Punishment tips on D/s long distance relationship

[T4****]

Hey there!

I'm looking for some creative punishment ideas to keep things spicy whenevee I can't be together with my sub in person. Distance can be a real bummer sometimes.

I'd love to hear your suggestions and experiences! Have any of you been in a similar situations? What kind of punishments or rewards have worked for you? Feel free to share your wild and wicked ideas, so maybe I can learn a thing or two : )

[Th****]

I would always say to make the punishment fit the crime

[Ni****]

Self flagellation. Where is your choice!
Dildo smeared it Vicks, Tiger Balm, hot sauce, even wasabi!

[Ni****]

Even having to write lines like at school detention, orgasm denial.

[un****]

distance even if its a few miles can be difficult when schedules don’t line up so one of my favorite rewards was find a service you can use to screenshare like Discord, zoom, teams etc and then let them pick what TV show or movie they want to watch as for punishment i would recommend looking into Bluetooth controllable toys you can use to punish them it works surprisingly well although i would recommend facetime to make sure the toy is actually inside and not on a table somewhere

[Sweetestsadist]

Writing sentences while on the floor. Kneeling on a small amount of sand or rice. Nipple clamps timing. Clothespins zippers. Making them"screw a tree or a log in the woods.

[Th****]

Punishment should always fit the crime. And reward should always support the behavior. Self edging and denial, for leaving an online session too early. Allow her you watch a porn on your choice to get off of she's done well. *** for making you look bad/weak online. Worship her pussy and give give her multiple orgasms if she made you look good. You let me down 2 days ago, you can't go out with your friends tomorrow. You made me proud, then you can. Orgasm control is a big player when it comes to long distance subs. Just one guys opinion lol

[wh****]

I personally like the punishment where I don't let them cum for a long amount of time but still tease and play with them

[Do****]

Seen this happened with a few friends. Don’t use lack of contact as a punishment it will grow distance and your sub will lose interest.
 The phone controlled clit  vibrators are good for rewarding, edging, and teasing for real or time control.
If sadomasochism is in play, then a lash tally can also be useful for when they come back.

[T4****]

Thanks everyone for the great answers so far! I appreciate it a lot. I've learned quite a few things here, I have never thought about using hot sauces, or even bluetooth controllable devices. Also kneeling on some rice (perhaps also on frozen peas?), controlling when she goes out and when she can or cannot cum seem like fantastic ideas

[Go****]

Totally agree with punishment has to fit what has gone on.

But some of these punishments seem extreme and over controlling…

Dildo smeared it stuff that could cause harm or infection?!
Screw a tree or log… harm, ***, infection
Not allowing them to see their friends… 😳

I think punishments should be discussed and are personal.

One sub might find impact punishment ok and even a turn on, so not really a punishment.
Whilst another may not be a fan, but is happy for that use for punishment.

[CagedClitLvr]

Temp play. Have her use ice etc

[Th****]

  2 hours ago, whippingMaster said:

I personally like the punishment where I don't let them cum for a long amount of time but still tease and play with them

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Orgasm denial.... This guy knows 👆

[T4****]

  9 hours ago, GoodGirlBB said:

Totally agree with punishment has to fit what has gone on.

But some of these punishments seem extreme and over controlling…

Dildo smeared it stuff that could cause harm or infection?!
Screw a tree or log… harm, ***, infection
Not allowing them to see their friends… 😳

I think punishments should be discussed and are personal.

One sub might find impact punishment ok and even a turn on, so not really a punishment.
Whilst another may not be a fan, but is happy for that use for punishment.

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Of course! Consent is crucial, every possible punishment has to be tailored to one's partner. Every sub's tastes and tolerance levels are different, so having a discussion beforehand about what's acceptable and what's not is essential. That's why hard limits and safe words are immensely important

[St****]

Quite a few oft hear are unhealthy and illogical, never use hot sauce as a punishment on genitalia, taking control of social life, also jumping a tree… that’s causing harm. Lovense toys are good long distance fun and also punishments, orgasm denial with said toy/toys are a good tool for this, I’ve never tried rice or frozen items, but seem like good ideas, depending on their use, perhaps self lashing or spankings, nipple clamps or ones other parts of the body as well

[Py****]

First widow lived 10,000 miles away.....
Counting Rice
Lines
Self spanking
Cold shower
If she didn't drink her water she couldn't have coffee or energy drinks the next day
Pleasure/orgasm Denial
And all honesty pretty much any punishment can be done long distance it just might have to be done by them instead of you or you keep a tally system up so the next time you see each other the punishment happens then

[ch****]

Obedience app. You can set tasks and consequences with time limits. You can then accept or refuse completion.

[earthyangel]

To start with, when people ask about ideas to punishments, often they mean funishments. 
I personally don't believe in giving too often punishments as a method of education. if you are clear enough and you both agree, you don't need punishments. arriving to the point of true punishment is something that need self reflection. for the Dom and the sub. funishments on the other hand, are something that is FUN to both.

if a sub behaving bad in order to be punished, because it is exciting  or something he/she enjoyed, then giving that punishment is missing it target. because it will cause the sub to keep behaving bad. so other punishment need to be chosen.. yet it needs to be one of the things that are spoken in advance. to my opinion the sub need to know what will be the punishment and give consent to that in advance.

beside that.. funishments don't really need a reason. and in general people that enjoy different kind of kinky activities, all time its with consent, they can do it any time. you don't need to punish in order to spank for example.. if you enjoy.. do that.