Blackmail

[Deleted Member]

Hello, my mistress is blackmailing me after 1online session I didn’t want to continue because I didn’t like the way she do things. So she is blackmailing me with one nude video I was supposed to send her during session If I don’t send *** she will post it she says. What should I do? She doesn’t know my real name or address just my country and age. She says she will post the video online. I’m little worried (just because she doesn’t know anything about me but still worried)she will do it and with some unluck someone from my friends will find it. How to prevent it next time ? And what to do now ?

[Rb****]

That's pretty illegal. Go through the site support and such and see if they can help

[domtoesucker]

How easily would your friends find it?

[Deleted Member]

Contact police. Blackmail is a crime.

[ki****]

Try not to worry about it and next time do not show all of your face or send it on a platform where it gets deleted after being viewed

[tw****]

I’ve just messaged you hopefully to help

[ey****]

I appreciate that this is a bit daunting - but - she is bluffing

there is nowhere she can legally post or upload it because she doesn't have a signed release form and she probably knows it.

[Yalsi]

She is probably just a bad Mistress with her idea of being in charge! Call her bluff. Just ignore. Not sure if your country but revenge porn is illegal in some.

[Iamthedriver20]

Report the details of the person to the police. In several jurisdictions this is a crime. Psychologically, you just need to be prepared for it to be released online. I understand why it might be nerve wracking for you, but it's honestly not the worst thing that can happen in most people's lives. Maybe your friends will see it ....true friends will have a little joke about it then move on, fake friends will judge you by it, in which case they're not worth your time anyway. Unless you have broken a law there is no need for you to *** legal ramifications of this happening. For her to post images of you online without your consent is illegal in many places. Relax. Make a cup of tea. Get on with your life. Learn from this.

[littlemiss37]

is she of here? I'd so report to a Mod. I suggest when getting to know someone talk as friends. I rushed in the first time and regretted it. I'm now with a lovely caring man. I suggest joining the lobby to find out about this community because it isnt simple. alot to consider. for me I blocked guys that didn't want to get to know me and that called me sub or slave or dirty talked to me straight away. but that's just me. I'm in a lovely dynamic now xx

[Mr_KinkyPickles]

If anyone asks about it claim no knowledge and say it's an AI video with your face mapped! Seriously though it's a crime to blackmail someone. Inform the site and get her details!

[Mr-Brown]

She's bluffing. Trying it on..tell her to post it 🤷🏽‍♂️ bet she doesn't

[We****]

Oh man that sucks , the individual basically set you up with a loop back video. Meaning ghat wasn't real time it's a pre recorded video that you played along with. People do not entertain unless you confirm it's real time. Ask them to wave , place a picture current date something. This is a old scam that can wreck lives.

I had buddy get hooked on this cost him alot to keep these ass holes from sending it to friends, relatives, workplace ect... report the account asap.

[ge****]

A fairly common scam designed to play on your ***s - I'd ignore her - if she posts if, chances are it won't be found, but I suspect it won't get posted.
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Treat it as a harsh lesson learned about how much you reveal on-line and move on - which I know is easier said than done, but really is all you can do.
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If you ever find it has been posted you can appeal to the site owners and request it's removed anyway.
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The alternative is you pay the "fee" and then find you're continually asked for more.

[MisstressStorm]

My first sub was in this situation when we first met on-line. Helped him anon his account ( he had the same name on multiple sites inc Facebook) I found out that the scammers were in South Africa and I scared the bejesus outta them . These people are cowards , stick to your guns and give them nothing. They will soon move on. You can PM me if you need extra support- hang in there ⛈

[Deleted Member]

Call the police

[Je****]

If it were me, I'd say "go ahead, do your worst". Once they see you don't actually care, they give up. And so what everyone does nudes at some stage, if by chance someone seen it, they'd prob not care very much to be honest. Take her power away, and learn not to play with a random "mistress" on the first session. Always listen to your gut. Be safe.

[Missy45]

That's a crime

[Je****]

1 minute ago, Missy45 said:

That's a crime

And this!

[Lo****]

Report it too fetlife, let them know what she is doing. Also put a form out saying who it is on here so other can stay away.

[Je****]

2 minutes ago, Lord***eren said:

Report it too fetlife, let them know what she is doing. Also put a form out saying who it is on here so other can stay away.

