Awkward situations/First meeting

[Deleted Member]

Dominants and submissives, what awkward situations occurred during the first meeting with your partner, or in general during the very first BDSM session in your life? What advice could you give to people who are about to have their first time?

[Th****]

Enjoy it! You only get it once! 😈

[Te****]

I think some times the fact people meet on a kink based site assumptions are made on having sex right away or everything has to be sexual...it doesn't. Just relax and be yourself. Don't *** anything.

[TimtheMerciless]

Don't act. Play . It is playful energy not playing a part like an actor.

Keep expectations low in the begining you are putting your foot in the water to try things out. Don't expect your first BDSM experience to carry the weight of every kink fantasy you have ever had. Future experiences can start to delive that .Fine if it turns into an insane experience of a different wilder sexier you..but also fine if it's just a taste.

But above all : it is play energy. Play with it. If you are being tied up - play with the bonds - play with your feelings - play with how your dom speaks to you .

[Deleted Member]

As a sub, it was very hard for me to feel like I was allowed to express what I actually wanted. I ended up doing something that I told the domme was off-limits because she wouldn't take no for an answer. It's very important to stand up for yourself, even if it ruins the vibe a bit.

[Am****]

Try and enjoy it. Remember to but your safety first if it has to come to that. Be open minded. They may try something your shy on but try it as long as your not getting hurt or used. Saying that your morals are more important. If need be stick up for yourself and don’t be afraid to Call for help. I’m a very dominant man so I’m normally the one that want to push the boundaries. That said I very carful to lesson to her and if I even think she not liking it I ask or slow down

[Sa****]

Don’t hold back

[sw****]

First encounter we got very drunk as we were both nervous and I ended up hurting myself... Lol

Advice, honesty is the best policy! Clear Communication is key

[ki****]

👎👎👎👎👎

[Am****]

I also think a drink or two to loosen up is good as long as both people are ok with it. I was very drunk the first time. Almost to drunk 😂

[sh****]

The most frequent awkward situation is when the Lady is not really a Domme but just a wannabe pretending to be one for easy *** or just for fun.. spending rest of the time with her while being courteously quiet is a challenge.

[fl****]

It was amazing 🤩
I was so shy and didn’t know what it’s okay to do and what isn’t… so I decided to be quite and listen to every single world comes from the Goddess… she was unbelievable and so gentle Dom … she was so beautiful with blond hair and perfect body … she was so cute and soft at first… she allowed me to massage her feet for long while then she was satisfied and let me do full body massage … it was amazing i swear I didn’t have a perfect session like that in my whole life … the she started to be a cruel Dom … trample my D*** and slap my face hard then she sit on my face and I start licking until she squirt in my mouth… i didn’t miss a drop of it

[fl****]

And my advice… always be a good listener
and consecrate on the job … don’t do anything thing she didn’t tell you to do … she said lick, just lick don’t kiss, she said massage do it and don’t make any move without permission … when she happy, you will live in her heaven

[Mr****]

Let’s pretend for a minute, that bondage is a tiny subset of a relationship. It’s nice to meet somebody specifically to act out your kinks and fantasies, but it’s the same as meeting somebody in a bar and going home with them. If you’re not comfortable meeting somebody for the first time it’s because you’re really not comfortable in the context of that relationship.

[BrokenCollar]

I'm super awkward and shy with every first meeting, but that's mostly due to recovering from a lifetime of severe social phobia. I'm okay with people now, but if I'm going to meet someone they need to have an understanding of how I am as a human, and vice versa. I rely on the Dom to initiate the scene when we meet, and it tends to flow pretty well after. Chemistry determines how quickly I open up. My advice - take the time to know the person before meeting.

[de****]

Don't over think it , the whole point is to enjoy an experience that should close in climax so negative vibes by being vague and blunt on what not to do , should always be stated without a hesitation

[g-****]

I see a lot of interesting replies which Id like to add to... i think what is important is also not taking each other too seriously, communicate, and possibly have a laugh! Breaking the ice and feel at ease is the first step to full connection... Why getting frozen in stiff roles and behaviors?! Of course, the Dom sub dynamic has clear roles... But we are people first and we give our best when our partner feels on the same emotional page

[Deleted Member]

Your 1st experience should either be with someone who makes you feel safe or someone you don't even care about