ey**** Posted July 2, 2019 Posted July 2, 2019 I don't think it's a case of not saying what you want; but avoiding it being all about wants. Particularly in F/m the teaching is that the sub should put the Dominants needs/wants before their own wants. But, of course... A Dominant could have wants/needs that perfectly align with a subs fetishes, or if it's too far out then the sub isn't going to enjoy serving them. This is a reason of course to avoid any form of "I'll do anything" because there's no certainty interests will align. I think a problem many people sometimes portray is that they make it about their fetishes and not either the person, or themselves as a person. And it does get complex also in the sense that a lot if bias towards D/s - but a lot of people on the right of the slash aren't subs and that's also OK. (But, do avoid the "I'm not a sub just an ordinary guy with a fetish" as it implies subs aren't ordinary... or maybe they're extraordinary... who knows ) Personal ads are a landmine, for sure.
3S**** Posted July 2, 2019 Posted July 2, 2019 Compatibility is the key, firstly. It's highly unlikely anyone will be into fulfilling someone elses needs at the expense of their own. I even had to explain to my fella that i although i enjoy pegging him i do not get to cum from doing it and so he isn't getting pegged any more until i am satisfied. He now thinks i don't like pegging, i do but i just don't get any fulfilment from doing it and so need that from other things. I like that idea of asking a guy to donate *** to charity if he says he will do anything to serve me, gonna pinch that.
Vi**** Posted July 15, 2019 Posted July 15, 2019 I need to write an ad soon. So I’ll require tips lol. X
Deleted Member Posted July 15, 2019 Posted July 15, 2019 (edited) 1 hour ago, Vickie said: I need to write an ad soon. So I’ll require tips lol. X Edited July 15, 2019 by Deleted Member
Vi**** Posted July 15, 2019 Posted July 15, 2019 Just now, FabSeverus said: why would you if you are already taken? Now you’ll have to check my profile out lol. X
Deleted Member Posted July 15, 2019 Posted July 15, 2019 1 minute ago, Vickie said: Now you’ll have to check my profile out lol. X Just did that’s why I edited my post 😂😂🙈
Vi**** Posted July 15, 2019 Posted July 15, 2019 2 minutes ago, FabSeverus said: Just did that’s why I edited my post 😂😂🙈 🤣
Mi**** Posted July 16, 2019 Posted July 16, 2019 There is a whole world of difference between saying "I'm into spanking and anal play" or "I want you to put me over your knee and spank me whilst sticking 2 fingers up my bum" The first is general info on what kind of things you're into the second is treating someone as a fetish dispenser
Ar**** Posted July 22, 2019 Posted July 22, 2019 On 7/2/2019 at 7:44 PM, eyemblacksheep said: I actually know a Lady who any time someone PM'd her saying he'd do anything, she'd send him to donate *** to charity and very few actually would... which is a shame really, because donating to a charity would be a selfless act which also favours a cause she supports, without anyone able to accuse her of "personal gain" (as if that's necessarily a bad thing) I absolutely love this. It's perfect.
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