Deleted Member Posted October 31, 2023 Posted October 31, 2023 Very new to all this, but in online sexting, I've enjoyed playing the dom. Having someone call me daddy. Spanking. Consensual choking and hairpulling. But I've never done most of that with anyone in the real world. How do I explore this in an ethical way?
si**** Posted October 31, 2023 Posted October 31, 2023 It’s an unspoken language once all the personal rules wants and desires are met
helpinghand_256 Posted October 31, 2023 Posted October 31, 2023 I suppose try and find a local munch? It's a good way to connect with other kinky people and talk about both kinky and vanilla things.
De**** Posted October 31, 2023 Posted October 31, 2023 You find someone into it and get their consent to do it.
TenderButterfly Posted November 1, 2023 Posted November 1, 2023 Have an open conversation with the person your with. Take the time to actually get to know them, ask questions and talk about consent.
Lsmart938 Posted November 1, 2023 Posted November 1, 2023 Do you mean how do you do it in an ethical way or how do you progress from sexting to actually meeting someone and doing it for real ? For me the ethics are not a question - Mutual consent and respect. The difficult part is finding someone within reach where there is mutual attraction and who wants to experiment the same as me or offer a newbie new experiences.
MasterDarcy1979 Posted November 1, 2023 Posted November 1, 2023 - Meet a submissive. The best way of doing that is putting yourself out there. - When you do meet a submissive be respectful! Don't automatically order her around of act like you've purchased her. - Be yourself. Don't try to be an archetypal "Dominant" e.g black, long flowing duster. A black goatee. And a perma-scowl. (You'll be laughed at) - Take the time to build a report. Establish hard limits. Chat about kinks and what's on the table and what isn't - Communication. Communication. Communication. - Honesty. Honesty. Honesty. - Take your time getting to know the submissive in question and allow her to get to know you. - Trust is king when it comes to a BSDM dynamic.
sa**** Posted November 1, 2023 Posted November 1, 2023 I'm a pp who's looking for a serious dom who can dominate me and We're searching for someone who can create the right atmosphere and knows what she is doing and having a great time with me
Mi**** Posted November 7, 2023 Posted November 7, 2023 Educate yourself. Go to a local munch, take a class, listen to podcasts, etc. Connect with other Dominants who seem to be operating in an ethical way. First and foremost, take your time to learn and don’t bite off more than you can chew. It’s tempting to want to do ALL THE THINGS right away, but it’s incredibly important to take the time to learn the risks of certain activities (physical and emotional) and then learn how to mitigate them, before diving in head first. I highly recommend reading “The New Topping Book” by Dossie Easton and her partner Janet. It’s an excellent primer for BDSM as is it’s counterpart, “The New Bottoming Book.”
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