humble opinion
Suckyourtoes Posted March 13, 2023 Author Posted March 13, 2023 It’s just subtle. Maybe they seem a little snotty towards you.
Tickler101 Posted March 13, 2023 Posted March 13, 2023 Yes it is definitely possible. Just depends on how well those involved can maintain that boundary
QXX666 Posted March 13, 2023 Posted March 13, 2023 Everything is possible. Bdsm is not black and white. It’s up to the 2 parties to agree on the terms. Only bedroom means not interfering during the day or work time. Some would decide only week end other between 6 and midnight. And sometime it works even better as you had time to think about it all day… Even in a 24/7 the Dom/Master will release some pressure. We are all human after all…
Mi**** Posted March 14, 2023 Posted March 14, 2023 You definitely can deprecate your sexual and actual life
Deleted Member Posted March 15, 2023 Posted March 15, 2023 I don’t know if you have the right dom/partner because my doms are degraders but extremely respectful in my relationships. Why is your dom unable To separate bedroom pretend from real life?
jimboeats99 Posted March 23, 2023 Posted March 23, 2023 If you aren't being respected outside of sessions you're with the wrong person (unless that is your agreed dynamic). That's called an abusive relationship.
miss_maya Posted March 23, 2023 Posted March 23, 2023 I think its t’s absolutely possible, at least when we separate work and personal life. Someone can be an alpha boss at work and a slave bitch boy at home.
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