ph**** Posted June 16, 2023 Posted June 16, 2023 The truth is a lot of women know men come on app like this for an easy lay. These aren’t for men unfortunately
ge**** Posted June 16, 2023 Posted June 16, 2023 48 minutes ago, philadelphi759 said: The truth is a lot of women know men come on app like this for an easy lay. These aren’t for men unfortunately You missed the word "those" between "for" and "men" 😉
ge**** Posted June 16, 2023 Posted June 16, 2023 2 hours ago, Charlie218 said: I’m not 100% sure that I got what you said here but I can say that data’s are important to understand a certain situation or topic. They can’t explain it all off course.. We can question how information is delivered to us, but we can’t deny that these “issues” exist.. Then everybody is free to pursue certain data’s or information, proving that what is saying has foundation.. If I’m not mistaken red pills doc was made by interviewing people(man mostly I guess)in all US.. I think what CK was saying is that data can be manipulated to present whatever you want it to present as in the old quote "There are three kinds of lies: lies, damned lies, and statistics" . And in this instance it's true - most of the evidence is anecdotal on both sides of the equation, so any data isn't exactly reliable. Ask a lot of men if they've had "success" on sites like this and the chances are they'll say no, and blame the lack of women, the stuck up women, other men and more, but anything but themselves. . Ask those same men if they made an effort with their profiles, set their expectations correctly, remained polite and considerate, put effort into finding an approach that worked for them - and in the vast majority of cases, if they're honest their answer will also be no. . So you can see how the data gets skewed.
Co**** Posted June 16, 2023 Posted June 16, 2023 I like, intelligence, experience, and cheeky flirtatiousness. Someone who I know can give me ' more' mentally and physically, in delightful unexpected ways. Does that help men in general with their Profiles ?😄
lo**** Posted June 16, 2023 Posted June 16, 2023 1 hour ago, gemini_man said: I think what CK was saying is that data can be manipulated to present whatever you want it to present as in the old quote "There are three kinds of lies: lies, damned lies, and statistics" . And in this instance it's true - most of the evidence is anecdotal on both sides of the equation, so any data isn't exactly reliable. Ask a lot of men if they've had "success" on sites like this and the chances are they'll say no, and blame the lack of women, the stuck up women, other men and more, but anything but themselves. . Ask those same men if they made an effort with their profiles, set their expectations correctly, remained polite and considerate, put effort into finding an approach that worked for them - and in the vast majority of cases, if they're honest their answer will also be no. . So you can see how the data gets skewed. Exactly this. Statistics can be skewed to say anything you want them to, then pass it off to the gullible and they swallow it whole a kind of confirmation bias, which I see several here doing, but one of you constantly in any topic you post in. You think women aren't checking your profile and seeing the "poor me, women are stuck up, it's all their fault.. waaaah" posts you are constantly making? I can almost 99% guarantee it doesn't make a single woman's panties wet. I won't say 100% cause there ARE some twisted women who MIGHT go for that kind of constant *** if they were to try to give you a chance and spend time with you.
Sw**** Posted June 16, 2023 Posted June 16, 2023 I will say, even for being a niche site, they have a large database, and depending on your location, you probably won't find much to do outside of cyber or taking a long ass drive. The point of me, myself, and Irene getting on here was to find like-minded individuals, but everyone is different and has their minds set in their own ways (usually). I always check the last time they were on, because it's true, most people that appear have not been on the site in a long time. I've also actually messaged the team about putting on better filters so you can find people who view kink in the same way a bit easier, but just like in the real world, you have to realize that there's a person on the other end of the line. If you're going straight to play without discussion of consent, likes and dislikes, etc., then you are doing yourself a disservice. (Not saying you are, but it's happened to me). I've learned that the best way to approach a new play partner is with the respect you would pay to another human being you are trying to connect with. Whether you're in for a relationship or not, clear boundaries (as few or many as both partners can agree upon) are important. This being said, it could be you need to broaden your search (I'm including people across the pond, now, too, with as little luck as I'm having), but patience, while difficult to maintain, is key in any relationship-finding adventure. Happy hunting :)
De**** Posted June 16, 2023 Posted June 16, 2023 17 hours ago, LuvATV928 said: The vast majority of people do not respond to you- kind of rude if you ask me, a ‘no thanks’ is not too much to ask I don’t respond “no thanks” to men sending me messages. If they bothered to read my profile they would see that I have a Dom and am I only looking for a female to join is for nsa fun. If someone can’t be bothered to read my profile, I can’t be bothered to respond.
Deleted Member Posted June 16, 2023 Posted June 16, 2023 Sometimes not everything you’re into, is in your profile. But I totally understand your point
Deleted Member Posted June 17, 2023 Posted June 17, 2023 7 hours ago, Switch-It-Up99 said: I will say, even for being a niche site, they have a large database, and depending on your location, you probably won't find much to do outside of cyber or taking a long ass drive. The point of me, myself, and Irene getting on here was to find like-minded individuals, but everyone is different and has their minds set in their own ways (usually). I always check the last time they were on, because it's true, most people that appear have not been on the site in a long time. I've also actually messaged the team about putting on better filters so you can find people who view kink in the same way a bit easier, but just like in the real world, you have to realize that there's a person on the other end of the line. If you're going straight to play without discussion of consent, likes and dislikes, etc., then you are doing yourself a disservice. (Not saying you are, but it's happened to me). I've learned that the best way to approach a new play partner is with the respect you would pay to another human being you are trying to connect with. Whether you're in for a relationship or not, clear boundaries (as few or many as both partners can agree upon) are important. This being said, it could be you need to broaden your search (I'm including people across the pond, now, too, with as little luck as I'm having), but patience, while difficult to maintain, is key in any relationship-finding adventure. Happy hunting :) The “team” here caters to what the lady’s want. Don’t expect anything to drastically change for the better.
