Safewords

[Bdsmkink-1349]

Importent to have a safeword!

[Female_diogenes]

I never used them much but the reason is I've never done non con much. Regular "no" and "stop" works for me and the people I've been with because we aren't doing non con. The times those words are kinkified and sexy in a non con scene is the only times we ever create a safe word for a real no or stop. Which actually has only ever been one time that I remember

[Ba****]

  19 hours ago, Female_diogenes said:

I never used them much but the reason is I've never done non con much. Regular "no" and "stop" works for me and the people I've been with because we aren't doing non con. The times those words are kinkified and sexy in a non con scene is the only times we ever create a safe word for a real no or stop. Which actually has only ever been one time that I remember

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You understand those are safe words? You don’t need fancy, complicated catchphrases. A safe word is anything that immediately stops play.

[Ce****]

My master and I implicated a safe word about a year ago and I've never had to use it but I become nonverbal at random and can only say small words or phrases so we implicated a finger system 3 fingers is yes 2 is maybe and 1 is no. Although some people may not agree with having an actual word as a safe word there are other ways to stop play other than verbal communication.

[Ce****]

Just wanted to post this for my deaf/hard of hearing community

[ed****]

If Iam comfortable I don't use one I like the purity of no way out as a sub

[ve****]

Entirely depends how well you know them

[Qu****]

I can't not have a safe word to let me know how far to play.me ay sub are to different people.

[Qu****]

Queen c 53 , safe words are to be used as much as a car needs gas.,....

[Ja****]

Meatloaf because I would do anything for love but I won't do that

[DarkArts1066]

Things can go wrong. Period.

No matter how well you plan, the unexpected can happen, people can become unwell, for example, very quickly indeed… and sometimes when that happens, play needs to stop -immediately.

Tricky if there’s no safeword in place.

Saying “I’m sorry, I didn’t catch that” … as someone mumbles “I can’t catch my breath” -before they pass out, doesn’t help.

Dramatic ?
-maybe.
Possible ?
-definitely.

I understand that some people do disregard the use of safewords, because they ‘trust’ their Dom.
Trust is a very good thing.
A necessity I would say.
But what if the unexpected happens, and it’s not a trust issue, but a health issue..?

Now -I personally have never had a problem during a session, regarding a persons health.
But I know Dommes who have.

Safewords are not just there as a control mechanism when the intensity, or the *** gets a little too much.

And the absence of one doesn’t “prove” how much you trust the other person in the room, regardless of what you might be told.

They can save your life. Literally.

So -one word could save your -or someone else’s life.
Please give that some thought.

[Ki****]

Safe words are important, safe words should be one of the main foundations of a healthy D/s dynamic. In my humble opinion, if a person operates without a safeword that's a big red flag!