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tbh, i often dun miss sex tat much, but instead it's jus d cuddling i miss..
Cuddling might not be dominant but, it’s something I enjoy.
With my arm wrapped around her and she slides her head to my chest, takes a breath and realized she’s safe.. yea I would say that person dominated atleast the situation no?
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I'm a cuddle slut ... Love everything about it almost more than the act of making love.
Anything is dominant if it is chosen by the dominant and they enjoy it.
For one person, ordering the food for the S type at a restaurant may be dominant, but another, having the Stype order the food so the dominant doesn't have to worry with it is the dominant act.
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As a puppy boy submissive for me being okay with cuddling is a must for a dom

Even as a sadist, I enjoy a good cuddle. It doesn't matter if it's aftercare or not. 

  August 4, Treekitten said:
Anything is dominant if it is chosen by the dominant and they enjoy it.
For one person, ordering the food for the S type at a restaurant may be dominant, but another, having the Stype order the food so the dominant doesn't have to worry with it is the dominant act.
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Excellent info here. The action itself does not define if something is dominant or submissive, it’s the power dynamic behind the action that matters.

  Saturday at 03:54 AM, TPECouple said:

Excellent info here. The action itself does not define if something is dominant or submissive, it’s the power dynamic behind the action that matters.

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This is exactly right.

  March 25, chelg95 said:
Cuddling is when you take something that belongs to you and hold it close. That's one of the most ownership type things you can do
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This is beautiful 🥹 so true.

If a dominate cuddles it's cause who they are cuddling is important. It's a good thing
  On 3/25/2024 at 10:07 PM, chelg95 said:

Cuddling is when you take something that belongs to you and hold it close. That's one of the most ownership type things you can do

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Thankyou for saying this. I will start to say this sh*t everytime someone tryna put some dirt on cuddling.

If I feel so safe in His arms that I fall asleep, that says everything. A true Dominant isn’t some macho, alpha male. In His arms, I am safe, protected, loved, possessed. I know I am His and that He values me as I value Him. It’s invaluable bonding time.
Cuddling is at times even better than sex.... Matching breathing patterns, becoming one, feeling like there's no where else you rather be....
And you cannot be a halfway decent Dom if you show no aftercare. That trust has to be reciprocated with gratitude and trust in kind
I'm sorry but this couldn't be further from the truth. A dom isn't some wall void of emotions.
ncraze I'm with you. I see it as a 'Dom duty' - part of what makes a Dom a good/great Dom - to comfort their Sub after the Sub has given themselves to your desires. Particularly if that giving has tested their boundaries. It's part of
instilling and enhancing the Sub's trust in you - ready for the next time! That is, unless the Sub wants to left in a heap in the corner or shackled in a cage - but that is still respecting the Sub's place in the power relationship, which in itself is a way of comforting.
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The trust and safe feeling. If its not there then that person is still going to feel distant.
I just went through a meltdown the other day. My mommy had not held me in weeks. She don't like to be touched do to some past relationships. She knows I need cuddles but forgot. Even when I cashed in my points for cuddles, it ended up feeling ***d. I felt so unwanted and my muscles locked up on me. I felt like I was in shock. My brain felt broke then all the sudden I just laid out flat and cried like a big baby. Cuddling for me as I'm a smol is extremely important. It's a non-negotiable.
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Cuddling doesn't make you dominate or submissive in my opinion. Cuddling is just human interaction. Unless there's a cuddling kink I suppose. But like, who doesn't love to cuddle? 

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