Confused

[Agneslim]

Sorry my English not very good and I use Google to find this place. I am really confused and I think I am crazy. I am having an affair with someone at my work place. Sometime we watch porn together and he always want me to watch porn with black man in it...

Last week he suggest he will ask black man over to have sex together. He say he will enjoy alot if black man fuck me. 

Is this normal? I thought he can only enjoy if he fuck me? Why he will enjoy if someone fucking me? And I don't know why but thinking about sex with black man make me abit excited. Sometime when I alone I touch myself I will think about the porn. I know it very shameful a few man fuck me but why I think that n touch myself? This is not normal I think. 

[Deleted Member]

It’s very normal! Ppl like to watch! Is it the size of the black man penis that he admires?

[uk****]

It doesn’t matter what is normal. It only matters what is legal and what you like.
If it’s illegal or you don’t want to do it then don’t.
If it’s legal and you want to do it and it doesn’t affect anyone else then enjoy the experience but make sure you are safe.

[2C****]

It is a fetish called cuckolding. More speciffic a cuckolding when a woman is "blacked". Many men getnoff on that becausecthey became sick in thechead because of BBC and cuckold porn. You are excited thinking about it because you are a woman, and youvare only excited subconciously because utvis a sexual novelty and there is a sense of guilt and disgust and danger involved. But yes, your rational mind is telling you its primitive so you should listen it. It will only degrade you as a person and you dont want that.

[Rjhey]

This is normal, don't be ashamed of your fantasies xx

[Bi****]

yeah it’s normal, it’s what turns you on so just run with it. you obviously like it.

[Se****]

Jesus Christ…some of these answers 😅

[Ji****]

Safe. Sane. Consensual. There's a difference between fantasy and reality. If you did get into this situation there's no pressure to follow it through. Only do what you're comfortable with.

[Bi****]

16 minutes ago, Seraphim35 said:

Jesus Christ…some of these answers 😅

right! i was literally scratching my head trying to read those responses. i’m definitely dumber after reading it.

[NowIAmTheMaster]

19 minutes ago, Seraphim35 said:

Jesus Christ…some of these answers 😅

Of all the places to find kink shaming eh!

[Du****]

8 minutes ago, NowIAmTheMaster said:

Of all the places to find kink shaming eh!

That particular individual has already blocked me, I see! I don’t know which is worse, his kink-shaming or his spelling 😆

[NowIAmTheMaster]

1 minute ago, DuchessFeuille said:

That particular individual has already blocked me, I see! I don’t know which is worse, his kink-shaming or his spelling 😆

I may have tripped and fallen in such a way that I screenshotted it all and reported then

[Du****]

To return to OP, though - please continue to enjoy your new pleasures, maybe on your own, safely, and have a wonderful time. You are allowed to be excited by it. I am concerned that your partner is trying to take advantage of you, and even if you agree to take part in a cuckold or other threesome arrangement, it does not mean he gets to choose who the other person is. You can make your own suggestion, or choose together; but if he doesn’t want to allow you to, I would be doubtful about whether it is your pleasure and safety that he is caring for.

[Agneslim]

3 hours ago, Bigdaddycool420 said:

right! i was literally scratching my head trying to read those responses. i’m definitely dumber after reading it.

Which response is dumb? I'm sorry to ask this question 

[Ji****]

Nothing you said was dumb, OP. You asked a question and looked for support. I think there's concern that one of the posters gave a very long and not really helpful response, but I wouldn't worry about it. Take what you need from the people giving you kind answers. You shouldn't be afraid or sorry to ask questions 

[Agneslim]

Thank you. I just keep thinking this feeling I am a pervert.

[Ji****]

Just now, Agneslim said:

Thank you. I just keep thinking this feeling I am a pervert.

I think the worst thing sometimes can be that you feel deviant or 'wrong' when you have these thoughts. You just need to remember that most people will have them. The only difference between you and the person standing next to you is you probably said something, and they didn't. 

Please don't punish yourself or feel bad. You're just being human. 

[Agneslim]

5 hours ago, N-TicingToya said:

It’s very normal! Ppl like to watch! Is it the size of the black man penis that he admires?

I don't know....but he tell me before the feeling is very nice if big cock fuck me 

[Se****]

You’re not a pervert. Don’t let small minded people define you. If you like it, and it makes you happy and it’s YOUR choice? Go for it :)

[Bo****]

If it sounds like something you’d like, you should go for it. I personally love that scenario. This site is for people like you who want to explore and have questions. Ignore negativity and come here for answers. Most of us are quite supportive and nobody is a “freak”.

[Deleted Member]

He doesn’t have any emotional attachment to you so watching someone else have sex can be attractive. Some other men are into cuckholding which could also be the case but i imagine he just has no emotional attachment so it’s like watching 3D porn.

[Agneslim]

Thank you to all your response. I appreciate it

[Rüüster]

Sunday at 10:05 AM, 2Crazy4uDOM said:

It is a fetish called cuckolding. More speciffic a cuckolding when a woman is "blacked". Many men getnoff on that becausecthey became sick in thechead because of BBC and cuckold porn. You are excited thinking about it because you are a woman, and youvare only excited subconciously because utvis a sexual novelty and there is a sense of guilt and disgust and danger involved. But yes, your rational mind is telling you its primitive so you should listen it. It will only degrade you as a person and you dont want that.

This.