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So, my list of things I tend to not respond to(this is all personally just me I do not speak on the behalf of others):

- men that are more than 2 hours away. I do not do long distance because the chances of us meeting up are slim to none. So if you're going after potential partners too far away, that could possibly be the reason as to why you haven't gotten a response from some.

-crude, rude, vulgar, or demanding messages right off the bat.
*reviewing an out of nowhere ding-dong pic is not flattering.
*Coming straight off with "What I'd do to you is....". It's great to have fantasies, but slow down.
*Making demands for videos/pictures is also not a good come on. Again that's a privilege not a right. Just because someone says that they are a dom/master that doesn't mean we subs have to give up anything. This isn't the black market.
*Don't offer *** as a pick-up line either. I've been offered gas/food/petty cash if I'd come meet so-n-so right away. That to me personally is very creepy. My goal in life is to not end up on Dateline 20/20.

Things that may help your game a little:

-Read their profiles see if they post anything about hobbies or interests. Make that your opener. "Hey, I was browsing your profile and I see that you're interested in xyz. What brought on that passion?".

-Try and stay local at first then spread out.

-Fill out your profile as much as possible. It helps to get a little sneak peak into the information about the person who has messaged.

-Be patient. The right one will come along eventually

- I've had jokes be a great ice-breaker before. Maybe try one of those

-Bring one of your hobbies/interests as an opener.

- Ask about a favorite recipe/food. It'll be a unique question

I hope this helps and good luck!

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Truth is that unless they fancy you or just want some attention you're not getting a reply. You could be write a poem and you still wouldn't.
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Also, when you look at their profile, notice when they last logged on, because there are a LOT of people who signed up a year ago and never came back.
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1 hour ago, Railings said:

You also reach out to help with no vibe of expectation or obligation đŸ„° * chefs kiss *

That's an important point.

Posted
Put the effort in to show that they intrigue you more cut your head that you had to stop and say hi you’re probably coming off aggressive maybe
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1 hour ago, CopperKnob said:

Experience or opinion is not fact.
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The people I message the most on here, are...drum roll... men. The same 4 or 5 in fact.
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They aren't top of any 'list' what they did is talk to me like a human being and struck up a conversation about some kind of similarity or a similar line of thought about something.
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If you want to think of it as being on a 'list', I'll go a long with it for a but and say, that the men that are on the bottom of the imaginary 'list' are gonna be the ones who behave like the OP who, whilst highlighting the lack of response to their messages has also provided a lack of response to comments here. The irony

Ever watched red pill?

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Have you been checking how long it's been since the people you have messaged signed in? If you're sending a message to someone who hasn't been on the site/app for months, don't expect a reply. Other than that, depends what you're sending and who you're sending it to? And lastly, welcome to the internet.
sardonicus87
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Honestly, there are a bunch of accounts that are essentially inactive. I looked at all the women's profiles within an 80 mile radius of me, and there's only a handful of profiles (maybe 20 at most, didn't count). Of those, I think only 1 or 2 had a login within the past month.
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Fact is, apps and websites like this have a plethora of inactive accounts. There's a myriad of reasons someone would abandon their account within days of creating it (being instantly bombarded and overwhelmed, not getting instant gratification, etc).
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Dating and social sites of all types tend to flounder because nobody gives them time, nobody takes their time, nobody uses them like they're supposed to in good faith. And when I say nobody, I don't mean that literally. I mean there's very few legitimate people who are "doing things the right way".
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I signed up a while back, but only recently started using this and filled out my profile. It's been a few days and I haven't messaged anyone. My goal is to find a play partner. Going back to what I said above... that's why I haven't messaged anyone. Very few profiles in general (active or not) within a reasonable distance. Of all those profiles, not one woman is looking for the same thing I am (at least, as far as I can tell with what they have said in their profiles, which I am taking on faith is accurate).
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That said, I'm still going to be here a while and check on occasion, you never know when someone might pop up that fits what I am looking for. But I had no illusions when I signed up that there would be anyone that fits what I am looking for. Where I live is extremely rural and socially conservative. There's no "scene" at all for over 100 miles (no munches, no parties, nothing). Every site and app is the same thing over and over. But, stuff like this is my ONLY option since moving somewhere else isn't an option.
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So what do I do? Wish the world was different and keep looking and hoping, because that's all I can do. It's a waste of mine and everyone else's time just to message anyone and everyone without regard to whether we're looking for the same thing or not.
Posted
Same and I'm a good looking dude so it makes sense... like wtf are we even here for if people aren't responding...
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The vast majority of people do not respond to you- kind of rude if you ask me, a ‘no thanks’ is not too much to ask
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Different strokes for different folks đŸ€·
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4 hours ago, LuvATV928 said:
The vast majority of people do not respond to you- kind of rude if you ask me, a ‘no thanks’ is not too much to ask

While it may "feel" rude not to get a simple "no thanks" - there are a number of reasons people don't provide one:
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By replying they then open up messaging to allow the sender to send further messages which may be unwanted (if someone doesn't reply to a message, the sender is prevented by the site/app from sending more).
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The recipient doesn't know whether the sender is going to get abusive if they receive a polite no thanks - and it happens enough for it to be a concern.
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The recipient hasn't asked for a message from that specific sender and therefore owes them nothing.
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Think about it as like junk mail - do you respond to each and every message from your local pizza place telling them you're not interested? Same difference really.

