Ja**** Posted April 12 Posted April 12 Personally I love a good cuddle… Don’t think any adventure is complete without finishing it out with cuddles…
PN**** Posted April 14 Posted April 14 Cuddling and close physical resonation is all part of aftercare and is especially important when building a dynamic. A Dominant, in any aspects of BDSM, that doesn't understand that intimate and close connection is a core value in a dynamic, needs to do and be better.
Ma**** Posted April 15 Posted April 15 In my opinion, that after care of some kind is so important. Otherwise it can be too easy to slide into ***
PN**** Posted April 15 Posted April 15 1 hour ago, Mattholomew said: In my opinion, that after care of some kind is so important. Otherwise it can be too easy to slide into *** Well stated. If there is no aftercare, it IS ***.
Deleted Member Posted April 18 Posted April 18 Cuddling shows that the Daddy dom care for his partner and will do all the aftercare that she may want. But some don’t want aftercare and they want to feel used and ***d 😂 and I was ok with it but was disappointed cause I love cuddling very much! Shows that a man/woman has compassion for another human being.
Su**** Posted April 18 Posted April 18 As a sub, I feel like there are many different Doms. One of which is a soft Dom who likes cuddles and is sweet and just firm and takes care of their sub like a “daddy”. And there’s the moderate Dom who is tough but still preforms aftercare and make sure we’re okay. And then there’s like the super hard doms who just don’t do anything afterward. (And this I feel is how people are seeing what could be “main Dom” also known as what they are in movies and read in books.)
Ro**** Posted April 30 Posted April 30 Bullsh*t, a good dom will provide cuddles if that is something a desired sub needs. Key word "desired" as I've been told compatible subs can be hard to find.
St**** Posted April 30 Posted April 30 You are on a higher path than those other so-called "doms" could ever reach my friend
Deleted Member Posted April 30 Posted April 30 Cuddling means (holding onto what I own as tight as possible for as long as possible, for comfort, aftercare, emotional support, mental health and a safe place) it is not cuddling, it's bonding.
Da**** Posted April 30 Posted April 30 Most people do not realize both foreplay and after-play are very important aspects when intimate. And while I understand that some partners actually like feeling used well and put away wet, there has to be a balance throughout all intimate moments *if* there's an ongoing relationship. Remember this... Communication is the key, but not all communication requires words.
El**** Posted May 2 Posted May 2 False. Using your partner to only fulfill your own needs is selfish. It's one thing if someone declines aftercare or doesn't want it, but I think you should offer it. If someone doesn't feel comfortable giving aftercare to a partner who wants it, but is comfortable being sexually intimate with then to me that indicates that they are likely focused on their own sexual needs being met and not those of their partner.
Deleted Member Posted May 27 Posted May 27 False. Cuddling doesn't decide if you're dominant or not. Not everyone likes the same kinks and yet can be dominant or submissive, and Cuddling is perfectly OK no matter which side you're on.
Cu**** Posted June 6 Posted June 6 Cuddling can be dominant if it’s done right you. can literally decide someone needs affection and give it to them. In dom sub the decision of whether to cuddle is agreed but when it happens can be a dom decision, as ever with the usual caveats. Cuddling someone who is ***, inside the dom sub dynamic or generally is you giving them what they need. Sounds like dom behaviour to me as part of caring for your sub. None of this stops a sub asking for a cuddle or initiating though.
ge**** Posted June 6 Posted June 6 Imo there's a threat of loosing authority if a domme asks for cuddling but I like cuddling and with the right dynamic it can be a nice act but what do I know, I'm evolving and finding myself 🙂
Mezmerism Posted June 9 Posted June 9 I’m a dominant, always have been. However, I’m also a cuddle monster!
Deleted Member Posted June 19 Posted June 19 I would love for my dom to cuddle me. It would help me feel less used up in the at the end of our play.
Wa**** Posted June 21 Posted June 21 Yes true doms never cuddle. I like to keep the sub hanging from the ceiling fan while I sleep just so she doesn’t forget who’s the boss 😎
sa**** Posted June 23 Posted June 23 I agree that cuddling is very important in any kind of relationship. Even if you are a Dom, you can still cuddle with your sub. And still keep him or her on their toes so everyone can still win...
Wa**** Posted July 7 Posted July 7 I've never been with a Dom who didn't do cuddle aftercare. And it made me feel closer and more trusting towards him, building our relationship. I made it clear before we played that was what I needed in aftercare. I think if everyone communicates needs and wants up front so you have realistic expectations and agree to them...it makes the play more satisfying. Plus...if I get what I want in aftercare...I'm more willing to try things that I might have said no to for next playtime ☺️
sa**** Posted July 18 Posted July 18 Anything that a Dominant and submissive agree is “dominant” within their dynamic is dominant. We’d all do a little better if we stopped trying to gatekeep.
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