FETMOD-BD Posted July 19, 2023 Posted July 19, 2023 42 minutes ago, MasterDarcy1979 said: No. The person specifically said "your question", like I personally was saying that I think it's important to reveal your name in the first few messages. I don't find it necessarily to reveal your name straight away. There are a million better ways to break the ice. I'll try to clarify the point - Gemini was referring to your question "What can a person do if they know your first name?" where you went on to suggest that it's not a big deal to give your first name. He was using poetic licence in response asking why you feel it's important, he was not saying that you'd said it. Lets move on and get back to the original topic please.
ey**** Posted July 19, 2023 Posted July 19, 2023 47 minutes ago, MasterDarcy1979 said: The person specifically said "your question", like I personally was saying that I think it's important to reveal your name in the first few messages. I don't find it necessarily to reveal your name straight away. There are a million better ways to break the ice. that sounds like a you problem. but to go back to the first post Quote You may think it's a nice ice breaker to start a convo with "I'm [real first name] what's your name?" No. No. and again No. it's right there. this isn't about asking someone's name after knowing them 6 months. It's about asking in the first messages. Especially if they then get ***y when it's not given.
4R**** Posted July 19, 2023 Posted July 19, 2023 9 hours ago, gurthychub said: No, its not clearly read thatway on the OP lol but i re read we are talking about an ice breaker, heavin forbid you just ignore them instead of writing a public post about a completely valid way to start a conversation Perhaps you should go and re-read the OP again. I think this is an incredibly valid discussion topic. It's a common complaint that guys get nasty because they can't handle rejection, and if they can't handle a simple "I'm not revealing my real name to you" without kicking off, then the community has serious problems.
MasterDarcy1979 Posted July 19, 2023 Posted July 19, 2023 34 minutes ago, gemini_man said: You didn't and wasn't suggesting you did so apologies if it came across that way . Was merely turning the question about what someone can do if they know your real name around in a general sense . Knowing someone's real name or not doesn't make the slightest bit of difference in the context of initial messages, and arguably way beyond that. No problem. And I agree. Knowing someone's name a few messages in doesn't really concern me. If a person shares their name then I always reciprocate, though.
MisstressStorm Posted July 19, 2023 Posted July 19, 2023 For me part of the fun is escaping my everyday life as Storm/ Willow ( neither my given name ) . I’m not really looking for a love match ( but suprise me 🖤). The Kink I explore is a world away from day to day grind , as escapism, a different skin to live in. I don’t want to use real names even if I knew them( although subs seem to be keen ). , part of the fun is calling the Dom/me - sub by their chosen kink name. I do enjoy conferring a ⛈ name to a sub if they wish to have a closer connection to a Dominant 😇⛈
Charms Posted July 20, 2023 Posted July 20, 2023 When people tell me there name I tell them mine. I did Google my 1st name an city and there's a telephone book that comes up with my 1st name an town. But there was over 35 on the list and you have to pay £5 per 1 to get there info . Unless you know my last name. But this was way down on Google page. What came up 1st was a song about my real name lots of information on that. Then there's lots about mental health. As I share my 1st name with a person who works in mental health. My 1st name is popular in the black community although I was named after an old fashioned song. That was realised in 1963. I do tell people my name if they tell me there's
4R**** Posted July 21, 2023 Posted July 21, 2023 15 hours ago, Charms said: When people tell me there name I tell them mine. I did Google my 1st name an city and there's a telephone book that comes up with my 1st name an town. But there was over 35 on the list and you have to pay £5 per 1 to get there info . Unless you know my last name. But this was way down on Google page. What came up 1st was a song about my real name lots of information on that. Then there's lots about mental health. As I share my 1st name with a person who works in mental health. My 1st name is popular in the black community although I was named after an old fashioned song. That was realised in 1963. I do tell people my name if they tell me there's Whereas if you do the same thing with My name, there is only one of me. Not everyone can put themselves at risk.
Charms Posted July 21, 2023 Posted July 21, 2023 9 hours ago, 4RCH said: Whereas if you do the same thing with My name, there is only one of me. Not everyone can put themselves at risk. Yes I agree not everyone can. But I never give my name till the other person does an only my 1st name
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