Safewords

[Pl****]

I've always established 2 safe words. Essentially one is a yellow light 1 a red light. Usually it's something they dislike for the yellow and something they are allergic to as the red. This way each partner has a unique experience.

[Deleted Member]

I like the way you think

[Sc****]

It is better to have a safe word. Just imagine if you had a really bad cramp in your leg.

[Sc****]

Just now, ScottBritish said:

It is better to have a safe word. Just imagine if you had a really bad cramp in your leg.

Nothing remotely pleasurable.

[Zi****]

Mine has always been meatloaf. I will do anything for love but i wont do that.

[La****]

Always have a safe word

[Mi****]

I'm probably in the minority here but I think that sometimes having a no safety word session is fun. It's a whole different kind of challenge. For me it's complete and total submission. To give yourself to a Dom completely. Plus it helps gain confidence and trust in not just your Dom but in yourself. I've done it twice now, and am building up for a 3rd session. My wife and I are into ballbusting. She's actually the one that got me into it. I'm am Aries, so naturally I'm extremely competitive and am down for whatever. The more we got into ballbusting together, the more crazy she got with it. She wanted to go harder and harder or use different things until one day she said her biggest fantasy is to at a pair full *** no safety word, just have at em, fo way past the guy's limits and see what happens. We'll one night we got drunk and tried it. Once I was in those straps I was bent over a** up, knees tied spread wide open stuck, hands behind back, and could not move at all. After the first hit I thought I'd made a huge mistake. It was an uppercut from behind right up into both of em perfectly and the nerve *** went right up my gut but the bad part is that was one. They kept coming and coming and coming. No matter how much I thrashed I couldn't get out. She wouldn't stop, we agreed that she didn't have to if she wasn't satisfied. Each shot started to feel like a ******* blast to the brain. Then it was over. She was the most turned on I've ever seen her. Which then turned me on even more. Going through it sucked. But the build up, the memory of it, the challenge of it, and how much it turns me on that the crazier she gets to get on a pair the more she's turned on made it so we tried it a 2nd time and are currently building up for a 3rd. Some side notes are we've already had kids and don't want more so it's a little less risky for us if it goes wrong. The way I see it is hey, there's always testosterone shots available if she goes too hard and pops both of em beyond repairabiility one day.

[Go****]

I've switched from safe words to street light colors. If she's enjoying it and can handle more, she'll say green. If I keep pushing the limits towards where she thinks she might start disliking it altogether, she'll say yellow. If I suddenly reach a turn-off for her, she'll say red. The point is communication. Agree on what and when to communicate. I prefer communicating before, during, and after. Makes it feel so much more intimate 💗

[Ch****]

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[dl****]

I've never been in a situation where one was needed. I understand the need for them, but at least the way I do things, I can't really imagine being with someone who would be doing things to me that I don't like. Because we would have talked about my limits beforehand and if they were at all unsure about something they wanted to do, they would ask. If they don't, then wtf?! But that hasn't happened.

[Wh****]

Probably a good idea