Th**** Posted June 17, 2023 Posted June 17, 2023 Yesterday at 06:17 PM, denver725 said: I don’t respond “no thanks” to men sending me messages. If they bothered to read my profile they would see that I have a Dom and am I only looking for a female to join is for nsa fun. If someone can’t be bothered to read my profile, I can’t be bothered to respond. Absolutely right. Reading a profile before massaging is basic Respect. And messaging a Owned/Collared sub is extremely Disrespectful, and violates the most basic protocol.
Deleted Member Posted June 18, 2023 Posted June 18, 2023 Hi! I would say to maybe change your status. “Bored and home alone” isnt quite a turn on. It gives me the impression you’re not fun when you more than likely are ❤️
lo**** Posted June 18, 2023 Posted June 18, 2023 30 minutes ago, baltimore567 said: Hi! I would say to maybe change your status. “Bored and home alone” isnt quite a turn on. It gives me the impression you’re not fun when you more than likely are ❤️ To me it raises several things, and none of them are a good impression to make. 1) I expect you to do all the work 2) I want a quick hook up, to "entertain me" 3) Your conversations will be... lacking to put it politely. Again, with me having to all the work to attempt to make it interesting. Which is a no for me.
Sw**** Posted June 18, 2023 Posted June 18, 2023 Yesterday at 12:10 AM, Jefe-410 said: The “team” here caters to what the lady’s want. Don’t expect anything to drastically change for the better. So, I think my suggestion would be beneficial to everyone, I should have put what exactly my suggestion was: add a search filter for "Doms looking for subs, switches looking for switches, subs looking for doms" etc. If you don't feel they're going to want to improve their chances of making matches by weeding out options that will definitely not match, I'm not sure what to tell you, but I feel like it would be one more algorithm very similar to "Men looking for women, women looking for women" etc. And I mean, that's not really going on on this app either, but if you feel strongly about it, why not say something? If enough people flood their inbox, surely something would have to change
4R**** Posted June 18, 2023 Posted June 18, 2023 16 hours ago, TheBigGentleman said: messaging a Owned/Collared sub is extremely Disrespectful, and violates the most basic protocol. And yet so many do it and then wonder why she puts them in their place.
4R**** Posted June 18, 2023 Posted June 18, 2023 1 hour ago, Switch-It-Up99 said: So, I think my suggestion would be beneficial to everyone, I should have put what exactly my suggestion was: add a search filter for "Doms looking for subs, switches looking for switches, subs looking for doms" etc. If you don't feel they're going to want to improve their chances of making matches by weeding out options that will definitely not match, I'm not sure what to tell you, but I feel like it would be one more algorithm very similar to "Men looking for women, women looking for women" etc. And I mean, that's not really going on on this app either, but if you feel strongly about it, why not say something? If enough people flood their inbox, surely something would have to change There’s a thread in the Tech forum “Let’s improve fetish together” - why not post your idea on there for the tech team to see? App users, you will need to log in to the website at Fetish.com and go to the forum that way. Once you've interacted on the forum on the website, it will show on the app under the "Me" icon.
Va**** Posted June 18, 2023 Posted June 18, 2023 Nothing - keep going. Put the best you forward and just be real. There appears to be layers out here and you just have to work your way through them and get yourself known. I suspect there is a whole slue of good people running invisible to avoid that type of bullshit. Apply Business 101 and realize most people give up just before they should have. Keep going.
st**** Posted June 19, 2023 Posted June 19, 2023 Dude read their profile find out what they dig and that's the way to start up a conversation. Ask him questions keep them talking keep them interested bro. If something doesn't work move on to the next and then the next I got chicks hit me up all the time bro. Cuz I'm totally honest and they can tell if you're bullshitting them or not. I don't play that bullshit drama game with them so they're hip to that real quick
st**** Posted June 19, 2023 Posted June 19, 2023 I'm a good guy and wanted to pick up on that s**t real quick
st**** Posted June 19, 2023 Posted June 19, 2023 Just be honest and be yourself bro don't give her no bulls**t line because if you want to be with her long term you don't want to have to explain a bunch of Lies. Treat her right give her compliments and don't bullshit her. Cuz if you're looking for a long-term woman you want to be yourself always
PurpleSarah Posted June 19, 2023 Posted June 19, 2023 Well put sterling-heights Some of us get so many messages that we had to learn to filter pretty quick so if it’s obvious u haven’t read the profile or don’t have respect , it’s not happening And ya , most of us see though the bulls**t
Do**** Posted June 19, 2023 Posted June 19, 2023 I need to add, having read your profile and worked out my view from that... You seem like one of the multitude who come here thinking that a dominant is just a guy who likes blowjobs. Most of the women here really aren't interested in that. Sorry, but my advice to you is to join Plenty of Fish and go that route. JusSayin.
Deleted Member Posted June 19, 2023 Posted June 19, 2023 The deeper the trust, the deeper the exploration. Honestly, only if the energy is reciprocated.
De**** Posted June 19, 2023 Posted June 19, 2023 Saturday at 10:04 PM, TheBigGentleman said: Absolutely right. Reading a profile before massaging is basic Respect. And messaging a Owned/Collared sub is extremely Disrespectful, and violates the most basic protocol. Thank you so much for saying this! I talk about this with my Dom and show him the messages. It’s not acceptable for a Dom to be hitting up a collared sub.
lo**** Posted June 21, 2023 Posted June 21, 2023 Honestly, I think he came and posted this a week ago, and... hasn't done anything but make this post to complain. No changes on his profile, no trying to understand what this place is actually about. None of it. Talk about low effort.
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