Cuddling is not very dominant.

[ma****]

I think that not everything needs to get viewed through the lens of dominant or submissive some things just are

[Sw****]

Cuddling is important because to me it's aftercare. You need aftercare after a scene.

[Deleted Member]

Absolutely is dominant especially keeping someone safe and feeling secure

[Fa****]

No, it is not dominant, however it is important. It builds trust. Remember his/her submission is a gift that can be revoked at any time. Allowing yourself to be ***, shows him/her that not only can you be trusted, but that you trust them.

[So****]

Cuddling can absolutely be dominant. Trust is the most important part of any relationship, in bdsm it can be even more so. Taking care of a sub mentally, emotionally, and physically is the proper role of the dom.
As a sub, being held by a trusted dominant is incredibly comforting and definitely requires submission to their embrace.

[Pr****]

As mentioned in my confessions, cuddling is my greatest fantasy. I can definitely see it being used from a dom perspective. But I think I would be the sub in that situation

[Mr****]

A real Dom wouldn’t worry about the optics of how it appears. The strongest person in a TPE is the one who relinquishes control and submits to being dominated. It’s a symbiotic relationship and aftercare and bonding (cuddling) is essential in maintaining that bond. Thats my take. Others may disagree. That’s fine.

[de****]

I think of cuddling as a Dom very similar to taking a baby bird under your wing - it's a caretaking form of dominance. It's important ❤️

[Go****]

Cuddling can be your kink, or part of your after-care, or whatever you want it to be. Whoever judges your kinks and how you navigate them is simply projecting and has a lot of insecurities to iron out.

[xD****]

Cuddling is imperative for proper aftercare. Your little/brat/pet should be reminded that even punishment is an act of guidance and love.

[Po****]

False. A good Dominant will understand the importance of aftercare, equally, it can be used as a reward for good behaviour or to claim ownership. It's also important as it can help build trust, this isn't just a vanilla aspect of a relationship, but it's a very real aspect of any relationship regardless of dynamic.

[Deleted Member]

Part of being a dom is being able to take care of your sub, cuddling is part of that so it is very dom if you cuddle your sub

[ha****]

Being a dom, you always give your sub what they need, and sometimes that means letting them see you do have a softer side, it doesnt mean your weak or less dominant,it means your providing what they need like a good daddy dom does.

[Ki****]

Dominance has many different styles and aspects. Anyone who says that "this or that isn't dominant" is probably not educated on actual power exchange. Whether or not an action or activity is dominant or submissive is irrelevant. Is eating food dominant??? No? Well we all do it and it has nothing to do with power exchange, so who f**king cares? Doing a non-dominant thing, like eating, doesn't make you less dominant. 🤦‍♀️

But beyond that, a Dominant takes care of their submissive, and emotional care is part of that. Connection and emotion is part of that. And Dominants also deserve the same emotional care and connection! People are people, not machines.

[in****]

I am a sub and love a dominant woman who is both sadistic and tender. Cuddling can be dominant. Cuddling can lead to impact and destruction. Long live cuddling!!!

[Ms****]

That's wild!
So having emotions or feeling then wanting to express that isn't Dominant? That's so wild, we are still humans...

[Deleted Member]

It's OK to turn the dominance off, and start cuddling after. What do they expect?...Dominance 24/7 🤘🤘🤘 (Death metal voice)

[co****]

Cuddling is fine it is wonderful aftercare and helps release more oxytocin

[al****]

Most times if with someone that means sumn to u

[bu****]

if my dom didn’t cuddle i wouldn’t want it! haha. cuddles are such an important part of any relationship and i feel the same with bdsm dynamics- it helps en*** security and show affection and love without necessarily wanting sex. it’s just pure affection and connection. it’s also such a lovely way to end a play session/have aftercare.

[Deleted Member]

I've held sobbing subs who needed the connection after play, it doesn't take away any of the dynamic as far as I'm concerned, neither does lying there while my back is tickled

[Su****]

October 21, Falkor69 said:

No, it is not dominant, however it is important. It builds trust. Remember his/her submission is a gift that can be revoked at any time. Allowing yourself to be ***, shows him/her that not only can you be trusted, but that you trust them.

I am curious. Why do you feel that it is not dominant to cuddle?

[Su****]

It depends on the context… anything you do can be dominant in normal day to day life. But not everything has to be about domination.

[Ba****]

Your right it not dominated but it's is called she just wants a man to just cuddle up with her so she will feel save again and she feel secure again come guys it not about jumping in sack with right off the get go unless that's what they want but some want it like that and some don't I've been down both roads

[Bo****]

Cuddles can be dominant, real man show their feelings