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19 minutes ago, gemini_man said:

While it may "feel" rude not to get a simple "no thanks" - there are a number of reasons people don't provide one:
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By replying they then open up messaging to allow the sender to send further messages which may be unwanted (if someone doesn't reply to a message, the sender is prevented by the site/app from sending more).
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The recipient doesn't know whether the sender is going to get abusive if they receive a polite no thanks - and it happens enough for it to be a concern.
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The recipient hasn't asked for a message from that specific sender and therefore owes them nothing.
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Think about it as like junk mail - do you respond to each and every message from your local pizza place telling them you're not interested? Same difference really.

It feels like Groundhog Day

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52 minutes ago, CopperKnob said:

And there it is, the explanation for all of your comments on these type of threads

I haven’t watched
 (it’s on my list btw)

But i know what is about..
It was just a “data” that you are looking for.
One of many data’s

I listen podcast, I read forums about nowadays society interaction, and I talk based on my experiences and other many males experiences, including the one that made this thread..

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56 minutes ago, CopperKnob said:

And there it is, the explanation for all of your comments on these type of threads

But if need to look for data’s go on the internet, look for male virginity rate nowadays, incels, hypergamy.. Just some examples.. I’m bad to remember number and percentages sorry about that..

sardonicus87
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44 minutes ago, gemini_man said:

While it may "feel" rude not to get a simple "no thanks" - there are a number of reasons people don't provide one:
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By replying they then open up messaging to allow the sender to send further messages which may be unwanted (if someone doesn't reply to a message, the sender is prevented by the site/app from sending more).
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The recipient doesn't know whether the sender is going to get abusive if they receive a polite no thanks - and it happens enough for it to be a concern.
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The recipient hasn't asked for a message from that specific sender and therefore owes them nothing.
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Think about it as like junk mail - do you respond to each and every message from your local pizza place telling them you're not interested? Same difference really.

I never understood this "no response is rude" thing. To me, no response means they either didn't see it, or aren't interested. I don't need a message either way. If they're interested, they'll respond. Personally, I prefer no response. If they respond, then I see an notifications and get excited because I almost never get notifications. Then I end up being let-down. Like, thanks for building me up for nothing. :P
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Honestly, I have gotten messages before for different things (not here or kink related things) and when the answer is "no", it's always a dumb argument. "But why not" or "but just try" or something else. Nobody has ever just taken a "no thanks" and walked away in my experience. I'm sure women have dealt with much worse.
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It's in the same vein to me as when ex-girlfriends I had when I broke up with them demanded I do it face-to-face. They were sorely disappointed (and sometimes violent) when the manipulative tears didn't work and the answer was still "no".
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This is the same wat I view anyone that demands responses to messages or claims not responding is rude. The only time I see demanding a response as warranted is if it is a work thing or something important, like someone else scheduled something with you and you need to know if the plan is still on before you waste time driving out to meet them.

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Because the site is full of people that never login and straight up time wasters
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40 minutes ago, Charlie218 said:

I haven’t watched
 (it’s on my list btw)

But i know what is about..
It was just a “data” that you are looking for.
One of many data’s

I listen podcast, I read forums about nowadays society interaction, and I talk based on my experiences and other many males experiences, including the one that made this thread..

Yeah, I wasn't actually looking for it, you raised it and I questioned what data you had knowledge of because, the thing about data is, if you *** it long enough, It'll confess. Which is why we let others *** it for us so we have access to ***r reviews which will provide overviews from lots of data from different places and people whose biases will have been considered rather than youtubers

And yes, I have watched it 😉

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10 hours ago, Charlie218 said:

Ever watched red pill?

CALLED IT!

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2 hours ago, CopperKnob said:

It feels like Groundhog Day

Except Groundhog Day was funny!!

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4 hours ago, gemini_man said:

While it may "feel" rude not to get a simple "no thanks" - there are a number of reasons people don't provide one:
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By replying they then open up messaging to allow the sender to send further messages which may be unwanted (if someone doesn't reply to a message, the sender is prevented by the site/app from sending more).
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The recipient doesn't know whether the sender is going to get abusive if they receive a polite no thanks - and it happens enough for it to be a concern.
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The recipient hasn't asked for a message from that specific sender and therefore owes them nothing.
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Think about it as like junk mail - do you respond to each and every message from your local pizza place telling them you're not interested? Same difference really.

A "no thanks" to my understanding is an automated button that says, this kinkster isn't interested, but while it says no thanks,  it closes the dm so no one can reply back, until the person who hit "no thanks" does, but doesn't block the actual profile.

A no thanks reply is what i would deem more rude than not responding altogether.  

I don't ever do the polite typed message saying no thanks, for the simple fact it opens a convo to replies.

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3 hours ago, CopperKnob said:

Yeah, I wasn't actually looking for it, you raised it and I questioned what data you had knowledge of because, the thing about data is, if you *** it long enough, It'll confess. Which is why we let others *** it for us so we have access to ***r reviews which will provide overviews from lots of data from different places and people whose biases will have been considered rather than youtubers

And yes, I have watched it 😉

I’m not 100% sure that I got what you said here but I can say that data’s are important to understand a certain situation or topic.

They can’t explain it all off course..
We can question how information is delivered to us, but we can’t deny that these “issues” exist..
Then everybody is free to pursue certain data’s or information, proving that what is saying has foundation..
If I’m not mistaken red pills doc was made by interviewing people(man mostly I guess)in all US..

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