Why would he report it to fetlife? We have no idea where it happened? Could have been on here?! Either way he just needs to block her, and where ever he met  her, report 1000x times til she's removed. With as much evidence as possible ofc.

[MisstressStorm]

Surest way to get a ‘Time Out’  by ‘outting’ anyone for anything. Thank the F@t overlords 🙄⛈

[Hal727]

1 hour ago, Jeneral_Whore said:

If it were me, I'd say "go ahead, do your worst". Once they see you don't actually care, they give up. And so what everyone does nudes at some stage, if by chance someone seen it, they'd prob not care very much to be honest. Take her power away, and learn not to play with a random "mistress" on the first session. Always listen to your gut. Be safe.

That is exactly right. I’ve done it several times, and get a real charge from stealing what they think is their power. Just tell them to “take your best shot Mf😄

[Ar****]

As people have already advised, I can tell you first-hand the best thing to do is call their bluff.

Several years ago, before I learned of such things as these scams and how easily phone numbers and other contact details links somebody to their online presence, I found myself in a not dissimilar situation. I'd just been through a horrific breakup, was at my lowest and most ***, and would have taken attention from pretty much anywhere in some futile effort to make myself feel even marginally better. So it was that I found myself on some extremely dubious websites, connecting random strangers with each other for chat or more. I didn't go there seeking anything sexual; somebody to talk to and maybe make a human connection with was all I hoped for, and sometimes it's easier to reach out to people you don't know than it is to reach out to those whom you do.

One young woman was particularly friendly towards me. She suggested we swap numbers so we could chat properly on WhatsApp. I was naïve so I went along with it. When she started getting flirty and wanted to videocall I didn't think anything of it other than "this is unexpected, but maybe it's what I need to feel better". To cut to the chase, she took a short recording of me. The daft thing is it was a terrible recording - she didn't even wait until I got hard and you could scarcely see anything for most of it as the camera was typically pointed at the top half of my body; if she had waited a little while she could have gotten quite a show 😂 - but I digress.

The call disconnected and almost immediately I started getting spammed with messages - at times in excess of 40 per minute - both on WhatsApp and Facebook. They sent me a copy of the video, screenshots of some of my FB contacts, shots of them ready to upload the clip various sites, along with demands for *** and a "countdown", then screenshots of messages ready to be sent to family containing links etc... it was extremely overwhelming and caused a huge amount of anxiety, not because I gave a hoot about anybody seeing my junk - and I certainly wasn't embarrassed to be taken advantage of by some blackmailing/scamming asshats - but because that was something that certain friends and family didn't need to be opening up their inboxes (even if in their spam folder) and getting shocked by.

So I got out in front of it and took away their control. Blocked the number on WhatsApp. Blocked the user messaging me on Facebook. Checked my social media settings and made them as secure as possible. Then I made a post on my FB about it for all to see. Told everyone what had happened that night and how. Explained the blackmail threats which had been made, that if I didn't pay up this cringingly limp (no pun intended) video was supposedly going to find its way into various inboxes. Gave everybody the heads-up so they could avoid it. And apologised to them on the offchance said clip did land with them.

I was expecting a backlash. I thought people would be shocked and ashamed of me, would give me grief. I underestimated my friends ❤

They came out in their droves to support me. A lot were angry at the scammers. Some found humour in it, winding me up that they were gutted they missed out on the video or such. Most moved me to tears with words of love and admiration for my post and the strength I'd shown. And of course, nobody ever received any video nor did I ever hear from my would-be blackmailers again. I do know this though; once they've got their teeth into you, it won't stop. You can't give them so much as a penny/cent.

That's my long-winded but empathetic reassurance. I hope it's helped.

To answer your questions - next time, don't send videos to somebody you haven't vetted/don't implicitly trust. Now, cut contact, block them on all platforms, do NOT engage. They have other targets (victims) and if you aren't responding it's not worth their time to chase you. But I would say to consider reporting them to the site where you met and/or the police though, if you feel confident enough. That choice has to be yours and yours alone though. Screenshot everything and keep it safe for a while, just in case.

[Deleted Member]

About 3 years ago a ‘Mistress’ on ALT blackmailed me, the only way is to say no to them. Otherwise they’ll just keep demanding more. Lots of horrible people out there unfortunately. 
I reported the blackmailers accounts and bitcoin address to the bank and let them handle it, and I think they closed those accounts. 
That account is still on ALT though, I’m sure the majority of those accounts are fake actually